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Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« on: January 11, 2018, 12:18:10 PM »
In the past decade, the divorce rate in our community has risen several times over.

This is broadly broken down into 3 groups (in decreasing prevalence)
1- Newly weds. 20s. 0-2.7 years of marriage
2- People who have been married for decades. 50s-60s. children are now teens/out of house
3- Some group in between.

Why is this happening?
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #1 on: January 11, 2018, 12:23:33 PM »
In the past decade, the divorce rate in our community has risen several times over.

This is broadly broken down into 3 groups (in decreasing prevalence)
1- Newly weds. 20s. 0-2.7 years of marriage
2- People who have been married for decades. 50s-60s. children are now teens/out of house
3- Some group in between.

Why is this happening?

2.7 years of marriage seems kind of precise. What happens if you run the numbers with 2.8?

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #2 on: January 11, 2018, 12:30:29 PM »
Is there any age not covered by the 3 groups?

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #3 on: January 11, 2018, 12:36:10 PM »
In the past decade, the divorce rate in our community has risen several times over.
Source?
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #4 on: January 11, 2018, 12:54:59 PM »
In the past decade, the divorce rate in our community has risen several times over.

This is broadly broken down into 3 groups (in decreasing prevalence)
1- Newly weds. 20s. 0-2.7 years of marriage
2- People who have been married for decades. 50s-60s. children are now teens/out of house
3- Some group in between.

Why is this happening?
The same community where no one davens?

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #6 on: January 11, 2018, 12:56:47 PM »
Why is this happening?
Probably because nobody davens anymore.

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #7 on: January 11, 2018, 12:58:30 PM »
Maybe some are understanding you don't need to stay in an abusive relationship?
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #8 on: January 11, 2018, 12:59:13 PM »
Are all of you actually contesting this empirical observation, or just want a data set to back it up?
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #9 on: January 11, 2018, 12:59:38 PM »
Because women are nagging their husbands to daven?
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #10 on: January 11, 2018, 01:00:23 PM »
Are all of you actually contesting this empirical observation, or just want a data set to back it up?
I'd like to see data.
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #11 on: January 11, 2018, 01:01:04 PM »
Are all of you actually contesting this empirical observation, or just want a data set to back it up?
I am not contesting anything. If it isn't happening in your community now it soon will be.
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #12 on: January 11, 2018, 01:01:31 PM »
Unrealistic expectations.
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #13 on: January 11, 2018, 01:02:21 PM »
Source?
+1 There may be a lot of divorces but there's also much more marriages.

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #14 on: January 11, 2018, 01:02:52 PM »
I'd like to see data.

I'd like to see it too; unfortunately, there is no good data besides 1-2 studies by the OU.

Do you disagree with this empirically though? From my handful (and Ill try not to exaggerate, so Ill say 4), of conversations with divorce attorneys and Rabbanim, this seems to be true.
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