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Re: Uber Pool Flat Fares in NYC for $2.99, or Uber X for $5.99 Interesting how they're targeting different people with different options even within one area. I was offered the option to pay $10 upfront, for $5 off 20 rides for the next month
May 04, 2017, 04:17:18 PM
Re: Will pay someone to write 2 essays for me in 24 hours Touro has caused the shidduch crisis; before the stupidity wrought by this place, most people had no problem meeting in Brooklyn College.
January 03, 2018, 06:30:10 PM
Re: Do you Daven?
However, I understand that we are both sacrificing (time and money, etc.) so much to belong to a Jewish community. So this confuses me. If he told me he's done with this 'fake frumness' and wants us to move to a non-jewish community- I might even be ok with it.

The starting point is that men that dont go to minyan, dont view going to minyan as "fake frumness" at all. They just dont do it. There's also the fact that male education (unfortunately or not), does not put nearly as much an emphasis on it as female education.

January 10, 2018, 06:10:56 PM
Re: Do you Daven?
I think there are a few categories of people.
There are those that truly don't believe, there are those that deep down believe but are not willing to push themselves, there are those that truly believe and try, but may slip up occasionally.
This is true for all mitzvos, including davening.
If you went through your entire life doing things by rote and not by having a meaningful relationship with God, then the second it gets rough (or you find that there are enough people like you) you will slack off. And maybe not show up/daven at all.
The difference between our father's generation and our generation was that in some sense, lines were drawn more clearly. To deviate would put you in a different group.

I think your three categories are a gross oversimplification. Ill also just emphasize that male higher education does not place much emphasis on davening in general.

There happens to be another issue that you are touching upon, that our education system in general doesnt emphasize "connection" which arguably is at the essence of Yadus. So you have the biggest masmidim in yeshiva, who often feel empty and have no connection to God

January 10, 2018, 06:21:16 PM
Re: Do you Daven?
And adding my own cycnicism- isn't there some Big Brother keeping an eye out to see who shows up to shul or not?

I really dont think men and woman in their 20s view religion the same way. We definitely dont think about Big Brother. That would require Yiras Shemayim. Which we don't have. We are working on it. We hope to have a greater sense of the world around us as we gain responsibility. We may even gain yiras shemayim. When we get that, well make it to davening.

January 10, 2018, 08:42:09 PM
Re: Do you Daven?
I think there is a fourth aspect, which is desperation. And that sometimes trumps all the points you mentioned.

Theres no atheists in the foxhole...but that's not exactly what your aiming for.

I think over time men will ultimately gravitate towards it because of the cognitive dissonance they have with adolescent raising. Take Shifra Meir...he's obviously going through some conflict now that he senses he is rubbing off on his kid. He also genuinely doesn't see classical tefilla as an approach for him (that resonates with many people). That conflict is going to resolve over time; if not with the first kid, then with the second. And then his daughter will be a Wayfe.

The thing is that often sons will attune if their dad is "culturally praying" on their behalf without the avodah. So those sons becomes Wayfe's Husbands. Sometimes, fathers will take the opportunity to actually work on their davening instead of doing it for their kids; and then they break the cycle.

January 10, 2018, 10:11:43 PM
Re: Do you Daven?

4) General litvishe yeshivahs stress learning  a lot more than davening (and the importance and necessity it is for our everyday lives). While the older generation understands and would greatly inconvenience themselves to daven and make minyan, many from the younger generation (while understanding that it is the right thing) don't feel the same level of importance for it, as they would attach to learning or other things.

Its more than daveining. My generation is quickly going from American Jews to Jewish Americans. And I know thats the struggle every generation. But the balabatush community is devolving to being halachikly stringent modern orthodox, if we dont address "cultural Judaism"

January 10, 2018, 11:16:01 PM
Re: Do you Daven? I think the thing the OP struggled with, and @mgarfin mentioned, is that in an attempt by the institution to delineate what it takes to be a part of the community, we've created a very outward focus on what it means to be 'frum'.  As a whole, religion for many people has become more about what it takes to be included/excluded as opposed to what it takes to be an oveid hashem. And I dont mean that they're malicious or fakers or trying to deceive anyone. That is literally how some millennials perceive what being religious means in the 21st century.

Our chinuch system is also very built on 'protecting the moised', as opposed to actually building people with connection to God, and there seems little interest in structurally changing in from their part.

January 11, 2018, 12:03:13 PM
Tefilot for people with COVID-19
March 19, 2020, 07:25:54 PM
Re: Maimonidies I don't understand why the people of Boro Park think they're special and entitled to have visitors in the hospital right now, to the extent that theyre fighting with the administration and even sneaking in right now against guidance. I went through the Top 10 Hospitals on USNews, and NOT A SINGLE ONE is allowing visitors right now.

These guidelines, while difficult for patients and families, are in place for everyones protection. By going and sneaking in, as alleged above, you are risking cross contaminating and infecting non-covid patients that are currently in the hospital, hospital employees, and your community when you leave.

March 31, 2020, 11:37:28 AM
Re: Maimonidies
When a loved one is left alone like a Name only person you do everything you can for that person, u wear a mask, gloves & do ur best you can & isolate when hopefully that person comes home.  Not sure how viable it is but I would & I know Avromie7 would too.

And this is exactly why these rules are in place. Because a bunch of people that are selfish, and dont understand how serious the risk of spread in a hospital setting is, are willing to infect the staff that they expect to take care of their loved one so that they can 'advocate' for their own patient.

March 31, 2020, 03:44:08 PM
Re: Maimonidies
Read, I said I would self isolate after the patient gets released.

Would you be willing to stay in that room for the entire hospital stay. If not, what would you do to prevent disease spread the second you leave that room?

March 31, 2020, 03:44:51 PM
Re: Maimonidies
I guess you didn't see what he did. Can you be everywhere all the time? (BTW we are an old time BP family with very strong ties to Maimonides for over 50 years.)

No one cares about your anonymous name dropping on DDF. The reality is that these stories are anecdotal and anonymous. Theres also a presumption here that healthcare workers are acting with malice or doing malpractice, while the majority are just overhwelmed and trying to do theyre best

March 31, 2020, 03:46:31 PM
Re: Maimonidies
Unfortunately, too many people have had stories. The board have gotten it over their heads the last few days. No one said that they are all bad, either.

Stories of people dieing in a pandemic, in a hospital that is understaffed already and has ED staff that have been tested positive and are calling out, does not mean that healthcare workers are doing something wrong. Which is literally what people keep insinuating on this thread.

The whole idea of having someone there to observe implies that there is an ability to do something different accross the entire covid units in this situation, which is doubtful. A bunch of arm chair observers in this forum have no real understanding of whats going on on the front lines.

March 31, 2020, 03:51:33 PM
Re: Maimonidies
You are the one making assumptions. I am telling facts. Is it normal for patients to be on the floor for any reason? How do you know I have no idea how hospitals work? Put cameras in every room. Watch them all the time, then tell me everything's ok.

No, it is not normal for patients to be on the floor in a normal situation. Yes, this is not a normal situation, this is triage. I am in a hospital (not in NY). You do not need cameras in every room; healthcare workers overall are trying to do their job with integrity and to the best of their abilities under unprecedented circumstances.

Healthcare is also not done in silos. There are a dozen + people involved in patient care. You have to believe that everyone is making the decision to go to work, put themselves and their families at risk, and then turn a blind eye to malpractice going on in front of them. I have a family member that is sleeping separately from their family so they can take care of your family member. Stop claiming you have any insight to whats going on on the front line which is literally a warzone.

You are not telling facts - you are telling anecdotal reports and hearsay.

March 31, 2020, 04:06:11 PM
Re: Maimonidies
I never said put people all over.

You do not know what is going on in every unit.

You cant argue both these things. How can you ensure that malpractice is not happening "in every unit" without putting observers in every unit. The reality is that maimo is not unique in the fact that its working in unprecedented situations, and theres no reason to believe that there is malpractice going on there. If you dont trust the front line workers there to do their best, dont entrust them with your care in the first place.

March 31, 2020, 05:16:59 PM
Re: Maimonidies
The Governor took care of the malpractice issue. Almost now way to prove gross negligence in this environment.

Cuomo did not give a Carte blanche pass for every doctor to practice malpractice now. If a surgeon operating on a COVID patient leaves a scalpel in the patient, or operates on the wrong limb, he will still be liable. What it does do is allow doctors to stop performing defensive medicine, ordering unnecessary CT scans and imaging on every patient, so that they can focus on providing the best possible care they can. It allows them to provide substandard care to what they would in a non pandemic, so they can focus on the greatest possible good for the most amount of people.

There is a running belief in this thread (all to common in general when jews from boro park enter medical settings) that they are getting a standard of care thats worse than Asians are getting in Elmhurst hospital, Hispanics are getting in Jacobi, or Caribbeans are getting in Brookdale. This is undoubtedly false, because everyone is working under unprecedented conditions everywhere and doing the best they can. Yet you dont hear these communities complaining and starting rumors the same way you hear people in this community doing.

Lastly, gross negligence is a obtuse term in triage care. If a hospital genuinely has 1 ventilator, and its currently keeping a 70 yo with stage 4 pancreatic cancer alive, but a 35 year old father of 4 needs it, is it gross negligence to remove the 70 yo from the ventilator. If Maimo's census is absolutely full, and they dont have a single open bed, but 911 doesnt allow them to go on bypass and ems drops off 20 patients in an hour and those patients have to sit on the floor until other patients can get discharged, is that negligence. Alot of the comments here are from people that really dont understand how bad it is on the front line.

March 31, 2020, 07:08:59 PM
Re: When do you think International travel will resume?
For all the sarcastic people out there, seems like Quarantine hit you hard.
I've invested alot in arranging things to be able to take off and backpack around the world with my family.
To clarify, we are backpacking for a few months with a fluid itinerary , which basically means country hopping at our convenience,  so if one had to bet on it , which countries/continent would make the most sense to start with and when?
Im venturing to say July.

You will not be able to backpack 'for a few months straight' until Fall of 2021, at the earliest. This is especially true if you plan on going through developed countries with significant infrastructure; as its unlikely that 'touristy' things will stay open for a few consecutive months at a time until then.

If youre absolutely set on going, your best bet would be to find yourself into a more third world backpacking itinerary in South America, Africa, or Central Asia (even southeast asia wouldnt work). You'd have to plan on staying within that region for the entire 'few months' and you would have to be willing to get stuck in case someone on your trip needed emergent care.

Thats my .02

April 20, 2020, 01:59:51 PM
Re: Calculating The Actual Fatality Rate
When is the last time you lost your sense of smell and taste from Flu? Etc etc. Symptoms were quite different than the flu.

And counting all my family members and 50 friends, way more than 50% had it. I was very conservative when I said 50%.

This is definitely some availability bias. A more systematic way of doing this (though also not scientifically sound), would be to go through your shul membership list and see if you can count 50%. You cant count 50, assume you have 100 in the population, and come up with a prevalence.

Or at the very least - take a random sample of people in your shul list, and see who had it within that sample. In stats, you can only determine prevalence when starting with a cohort not with a case.

April 23, 2020, 02:53:50 PM
Who got the vaccine? Me - Pfizer/BioNTech
December 16, 2020, 10:32:28 PM
Re: Will you get the COVID vaccine? This is just anecdotal, but I know a lot of people in the hospital I'm in seemed hesitant about getting the vaccine when it was hypothetical. Then when they actually offered it to us, almost everyone I know jumped at the chance, to the extant that people were renting cars to go to satellite hospitals over an hour away that still had supply.

I think when people are actually offered an opportunity to take it, its going to be hard to actually turn that down.

December 19, 2020, 06:22:32 PM
Re: Date of second dose

Per CDC:
Second doses administered within a grace period of ≤4 days from the recommended date for the second dose are considered valid; however, doses administered earlier do not need to be repeated. The second dose should be administered as close to the recommended interval as possible. However, there is no maximum interval between the first and second dose for either vaccine.

January 05, 2021, 11:08:31 AM
Re: NYC-TLV-BKK I did this in 2015 on United, not sure if their routing rules changed since then.

My personal routing was EWR-TLV(1 week stopover)-IST-bkk-CNX (destination) and then Return HAN-BKK-TYO-JFK (all for 80k). Mixture of United, Turkish, Thai, and ANA

March 10, 2021, 08:38:08 PM
Re: Getting checked baggage on overnight stop
Which option is 100% safe that I will be able to get my checked luggage in LHR ?

Option (1
6 hr 20 min layover

Option 2)
19 hr 25 min overnight layover

Well clearly option 1, as I donít know of any airport pair in the world that does surface transfers of luggage. Thereís also no direct flight between LHR-RIX so even if you missed the connecting flight they couldnít automatically reroute you without an airport change.

April 13, 2021, 10:12:58 PM
Re: Tragedy In Meron! Having been down that corridor on Lag Beomar several times, this was unfortunately inevitable. I remember that there is such a mass of people trying to squeeze through the tiny room with the matzeivah, that it just felt like a massive negative pressure vacuum sucked me in one side and spit me out the other, without any control of where my body would actually go. At times it feels like youre so wedged between people and your feet are actually off the ground.
April 30, 2021, 01:48:16 PM