People aren't really speaking the same language here. Someone who makes pesach at home with each kid contributing hand made arts and crafts and divrei torah to the table, helping to bake the pesach dishes, portion out the matzah and Maror, taking turns serving & bringing washing water for zeidy etc., setting up props for the makos and acting them out, marching around the house to bitzeis yisroel, spending most of yom tov (and chol hamoed if you focus on the right venues) focused on the kids without too many distractions etc. there is no way they can appreciate the hotel scene. I've had guests come to my home who've been to some pretty decent pesach programs with their parents when they were growing up and they wistfully remark that they never knew what they were missing by not having experienced pesach at home.
On the other hand, those who go to the programs can't fathom how one can enjoy yom tov if they would have to non stop cook clean up and serve and be stuck in the house with nothing exciting for the kids to really do and hours of work with no down time for the parents for themselves.
Then again there are families who stay home and have a stressful time of it and really would do better in a hotel environment.
Bottom line is there is nothing like an at home pesach experience when it is done right, but not everyone is able to pull it off in the right atmosphere and a program is actually not a bad option for them.....
Lastly there are the programs where to goal is non stop hedonism, gorging on culinary dishes and dubious entertainment options for eight days straight while the kids are whisked out of sight so mom and dad can give their undevided attention to their pleasure trip while acknowledging that it happens to be pesach with a token Seder and a lecture or two where they are passive participants. I have nothing but pity( was going to say contempt but really pity is much more appropriate)for these folks because their choice of venue is just a symptom of the fact that they have no idea of the significance of the unbelievable holiday they are turning their backs on, a lifestyle where success is measured in terms of things and status, rather than relationships and personal growth, or both.
Growing up, we always made pesach at home. It was a lot of work, we all chipped in cooking and cleaning and my mother organized the kashering of the kitchen. Once pesach started, it was - not fun - but enjoyable for all the personal efforts put in.
Chol hamoed meals were usually tuna burgers on matzah meal buns or matzah pizza or matzah cereal (you can see where this is going, lol).
Since I got married, i've been joining my in-laws at a hotel program and it's fun and enjoyable in a different way. Gourmet meals, fresh omelettes at every meal, non stop food/tea room, well it gets to be a bit much. And the kids are very young, so late meals really get out of hand for them.
My personal preference would be to maker the sedarim at home and then spend chol hamoed and the last days with family/in laws outside the neighborhood.