Meshugener it's time for you to come out of the closet.
Dear friends,
I am writing to tell you about a matter that is essentially personal but will result in some changes at work, shul and family gatherings. You may have noticed some changes in my appearance over the last several months, and it is now time to explain what is going on.
I am transgender. I have had transgender feelings since I was 6 or 7, but I kept those feelings hidden and did my best to make my life work with my male body. Alas, my discomfort only increased, and 3 years ago I entered psychotherapy to explore my options.
I was diagnosed with Gender Identity Disorder, the treatment for which includes psychotherapy, hormonal treatments and/or various surgeries. Accordingly, I have been working with my therapist and doctors, following the Standards of Care that set out treatment guidelines for this condition.
Outside of public, I have been living as a woman for the past 16 months. I have had my name legally changed to Meshugenah. My drivers license shows me as female.
My very close friends have been very supportive in making arrangements to change my name and gender. I’m very pleased to be able to take this step toward personal wholeness while maintaining the friendship of you all that I have found so rewarding.
This change will not affect my ability to be a contributive member of this forum. In fact, I may be less distracted when I no longer have two personas to juggle. Also, as I enjoy being myself more, you may find me more enjoyable to be around.
Some of you may not understand the life changes I’m undertaking. I would be happy to answer your questions or direct you to additional information. Some of you may not approve of what I’m doing; that is your right. However, I expect that everyone will treat me with basic human respect.
Beginning on December 27, I ask that you call me by my new name and use female pronouns (she, her, etc.) when referring to me. I know this will take a little time to get used to, and I expect that you’ll make mistakes at first. All I ask is that you try to get it right.
Respectfully,
Meshugenah
(formerly Meshugener)