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Derech, typically referring to Shabbos, Kashrus, TH, Davening etc. Someone could technically do all those and still use drugs recreationally. And not all OTD people use drugs, hence I say they're mutually exclusive.
Someone can technically use drugs and drive home safely, Does drugs cause car accidents? Derech is a road, Which requires being in control while you drive on that road and if you're not in control it can and will most likely cause the driver behind the wheel to make stupid mistakes 

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Someone can technically use drugs and drive home safely, Does drugs cause car accidents? Derech is a road, Which requires being in control while you drive on that road and if you're not in control it can and will most likely cause the driver behind the wheel to make stupid mistakes
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Many people would define "doing drugs" as a deviation from the "Derech". It is a deviation from ישובו של עולם, and regardless of שמירת התורה והמצוות could be considered OTD.

I definitely agree that not all OTD people use drugs (I would hope that most don't), but that doesn't make them "mutually exclusive" which in English means "cannot co-exist" AFAIK.
Addiction affects on the derech people just as much as off the derech people. They are not related.

Happens to be the case that the vast majority of on the derech people don't have exposure to drugs.... Until they break a leg, twist an ankle, and become narcotic addicts...

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Addiction affects on the derech people just as much as off the derech people. They are not related.

Happens to be the case that the vast majority of on the derech people don't have exposure to drugs.... Until they break a leg, twist an ankle, and become narcotic addicts...
Where did I mention addiction?

As far as I understand, "doing drugs" has one purpose - to get "high" and escape reality. It is counter to any imaginable "Derech".

I have suffered severe pain a couple of times, and was given opioid pain killers. And while I had a friend who is a pain management doctor who would prescribe for me almost anything I asked for, I never even finished the first prescription given. I took it once or twice in order to be able to sleep, after two nights without any, but as soon as I was able to cope without (b.h. My symptoms had subsided) I didn't touch the stuff. I don't enjoy being on a chemical "high".
I've been waiting over 5 years with bated breath for someone to say that!
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Where did I mention addiction?

As far as I understand, "doing drugs" has one purpose - to get "high" and escape reality. It is counter to any imaginable "Derech".

I have suffered severe pain a couple of times, and was given opioid pain killers. And while I had a friend who is a pain management doctor who would prescribe for me almost anything I asked for, I never even finished the first prescription given. I took it once or twice in order to be able to sleep, after two nights without any, but as soon as I was able to cope without (b.h. My symptoms had subsided) I didn't touch the stuff. I don't enjoy being on a chemical "high".

You say that doing drugs is to escape reality, and is therefore something an on the derech person would never do...

Plenty of frum ppl have very difficult "realities". It's incorrect to assume they would never tell try to "escape.

Second, good for you. It doesn't mean other on the D Jews are not vulnerable.

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You say that doing drugs is to escape reality, and is therefore something an on the derech person would never do...

I think we might be getting into semantics her, but doesn't one have to be on the Derech first, in order to go OFF of it?

Plenty of frum ppl have very difficult "realities". It's incorrect to assume they would never tell try to "escape.

Unfortunately, very true. However, there are ways to deal with it that don't involve a
chemical "high".

Please don't get me wrong. I am not judging anyone. I started off by telling a story to refute the claim that OTD has to do with עם הארצות. In telling some facts, drugs were mentioned, which led to the current discussion of whether drugs have anything to do with OTD. I expressed my opinion that drugs are by definition OTD - or maybe we can say that תחילת נפילה - ניסה. Escaping reality is (or could be) the beginning of going OTD.
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how have i never seen this thread???? ;D ;D ;D ;D

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how have i never seen this thread???? ;D ;D ;D ;D
How did you just run into this now?
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how have i never seen this thread???? ;D ;D ;D ;D
There are so so many gems hidden in JS. Trust me

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There are so so many gems hidden in JS. Trust me

But sometimes you need the jewelers loupe to see the sparkle  ;)
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How did you just run into this now?
I wanted to see what Mesh was up to, so i checked "its" previous posts

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How did you just run into this now?
I'm guessing since meshuganar came online he checked his recent posts.
ETA: naaaaiiiiled it
I'll tell you later

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I'm guessing since meshuganar came online he checked his recent posts.
ETA: naaaaiiiiled it
another gem
http://forums.dansdeals.com/index.php?topic=73334.100

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I'll tell you later