Well said. My assumption initially was that ddf forums were like any other dealsite, where people come and discuss together about deals. I had no idea that you assume that every single activity that a ddf member does should benefit you.
I recently stopped doing much of my activity on the general deal sites as I liked the heimeshe environment here and I felt more connected. But I really dont think its nice to attack me when I had no intention of harming you or trying to steal your parnassah. by getting referred through a friend of mine I was helping him and I have nothing against helping you but there should be no reason that if someone gets referrred by you and then they refer me.
Couple thoughts:
-Every other deal site does not allow members to post their own referral links. Every post benefits the owner of each site, as it should. There are huge expenses of running a site.
-I'm not going to make a penny on 99.9% of the posts here. On other deal forums they will make money on every post. The main point of this forum isn't to post deals, it's just a small section of the forum. The bulk of it is about discussing various strategies and tips, shmoozing, and getting free help with trip planning and vacations. Although I do some of that as a paid option for my own business, I can't do it for most people and have no problem with people getting help here for free.
I don't charge people to post things for sale (this isn't ebay) or other transactions.
I don't think there's any other deal forum where the owner is there helping people all day long as a public service.
All I ask in return is that if you open a card or buy something from Amazon, etc. that you use the DansDeals link. I don't think that's too much to ask. If people are going to use this medium to contact other members through systems like PM, to siphon off referrals from the site for their own profit then this forum will cease to exist. Your choice.