Maybe a longer dating process?
Maybe. But advocate a stronger, deeper dating process.
The first date should not be all 'fluff' without substance. Get into the basic issues right away. The dates are not to see if you can have a good time together, they're to see if you can marry each other.
Look for someone you can communicate with. And someone who's goals match yours.
Communication starts on the first date. Talk about Obamacare, the Yankees, or the benefits of Amazon Prime, for all I care. But give honest opinions without felling like you have to hold back your opinion because you're being judged.
Proceed over the dates to express what kind of life you want to lead, where you're headed in life. For example, is having a porsche important
and why. Is having a daily shiur important or helping with the family should take precedence. Are the kids
her job or
their job?