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Re: Lakewood Luxury Lifestyles
Absolutely pathetic. The voice is just trying to stir up an interesting discussion so that they can sell more of the gashmius. If it was up to me i would not allow the Voice into my house....
It's not up to you??

/Preach  :P

January 27, 2017, 10:43:29 AM
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February 10, 2017, 11:59:16 AM
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Re: "כאלה" .
April 19, 2017, 03:01:17 PM
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Re: "כאלה"
My like ability does not seem to work now.. so I will have to manually like your post with verbal talk.. post LIKED. ;) lol
Nu, use the like button! >:(
-Freddie

April 20, 2017, 10:00:52 AM
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Re: Pesach Program in Greece Cancelled Just Now!
I know firsthand of a program that hired a "bochur" who is (לעת עתה) openly not frum.
Years ago, I worked for a caterer (not Pesach) who hired a Mashgiach who wasn't frum (he did wear a yarmulka which on the job). I can't tell you how many times the Hispanic manager corrected him on matters of Kashrus.

Most notably:
Manager to waiter - "Please start putting the bottles of wine on the tables."
Mashgiach to manager: "Oh no, don't tell her that. I need to do that."
Manager to Mashgiach - "That's okay, these bottles are mevushal!"

April 23, 2017, 11:11:11 AM
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Re: Looking for discounted Starbucks GCs
Still $5 X 19 Starbucks GCs
Rate: @75% PayPal

Thanks, and please PM if you interested.
Just had a smooth and quick transaction with Onika84.

April 27, 2017, 11:13:02 PM
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Re: Master Thread of Pet Peeves The bathroom door locks that you have to push in that little button, and it's sometimes nearly impossible to determine whether or not it's locked!
April 30, 2017, 01:09:09 AM
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Re: Random Posts
Anybody have a spare oxygen mask ? My uber driver apparently doesn't use deodorant. Gag!!
I was on a bus in Israel a few years back on Motzai Shabbos, and to put it gently, the inside of the bus smelled like a barn. My friend, who had his overnight bag with him, pulled out a bottle of cologne and sprayed it into the AC vent on the bus - the rest of the ride smelled fantastic.

April 30, 2017, 09:52:54 PM
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Re: Keeping Up With The Kushners
Let’s dispense with the notion that Barack Obama doesn’t know what he’s doing. He knows exactly what he’s doing.
This is exactly what went through my mind too. 😂😂

May 26, 2017, 12:19:31 PM
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Re: Percentage Of Kids Texting On Shabbos
that's rabbi mechanics classic line
...followed up by, "So you're not an atheist, you're an ignoramus!"

June 26, 2017, 09:42:33 PM
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Re: Dan's Inbox: Where Fun Happens!
And the weird part is no WhatsApp notifications.
Nah, those are the ones he reads!

July 02, 2017, 10:50:31 AM
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Re: Please (Make and) Post your Kiddush Hashem-Honesty Story I went through a cash toll in NY a few years back, and got too much change back, maybe $20 or $30 extra, don't remember exactly. At the next toll, I gave it to the person in the tollbooth, and explained to her why. She said that this was the second time that month that "one of you guys" (while looking at my yarmulke) did something like this.
July 06, 2017, 08:53:14 PM
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Re: united $75 work around is finally dead
September 10, 2017, 11:36:45 PM
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Re: Mayim Bialik NY Times Op-Ed Backlash
What do you mean?

Again, if you accept what she says as true and she does not participate in the objectification of women, then you must accept that objectification of women leads to sexual assault. Meaning, the woman had a part in getting herself assaulted. Ergo victim shaming. I dont say I agree with her detractors. there is much to be taken form her op-ed. But still how is it not victim shaming if a woman can, even minutely, be blamed for her own assault? 

Thats linear logic. I cannot fathom why this simple step is so hard to grasp. If "A" then "B". If no "A" then no "B".

Only skimmed your comments and I havent read through the whole thread, but that's a complete logical fallacy. Google inverse error, or denying the antecedent.

October 16, 2017, 05:37:05 PM
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Re: Interesting Articles...
https://www.aol.com/article/news/2017/11/22/father-of-teen-killed-in-yeshiva-dorm-shares-mysterious-events-leading-up-to-1986-murder/23285972/
I heard vague details of this story years ago, this article made me do a bit more research. Crazy story. I remember hearing years back that it was well-known to have been a mob hit, but looking at details of the story, there are so many possibilities... Hyd.

November 26, 2017, 01:05:05 PM
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Re: Interesting Articles...
That is definitely the impression the writer was trying to give.
Based on that alone? That's silly.

November 26, 2017, 06:38:29 PM
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Re: Random Posts
Amazon tracking now shows a photo of the package  by my door. Is this new?
No, Amazon Logistics has had this option for some time. They sometimes take a picture if it's left unattended. You can opt out of it if you want.

November 27, 2017, 12:00:35 AM
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Re: Random Posts
Shipped with AMZL US

This

No, Amazon Logistics has had this option for some time. They sometimes take a picture if it's left unattended. You can opt out of it if you want.

November 27, 2017, 12:39:25 AM
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Re: Prison
Do you have any professional insight into this? If there are any mental health professionals around, I would like to hear them chime in on this?

I find it hard to accept that it's only about not harming one's self. If you were talking about a single person, that might be true. But I would imagine that a person with a family takes into consideration the harm caused to the family, which is by far greater (even from a secular perspective) than the self harm in employing a "permanent solution to a temporary problem".

You are thinking rationally, a person contemplating suicide is not. Stop imputing proper logical thinking into a person who is thinking about killing themselves to stop physical pain resulting from depression.
In my (mental health) experience, I have come across patients who fit into both of these categories. For example, I treated a young man a few months ago who was ready to drive his car into a cement wall at 80mph off the Garden State Parkway, but told me that he is refraining because it would hurt his parents too much. To preempt the inevitable "it must not have been that bad...", this is a VERY distressed individual in extreme pain.

On the other hand, I'm seeing a girl now who is in a similar boat with constant significant suicidal ideation, but has specifically said to me that despite her close relationship with her sister and her boyfriend, she would kill herself if she chose to, and the thought of them wouldn't affect her were she to get to that point.

Lots to say here, but put briefly, what it comes down to is that close positive relationships in an individual's life can be a very significant deterrent, and many studies have found associations between perceived social support and reduced suicidal thoughts and behavior. However, once a person gets past all that and is at the point where they are "ready" to end it all, it is certainly common for them not to care much about those around them when they are at the level of pain that they are. In other words, the logic makes sense that one's family can work as a deterrent, and it DOES work that way, but ultimately, there are times where a person is beyond that point.

December 04, 2017, 11:40:05 PM
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Re: Did anyone in Chicago or Detroit hear the booms?
LOL
What's so funny?

January 16, 2018, 10:38:36 PM
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Re: I Owe Chase $25k from CC
I would head over to creditboards.com and get some excellent NON-JUDGEMENTAL advice.
Funny you should say this. I think it's excellent advice to check out CB, but I was noticing how nice and generally non-judgemental the responses have been on this thread.

February 04, 2018, 05:22:55 PM
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Re: Random questions.
Is there any way to choose which Gmail account shows up as the default when going to mail.google.com? I can't seem to find the setting, and I always have to click through to the one I use most often.
This is what Google says:

“In many cases, your default account is the one you signed in with first. On mobile devices, your default account can vary depending on your device’s operating system and the apps you use.”

So, the solution to setting a default account:

Go to any Google site sign-in page in a non-incognito window.

Log out of all your Google accounts. Select your profile picture on the top-right and then click Sign out from the menu.

Go to gmail.com and sign in with the account you want to set as the default account. Remember, the first account you log in to becomes the default always.

After you have signed in to your default account, you can sign in to any other Google account and switch between them.

April 09, 2018, 10:46:37 PM
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Re: Artscroll Digital Kodoshim and Taharos for free download. Today only.
Agudah dinner
Feel free to add additional info if you'd like, but no need to cross out accurate information. See attached...

June 04, 2018, 12:31:43 AM
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Re: Build-A-Bear Pay Your Age Day 7/12/18
https://www.buildabear.com/count-your-candles.html?

They seem to offer your age price if it's your birthMONTH.
FTFY.

August 10, 2018, 06:46:35 PM
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Re: US Politics/2016 Election Pick Your Poison Master Thread
No one does. My point is to attack her because she doesn't remember things is ignorance.
The same ignorance that says she lied about fear of flying because she does fly. DW has a fear of flying but flies all over the country.
The issue I have with her (well, not with her per se, but with this situation) has nothing to do with her memory. The way I see it, she may be telling the truth, she may not be telling the truth, but if we are unable to corroborate her story and prove Judge Kavanaugh's guilt, then he remains innocent until proven guilty.

October 04, 2018, 11:27:52 PM
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Re: New Coin Deal
FTFY
Agreed. It really hurt when I sent my coin to the company I committed to for a commision a fraction of what I could make now (and I would be lying if I said I didn't briefly consider not sending it...), but a deal's a deal - my word is worth far more than a few hundred dollars - and for the record, I would assume that the value of the reputation of the company is the same to its owner - they would honor their commitment if the value dropped, too.

October 07, 2018, 02:04:53 PM
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Re: HOT! KidKraft Large Play Kitchen with Lights and Sounds-$39.90 shipped Delivered!
November 27, 2018, 11:53:31 AM
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
Thanks, so as long as it's only quoting buddhist ideas outside of spirituality/religion it should be ok? i also hope to get an halachic answer as opposed to what clinicians do
If you are not comfortable with it, I recommend you reach out to your Rav for specific guidance (rather than getting it online...), but I have spoken with a number of rabbanim who are comfortable with it. To be clear, there are Buddhists origins of mindfulness, but the idea of mindfulness at this point is completely secularized and is used in therapy as non-judgemental present moment awareness and intention, something not dissimilar from kavana in some ways. The training in psychology and mindfulness that I have received was devoid of religion and Buddhism, and in fact, the guy who popularized mindfulness in the US, Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, was driven by the idea that he wanted to remove all religious and spiritual aspects from it. In his words, he says that saying that mindfulness meditation is Buddhist is like saying gravity is English because it was identified by Sir Isaac Newton. Again, I can see why this might potentially raise concern, so if you aren't comfortable with it, ask your LOR.

January 04, 2019, 12:31:03 PM
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Re: Jokes Master Thread

Punctuation saves lives.

April 08, 2019, 10:31:25 AM
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
I think the slap and discipline is a pavlovic type of shock therapy.

It's why a human being in general will pull back from fire and not touch it.. or the time my heater wasn't working and I put my finger in it and got such a zap etc

The problem is, it can have different reactions to different humans, my cat was never disciplined but instead became afraid of me.

My friend who tried throwing his kid in pool to teach him to swim, kid was scared of the pool for years.
I haven't been following this thread, but I just want to point out that people pulling their hands away from fire has nothing to do with Pavlov (who is responsible for the "discovery" of classical conditioning), but rather B. F. Skinner and John Watson, who are associated with the development of operant conditioning - the idea that when specific consequences are associated with a particular voluntary action, it makes a person more or less likely to engage in that action again, depending on whether the consequence is pleasant or distressing (i.e., a reward or a punishment). Happy to explain further if you have any specific questions.

I'm also not at all sure what you are referring to as shock therapy, nor what its association is with Pavlov.

Source: I'm a college professor who teaches developmental psychology courses and behaviorism.

November 17, 2019, 07:37:15 PM
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
Since you offered.  :)
Is inflicting pain the proper way to stop a child from doing dangerous things (running across the street/touching a hot pot).
Short answer - not really.  There will always be contextual variables that come into play that can potentially impact any given behavioral outcome (and there are also individual differences in the ways we respond to different forms of consequences), but as a general rule, no - research indicates that punishment isn't generally all that effective in minimizing unwanted behavior unless there are several specific criteria met.

It should be added that corporal punishment, while legal, has been found to be the best predictor of aggression in children, and has been linked to lower levels of moral internalization and decreased mental health, including adolescent depression and social anxiety. I know this goes beyond your question, but is worth mentioning for those who go beyond the slap on the wrist when running in the street...

Back to the idea of punishment (or in the case of your question, "inflicting pain"), lab studies conducted on rats, monkeys, and humans demonstrate that it is almost impossible for punishment to successfully reduce an undesired behavior in real life. The way for punishment to actually reduce an undesired behavior is when it is:
-highly intense
-consistently applied
-no delay between the behavior and the punishment
-there are no competing rewards for the same behavior

So if you are extremely consistent, punish the child immediately and harshly, eliminate any social rewards for performing the behavior, then you may be ultimately successful at getting a child to stop performing the behavior. However, if if applied in this way, it is not an argument for inflicting pain, as a harsh punishment can be applied without doing so. Also, most people don't apply punishments in the way detailed above.



November 17, 2019, 08:05:30 PM
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
Short answer - not really.  There will always be contextual variables that come into play that can potentially impact any given behavioral outcome (and there are also individual differences in the ways we respond to different forms of consequences), but as a general rule, no - research indicates that punishment isn't generally all that effective in minimizing unwanted behavior unless there are several specific criteria met.

It should be added that corporal punishment, while legal, has been found to be the best predictor of aggression in children, and has been linked to lower levels of moral internalization and decreased mental health, including adolescent depression and social anxiety. I know this goes beyond your question, but is worth mentioning for those who go beyond the slap on the wrist when running in the street...

Back to the idea of punishment (or in the case of your question, "inflicting pain"), lab studies conducted on rats, monkeys, and humans demonstrate that it is almost impossible for punishment to successfully reduce an undesired behavior in real life. The way for punishment to actually reduce an undesired behavior is when it is:
-highly intense
-consistently applied
-no delay between the behavior and the punishment
-there are no competing rewards for the same behavior

So if you are extremely consistent, punish the child immediately and harshly, eliminate any social rewards for performing the behavior, then you may be ultimately successful at getting a child to stop performing the behavior. However, if if applied in this way, it is not an argument for inflicting pain, as a harsh punishment can be applied without doing so. Also, most people don't apply punishments in the way detailed above.
All this having been said, there are developmental psychologists on both sides of this argument. But the general consensus in the field is that positive reinforcement (rewarding positive behavior, making it more likely that it will occur again) is FAR more effective than punishment of any kind, especially negative punishment (which inflicting pain is).

November 17, 2019, 08:08:57 PM
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Re: POLL - daily Gemora learning: Daf Yomi vs. a different pace vs. no set pace?
I've been on and off the Daf Yomi train. I've found the discipline productive, but also quite demanding, and very difficult to fill (catch up on) inevitable gaps.

I'm planning to start at the beginning again but debating whether a slower more forgiving pace that allows for some review and some missed days might be a more successful approach for now. (Perhaps in the spirit of Rabbi Frand's Siyum Hashas message "don't let perfection be the enemy of the good").
Check out Oraysa - it's an amud (not daf) per day on Monday - Friday (with chazzering the previous day's amud if you choose), and Shabbos and Sunday are for chazzara (and a great way to catch up on the week's amudim in the event you miss).

January 05, 2020, 09:17:33 AM
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Re: Buying used children's books
Anyone have any good tips? I'm currently going to ebay and trying to get for less than $1/book when buying anywhere from 20-50 books, but wondering if there are better options out there?

Kids are in the 7-9 age range, if that makes a difference.
  I was very happy with

https://www.thebookbundler.com/collections/childrens-books-box-bundle

April 26, 2020, 11:30:38 AM
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Re: RIP/BDE Master Thread - COVID-19 related Can this be nominated for the saddest thread in DDF history?  :'(
April 26, 2020, 11:42:35 AM
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Re: RIP/BDE Master Thread - COVID-19 related
How about saddest?
Agreed, wrong word choice - edited.

April 26, 2020, 11:56:44 AM
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Re: Skills/hobbies that you have picked up/restarted
What are some skills or hobbies that you have taken up or have restarted because of extra time you now have or because of new necessity?
Spending a lot more time on DDF these days :)

May 04, 2020, 02:30:36 PM
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Re: SBA PPP and EIDL Small Business Loans (some money is forgivable) For an independent contractor (1099 and submitted a Schedule C), am I correct in assuming that for the 75% requirement of covering payroll, there will be no need to "prove" payroll (there is no payroll...), as you are simply replacing the funds of your lost 1099 income (as calculated by the 2019 Schedule C)?
May 04, 2020, 02:58:52 PM
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Re: SBA PPP and EIDL Small Business Loans (some money is forgivable) Can an independent contractor who is approved for PPP and will use the finds to cover their paycheck go out and take a new salaried job during those 8 weeks? Any reason someone couldn't be "paid" for their lost 1099 work while simultaneously accepting a new paid position (entirely separate from their 1099 work that they are in fact missing out on...)?
May 05, 2020, 01:22:22 AM
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Re: Unemployment Help
Any updates on how to claim Unemployment for 1099 worker in NJ?

Says Claim Status: Filed
        Weekly Benefit Rate: $0
In this case, you are supposed to do nothing until they email you (they claim that will next by next week).

May 08, 2020, 07:50:00 PM
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Re: Unemployment Help
This was mentioned upthread, in NJ you can enter any SSN that matches with the time slot (for example, if it's time for 5000-6000 you enter 000005000), that gets you through the "pay wall" and then you enter your real SSN to recertify.
Don't think this still works.

May 10, 2020, 10:32:41 AM
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Re: Happy Mothers Day!!!
We all just got done watching a movie with Mom. Unfortunately we could not invite Grandma over today.
I drove 45 min with my wife and 2 kids to my mom's house (she didn't know we were coming), called her to come out to the driveway for a minute, and we wished her happy mother's day in person from the car. Sure beats any good wishes via Zoom...

May 10, 2020, 09:48:48 PM
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Re: as useless as...
him
...this joke.

June 09, 2020, 09:57:35 PM
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Re: PBA cards
Got pulled over today by NY state police for doing 50 in a 35 mile zone. Gave them a PBA card, and after being grilled about how I know the guy and who he is, they let me off.
Nice - I haven't gotten pulled over too many times since I started carrying a PBA card about two years ago, but the 2-3 times I did, they let me off each time.

June 14, 2020, 09:16:13 PM
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Re: Life Hacks, Post Your Favorites!
I open a banana like a monkey.. I dont break off the top.. I use 4 fingers to pinch the bottom open
Username checks out.

June 26, 2020, 01:57:33 AM
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Re: New Coin Deal Got one of each. Chrome on desktop, plenty of captchas and refreshing...
November 05, 2020, 01:07:38 PM
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Re: US Mint Coins For Sale (Individuals only)
How are people here paying/getting paid for the gold? Other than cash for coin in-person exchange, what are people doing?

If you object to this post being in this topic i’ll move it.
In-person exchange, PayPal on the spot.

November 16, 2020, 08:21:45 PM
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Re: BobTeam Edelman / 2022 Olympics thread Yup, definitely following the journey and appreciating the updates. Keep em coming!
November 19, 2020, 11:23:17 AM
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Re: This is getting serious... a somber thread about COVID-19
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Thank you for sharing the link, donated.

February 02, 2021, 12:07:02 AM
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Re: SBA PPP and EIDL Small Business Loans (some money is forgivable)
Docusign came the next day.
Funded by Cross River today.

February 04, 2021, 08:28:45 AM
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