I used to say "When I will be an astronaut.."
I am not prepared to be an astronaut.Seriously?
You're born not knowing anything. Growing up is a chance to learn what a home is supposed to be like. If someone's parents didn't teach them (properly), it's incumbent upon them (as adults) to learn this on their own.
This Forum is entitled: Just Schmooze:kick back and talk about anything. It also happens to be populated by frum Jews who share many of my experiences. Why don't you ask this in the thread about interesting videos or funny jokes?
C'mon, are you comparing the responsibility of raising children to funny videos or jokes?
You have a responsibility, albeit a hard one. There are online forums devoted to parenting, even frum ones. There are also frum professionals and Rabbis who can guide you in this area. If you take your responsibility seriously you should pursue those venues.
While you can shmooze (or vent) about anything here, this isn't the ideal ("what better a place") to discuss this.
Several people suggested that I am merely venting or bitter even as I have reiterated that my concern is largely for the children being raised my incompetent parents. most parents will be ok, it's their children who will suffer. The events of the first few years of life are what defines a person's entire life.
I don't buy any of that. I don't mean to get too personal but the first 3-4 years of my life have been more traumatic than most people and while it took a lot of hard work for me as an adult, I am a happy functional person today BH. You're entitled to vent, but if people need help, they need to get it, and not just be aware of "the truth".
Exactly. So let's all stop pretending that it is always cushy and bubbling over with pride and nachas. That just makes them feel worse.
Life isn't all cushy etc. but instead of looking at your half-empty cup, deal with your issues so that you have a balanced view. People need to appreciate the good life
and beware of the difficulties. Since you agreed the two aren't mutually exclusive, people who are happy-go-lucky can continue doing so (if it works for them), and the rest of us have things to beware of in a balanced way.