Husbands wanna move, on get remarried etc. No get is extreme and possibly immoral. ..
I was obviously not advocating doing it, just relating what people are doing. The threat isn't really no get ever it's more like well let's try being separated for 2 years first and then maybe we'll be able to work out the marriage... The husband knows she will agree to anything to just get out of the marriage so the get is used as a bargaining chip to throw out the kesubah, get her to give up a lot of the joint possessions, a no child support agreement, ridiculous visitation agreements etc. Of course the guy fully intends to and eventually gives the get, but not before extorting whatever he wants first.
I'm not ch"v saying I have a problem with how chazal set it up, I'm just saying that the reality is not as rosy as people think with the girl getting her kesubah.