Thanks for your response.
Please try to give it additional thought, and elaborate what your label (frum yid) means to you. (That question is often asked on DDF).
For example, is davening 3 times a day (with/without minyan) an absolute requisite? Are there any specific mitzvos, or red lines that would define for you whether you would consider your own child to be “frum” as per your own self definition?
I'd put it like this: I know where I'm lacking, and instead of justifying those shortcomings, I strive for better. Some tend to say, "kosher is too hard" or "minyan is too hard" or anything in between. I try to realize that while I may not be holding at the point I want to be, I can accept it, and still strive to perfect myself. Do I make it to minyan 3 times a day? Not necessarily. Do I want to? Yes, and that's what I work towards. I try to apply that to all the religious struggles I have, instead of allowing myself to become comfortable with where I am now. I cannot say what exactly I want from my son, as he is young, but I want him to live a life where he is happy. Happy as a person, and more so as a religious Jew. I want my child to keep Shabbos, kosher, T"H. I want him to daven, and put on tfillin. Less than that, I would probably be disappointed with myself, as well as him. Who knows what the future will do to these thoughts though.