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Re: Cooking in a hotel room Or to quote Dan from another thread:

AKA, don't 💩 where you eat.

June 28, 2018, 12:57:54 AM
Re: How many sheitals does your wife have?
Im not talking about a chinese wig off alibaba. Im talking about a known lower end wig

I’m sure there are guy on DDF who will swear by Brooks Brothers shirts and Ecco shoes and there are others who buy the Stafford shirts when they go on sale@ $9.99 and department store shoes, get complimented on their appearance, and don’t know what all the fuss is about. There’s no right or wrong answer...

July 15, 2018, 10:21:45 AM
Re: New Hampshire Master Thread
Anyone know of a nice good full day (or good few hours at least) activity somewhere like half way between Bethlehem NH and lakewood NJ? Looking to break up the drive on way back home, and wondering where to go. Have kids age ranging 2-11. Any ideas appreciated!

Fun spot arcade in Laconia NH. Old Sturbridge village in MA (they are having their major army re-enactment today). Sonny’s place in Somers, CT. Cabellas in East Hartford CT is worth an hour or two between the shooting gallery, the animal displays etc.Waterbury has a pizza shop with decent food and prices (don’t expect to find more than the basic pizza and fries) that will break up the trip a bit. East Rock Park in New Haven CT has picnic areas with grills and a fantastic overlook- great place for a bbq.

August 05, 2018, 10:21:02 AM
Re: Interesting Articles...
Which one of the 13 principles does it contradict?

Anyone who is familiar with Ethical Veganism knows that at the root of the movement is the rejection of the “commodity status” of animals- the idea that animals can be owned or used for human purposes. Vegans consider man,too, to be an animal, and as one species in the animal kingdom, man has no right to "exploit other animals" for his own needs. This idea that man is just another animal is not a philosophy that just happened to take root amongst the masses. It is promoted in the highest echelons of Academia, and at the most prestigious universities in the country. And there is a payoff for those preaching this philosophy; the corollary of this idea is that man has no true bechirah, no free will; man is just another animal, albeit a smarter animal, yet guided by the same instincts that predetermine his choices in life, just like all animals.Therefore there is no moral imperative for one to work on himself, no absolute good and evil, just the predetermined path in life that mans animal instincts lead him along. 
Yet the Torah tells us that man is not just another animal. Man alone has bechira, and the entire universe was created for man to exercise his bechira, his free will. Animals were created to provide food, clothing, and labor for man, the purpose of creation. And the Torah did not limit the use of animals to Avrohom, Yitchak, and Yaakov, and our other holy forefathers, although they certainly were able to elevate the animal to a lofty purpose, in their use of animals to further their serving Hashem on their exalted level. The Torah obligates every simple Jew to wear leather Tefillin on his arm, wool tzitzis on his body, place a mezuzah on his door, and read from a Torah made from animal hide. this is diametrically opposed to the adherents to the ethical veganism  philosophy, who place man and beast on equal footing; the movement is antithetical to the core principles of the Torah.

August 05, 2018, 04:14:30 PM
Re: Interesting Articles...
Sorry, you’re grasping at straws.

How did that article contradict:

11. I believe with complete faith that the Creator, blessed be His name, rewards those who observe His commandments, and punishes those who transgress His commandments.

My statement was “The guiding philosophy of the ethical vegan movement is unabashed kefira”

Don’t take my work for it. Read up on “ethical Veganism” of which the article was extolling the virtues, and the two men were self described as being part of that worldwide community and belief system. Read up on their literature, and on the nuances of the various strains of veganism and how they view the commodity status of animals, and the underpinnings of their philosophy, and then you can came back here and tell me that their belief system is in consonance with #11.

To make it easier for you let me quote from Wikipedia:

Ethical veganism is based on opposition to speciesism, the assignment of value to individuals on the basis of species membership alone”

And regarding speciesism:

“Anti-speciesists argue that the extension of moral membership to all humanity, regardless of individual properties such as intelligence, while denying it to nonhumans, also regardless of individual properties, is internally inconsistent. According to the argument from marginal cases, if infants, the senile, the comatose, and the cognitively disabled (marginal-case human beings) have a certain moral status, then nonhuman animals must be awarded that status too, since there is no morally relevant ability that the marginal-case humans have that nonhumans lack.

American legal scholar Steven M. Wise argues that speciesism is a bias as arbitrary as any other. He cites the philosopher R.G. Frey (1941–2012), a leading animal rights critic, who wrote in 1983 that, if forced to choose between abandoning experiments on animals and allowing experiments on "marginal-case" humans, he would choose the latter, "not because I begin a monster and end up choosing the monstrous, but because I cannot think of anything at all compelling that cedes all human life of any quality greater value than animal life of any quality"

Richard Dawkins, the evolutionary biologist, argued against speciesism in The Blind Watchmaker(1986), The Great Ape Project (1993), and The God Delusion (2006), elucidating the connection with evolutionary theory. He compares former racist attitudes and assumptions to their present-day speciesist counterparts. In the chapter "The one true tree of life" in The Blind Watchmaker, he argues that it is not only zoological taxonomy that is saved from awkward ambiguity by the extinction of intermediate forms, but also human ethics and law. Dawkins argues that what he calls the "discontinuous mind" is ubiquitous, dividing the world into units that reflect nothing but our use of language, and animals into discontinuous species:

The director of a zoo is entitled to "put down" a chimpanzee that is surplus to requirements, while any suggestion that he might "put down" a redundant keeper or ticket-seller would be greeted with howls of incredulous outrage. The chimpanzee is the property of the zoo. Humans are nowadays not supposed to be anybody's property, yet the rationale for discriminating against chimpanzees is seldom spelled out, and I doubt if there is a defensible rationale at all. Such is the breathtaking speciesism of our Christian-inspired attitudes, the abortion of a single human zygote (most of them are destined to be spontaneously aborted anyway) can arouse more moral solicitude and righteous indignation than the vivisection of any number of intelligent adult chimpanzees! ... The only reason we can be comfortable with such a double standard is that the intermediates between humans and chimps are all dead“

(Tangentially, it is interesting to note that many Nazi leaders were animal rights advocates. In fact, in his private diaries, Nazi Propaganda Minister Joseph Goebbels described Hitler as a vegetarian whose hatred of the Jewish and Christian religions in part stemmed from the ethical distinction these faiths drew between the value of humans and the value of "other animals".)

Do you think that one can consider man to be just another animal among the others, have no superiority in any way, and as an animal having no right to treat any other animal as his property, yet still believe in #11?

We are not talking about someone who eats vegetarian or vegan for health reasons, or has a hang up with meat or blood etc.- we are talking about the “ethical veganism” the article is specifically describing, although it does not use that term. Please educate yourself regarding the movement .

August 06, 2018, 12:41:25 AM
Re: Interesting Articles...
How is a hashkafa that equates serving meat with serving traifos "essentially harmless"

And that is just an example from the part of the article they put online which is the only part I read.

The larger issue is the fact that they (and many other organizations) hide behind nameless "Rabbinic boards". If you aren't willing to stand behind your "supervision" it is completely meaningless.

Like “approved by noted mechanchos”. Meaningless.

August 09, 2018, 08:12:25 PM
Re: 5 Towns/Rockaway Master Thread Wow $125 can get you a lot of steak that comes out pretty awesome on my Weber or cast iron pan. That ambiance and service better be something special..
September 04, 2018, 08:33:45 PM
Re: Car Insurance Master Thread Added my 18 year old son to our auto policy and the premium jumped from 1400 a year to 3300 for 2 cars with collision coverage.. We have perfect driving records. Is this typical or should we quote around to try to get cheaper?
October 05, 2018, 12:43:20 PM
Re: Re: PSA: Don't swipe recklessly for others
My thoughts exactly.

One thing i can tell you is that I have seen numerous people misunderstand sugyos and issue wrong piskei halacha due to their lack of understanding of math and science. For many years people came to me in bais eliyahu and its successors to explain mathematical aspects of sugyos.

The poskim I interact with that are best able to accurately pasken  based on the scientific and mathematical metzius are actually not the ones that have a more extensive secular background; they are sometimes too confident in their understanding of the metzius. Nor is it those who prefer to be sheltered and aren’t driven to get to the bottom of the science or math involved. It is those that have a relatively limited science or math background but have a quick grasp, know how to search out the experts in the field and how to ask the question (and how to listen), and have a relentless drive to get to the bottom of the metzius, picking up any concepts they need to help them get there. I know a couple of such poskim in Lakewood and am constantly impressed with how they are able to get to the crux of the issue to come to the correct psak.

Rav Shlomo Zalman seems to have had a similar mehalech from what I understand.

March 05, 2019, 09:12:39 AM
Re: PSA: Don't swipe recklessly for others
I believe Mesilah gives a course in a couple of the Lakewood mesivtas on personal finance and budgeting. Perhaps they should cover investing (and what is not considered an investment) as well.

I would also include a course in the history of vaccine development and rudimentary statistics (p-values etc.)
so they are educated enough to avoid the other major scam in the jewish world- anti-vaxx literature and “studies”. ( In the interest of totally taking this thread OT 😀)

March 05, 2019, 10:15:36 AM
Re: Private Shechita - what should I order?
As long as he skips פרק לב and the parts that speak about יחוד ית׳ I think CBC will be OK with that.

But I think he learns פרק ל״ז in
Likutei Maharan about the שוחט being מעלה the נפש that is in the דם הבהמה בגלגול. Does that work for you?

March 06, 2019, 10:29:19 PM
Re: Lakewood NJ Master Thread Just in: due to the current hysteria the Vaad urges everyone to shut down WhatsApp for two days...
March 07, 2019, 08:47:31 AM
Re: PSA: Don't swipe recklessly for others It’s relevant because as a she, she will actually collaborate with others and get the job done, as opposed to ego getting in the way of a product that reflects the collective wisdom of everyone, so it’s worth putting the effort into helping her get it done. Said by a he, from experience....
March 08, 2019, 01:05:52 PM
Re: Bingo Wholesale Club Lakewood

Terribly misleading. If you shop only the loss leaders at EG and GG of course you will come out ahead. You will beat NPGS by a wide margin as well. But if you shop for regular items on a normal shopping list bingo will easily be 15-30% lower on average, and they will beat NPGS as well. Of course prices have to go up eventually; they have got to be selling for close to cost price right now. But to make that kind of comparison right now is rediculous...

March 13, 2019, 09:16:53 AM
Re: Lakewood Forest Fire As soon as it was cancelled they should have had a Kumzitz at the Watermark, the bar in Asbury Park where a Lakewood tzedaka event was recently held instead....
April 15, 2019, 01:25:50 PM
Re: Lakewood Forest Fire
Ahhh so it was based on assuming they would approve without actually discussing it first. Also known as lack of planning.

Um, weren’t Rav Yehuda Jacobs and other well known figures scheduled to be speaking there?

April 15, 2019, 01:29:07 PM
Re: Lakewood Forest Fire
I have no idea.

It was rhetorical. Rabbi Jacobs and Rabbi Slomivitz were on board. If that is not good enough perhaps we should convene the Sanhedrin before each event.

One thing is certain: Don’t ask marital advice from anyone who isn’t married long enough to be holding by marrying off children and don’t weigh in on something that involves bochurim unless you are old and wise enough to realize that issues are multi dimensional and complex, and what makes sense in theory doesn’t always address the reality on the ground.

I visited Westgate almost 20 years ago and as I look around now I wonder if perhaps there aren’t some parents of teens and beyond thinking to themselves “ perhaps we should have completed those basketball courts that were never finished due to those who opposed them....

April 15, 2019, 02:46:28 PM
Re: Bingo Wholesale Club Lakewood When yudel writes cholov treif I know not to give what he writes a second glance.
June 03, 2019, 05:46:39 PM
Re: Mediterranean diet

Apparently part of the secret to longevity is skimpy swimwear. Thanks for sharing.  Click at your own risk.

June 12, 2019, 12:29:12 AM
Re: Lakewood NJ Master Thread
Local Pest Control company for ant infestation?

Putting out a bunch of Terro Liquid ant traps and swapping them out for fresh ones every few days may do the job but it takes time. The ants stream to them by the dozen and bring poison back to the rest of the nest. I think it took a couple of weeks to take care of a heavy ant infestation if I remember correctly.

June 30, 2019, 12:41:19 AM
Re: BM Magazine Articles
The only words I can take from you, not knowing who you are or what your background is, are those that reflect on you.

When you come out with a blanket statement saying
on an interview with someone who is probably more than twice your age, has been involved in Chinuch for more than 5 decades and has hundreds of talmidim that look up to him, quote his Rebbe who is probably the most influential Torah Yid (with that influence being in spreading and increasing Torah and Mitzvos amongst Yidden, and Tikun Oilam amongst non-Jews - as recently as within the last 2 weeks at the UN general assembly) to walk on this earth in the last 70 years, without even bothering to offer your own arguments (are you trying to argue that Tzimtzum is כפשוטו?), gets me to wonder where you might have learned such.

The above quote is clearly not referring to Tzimtzum dilo kipshshuto the way ein sof is extant in you, me, and my pet rabbit. It is clearly referring to the Rebbe specifically in a unique way, as is evident from the continuation of the article.

90% of those reading this probably don’t know the meaning of ein sof, tzimtzum kipshuto, and dilo kipshuto, but if they asked their mashpi’im, Rabbanim, and manhigim, they would be told that the contention of the article-  “ it is not possible to have a generation without a living Rebbe in a physical body“ and therefore the Rebbe is still necessarily here in a physical body- is big time kefira every bit as much a believing in the Eucharist- that the bread and wine is actually yoshkes body....

July 07, 2019, 03:55:17 PM
Re: BM Magazine Articles
Fascinating that you are saying that the views expressed in the mag are problematic to most chabadskers etc. So apparently even within chabad, some of you know that there are others who's beliefs are so far beyond the 13 ikrim.. it's just a matter of degree... (And all of it is "too deep to articulate in plain English").

Now if you think about it, I'm sure you can better understand why the rest of Torah Judaism sees virtually all of the chabbad belief system as contradictory to the ikrim.

It’s easy to smugly look down on others but the  Litvaks have their own problems; last I checked צפיה לישוע is also one of the י״ג עיקרים yet few of them take moshiach seriously. Sure we give lip service to the idea multiple times a day, but who is really interested in giving up all the good stuff we have here? It’s like some foreign concept that most of us espouse  מן הספה ולחוץ.

There are several versions of the story, I think I saw it mentioned about the מאור עינים:

אדמו"ר התארח פעם על שולחנם של בני זוג כפריים, והחל לשוחח עימם על אודות ביאת המשיח. "הבה נתפלל יחד שהמשיח יבוא", הציע לבני הזוג. כסבור היה הרבי שתפילה זכה של אנשים פשוטים יכולה לחולל נפלאות, אבל לכפרי היו תכניות אחרות. הוא נמלך ברעייתו, ולבסוף הגיב: "רֶבֶּ'ה, המשיח זה רעיון רע. יש לנו משק מכניס, עם לולי תרנגולות שמטילות ביצים, ורפת של פרות שמניבות חלב. המשיח יאלץ אותנו לעזוב הכל ויעלה אותנו לארץ ישראל. במחילה, רֶבֶּ'ה, שיעשה טובה המשיח, ויגנוז את התכניות שלו".

הרבי נדהם. הוא ניסה לשכנע את בני הזוג בדרך אחרת: "נכון", אמר להם, "יש לכם רפת ולולים ותרנגולים. אבל מפעם לפעם מגיעים הקוזקים הגויים, והם בוזזים וחומסים לכם הכל. זה סבל גדול עבורכם. נזק של ממש. כשיבוא המשיח, כבר לא יהיו קוזקים. כדאי לכם!"

שוב נמלך הכפרי בכפריתו הנבערת, ולאחר דקות ארוכות של התלחשות, חזרו השניים אל הרבי כשבפיהם החלטה גאונית: "הרבי", אמרו, "תתפלל שהמשיח ייקח את הקוזקים לארץ ישראל וישאיר אותנו כאן עם הפרות והתרנגולות. זה הכי טוב".

אח, נאנח האדמו"ר. אני חשבתי שקשה להוציא את היהודים מהגלות – עכשיו התברר לי שקשה שבעתיים להוציא את הגלות מתוך היהודים

July 11, 2019, 11:28:40 AM
Re: BM Magazine Articles
How do you know that even those who are busy all day with moshiach aren't simply doing more lip service? Why does some story about some villagers show anything about Litvaks anyhow? How would ypou know whether it is lipservice or sincere?

There are no guarantees, and I’m sure that there are many in Chabad who are just doing more frequent lip-service than non-Chabad (I didn’t mean litvak), but the fact that the word moshiach is barely in our everyday lexicon is telling, and fairly disturbing. In part this may be due to the tendency among many to bash the whole movement like CBC almost to the point that moshiach becomes associated with something that “we don’t hold of” which is a hashkafic problem in its own right.

 The story is just very relatable, as all one has to do is open up the latest glossy weekly advertising circular and see what is going on, to realize that many of us wouldn’t articulate it that way, but we would also rather have our “sheep and goats and chickens”, and ship moshiach off to Yerushalayim.

July 11, 2019, 12:29:21 PM
Re: BM Magazine Articles
I'm confused, is this specifically a Non-Chabad problem or not?

I think that Chabad makes a far greater attempt to make it real and part of their lives. Lakewood does an amazing job of making Limud Hatorah part of the average persons life, even those who have been in the workforce for many years. The sefardic community is amazing in their respect for their leaders and fidelity to mesorah. Chassidim are able to put such significance amd meaning into otherwise parts mundane tasks. There are communities that really put a focus on chessed. Others on ahavas yisroel. The point is that there is so much to learn from so many different segments of klal yisroel that it makes no sense to negate others who have different viewpoints. ( If there is a specific hashkafic issue one can and should speak out against it, but that does not give license to write off whole groups of Yidden.)We can gain so much more by learning from everyone else to improve our own avodas Hashem.

July 11, 2019, 12:59:41 PM
Re: BM Magazine Articles
It's ok to talk to your kids. It's ok to make them think.
 It's ok to counter a "goyim are bad" statement with...  Is the man who gave you a sticker at Trader Joes bad?
Is Doctor so and so bad?
Is the mailman we say hi to everyday.. is he a bad person?

It's ok to get into these discussions and have them start thinking. Even with your 4 year old. And your 8 year old and 12 year old and 16 year old.

It's ok to ask questions.
"Why is he bad?"
Why are "Goyim" bad?

You (hopefully) want your kids to know there are good Non-Jews in the world.
You want your kids to judge people on their actions, not their religion.
Honestly, kids should know there are "good" non Jews just as much as they should know there are "bad" Jews.

The problem when I write this is knowing that many people on the forums don't even believe that themselves.

I think the issue is far from black and white. In a general sense you’re absolutely correct. You want people to judge other people based on their actions, not their religion. There are very many good goyim out there, and I have nothing but the greatest respect for them, but the fact remains that their goals, aspirations, and values are far apart from ours. There are many areas that would be considered moral and good by many goyim that to us are a moral evil. Just to take the example of euthanasia, it’s hard to be nuanced and convey to a kid that killing a teenage girl in the Netherlands because she wanted to die is an evil act but the people who did it are good and kind people. There are a host of other social and moral issues where the same tension would play out. The fact that the majority of western civilization considers man to be a biological creature like any other animal that roams the planet is not just a theoretical exercise. It has practical  impacts in so many moral and social constructs that it cannot be disregarded, leaving religion out of the picture.  That does not mean that the goy is bad and the Jew is automatically good. The goy may be kinder, more refined, and more honest than the Jew I just did a deal with but the two are not on the same level. Of course the non-Jews honesty and kindness is cause for me to relate to him in reciprocal fashion, which I may not do in the case of a Jew who is dishonest. But that is not the entire picture.

I am מחויב to relate to one as אחיך with all the attendant obligations but not to the “better” goy. Perhaps this is what is meant to be conveyed but is given over in an unnuanced and therefore grossly distorted way.

One additional point.Perhaps it was just my experience but from what I saw there is also another issue with kids having a hard time drawing the line between respecting a goy for who he is and respecting his opinions. For example, when my son and his friends were at an age where they tend to  idolize football players, they not only appreciated the talents of the particular player, they actually gave weight to his opinions, for example giving some credence to the ideas behind “taking the knee” because their hero did it. Other questionable or objectionable ideas espoused by political figures, sports stars, etc. were also giving credence by the boys simply because of who espoused them. Aside from the very real issue of לא תחנם which is not that easy to get around, these other potential pitfalls may be motivating mechanchim to go to the extreme. I still don’t think it’s justifiable, and at some  point you have to give the kids a honest, nuanced, picture that doesn’t label goyim vs Jews as bad vs good because you are doing a disservice to the many honest good goyim out there as well as hindering the kids ability to function in society.

July 12, 2019, 12:54:34 PM
Re: BM Magazine Articles

 I know there is that classic fear of never putting down the school where you send your kid but I do believe, especially as a child gets older that there is an appropriate way to tell your kid you disagree with a teachers thoughts or opinion in a respectful way.  Society started realizing the problems of bashing the school or teachers from parents who were doing just that- bashing, bad mouthing, saying things were stupid etc. That should obviously never be done. Having no respect for the school or teachers will quickly pass along to your kid. If a kid sees you respect their teachers and school even when voicing your opinion and disagreements they learn to also disagree with people and still respect them.   
In general kids are much smarter than we give the credit for. It's ok for them to see you disagree about things. And it's ok to say in our house we ... x ..y...z..

With the situation given above for certain chumros being taught in school for example- I think it's perfectly fine to teach a kid that came home learning "this is the right way to do it" - that it is in fact just a chumra and in your house you do X, Y and Z. 
Because in honesty you don't want your kid thinking all the chumros they learn are black and white Halacha because that too causes problems later on or more room for judging others that don't do things that way.

The fear of disagreeing or even having to outright say something is wrong is less when you have been teaching your kid derech eretz and respect all along.   

And that's really a bigger issue than all this. If you're not really preaching it at home and they are getting some negative lessons at school it's hard to even know where to start.

This is an old problem.  I think a big way this stuff didn't affect me personally growing up was my exposure to other people. Non religious family members and just the outside world and seeing how my parents treated other human beings.

But .... even with all that- I still had to work on really knowing that I wasn't "better" than anyone else just because they were not religious/not Jewish etc as an adult. It does get ingrained in you.

There definitely is room for respectful disagreement but if it gets to the point where the kid is calling the teacher a liar etc. then it is time to re-calibrate the message.

In regards to chumrahs that kids bring home from school, my kids know I have gone through the relevant halachos and can pasken on my own so when they come home with something they were told I don’t find it threatening.  I can tell them that there certainly are those who hold that way and if they would like to use a shinui when doing the eggs to accomodate those shittos that is great. They know there are other opinions that don’t require it and they will soon know so that I can listen to other opinions without feeling threatened which is a valuable lesson on its own. And every so often something comes up that I may have learned 10 years ago and seeing now that there is a point in doing things slightly different and in that instance I’ll adopt it and thank my kid for it.

I also know that I am not perfect so if my kid comes home and says based on what they learned in school they would prefer not to take a trip to Six Flags, or Manhattan, etc. I tell them I respect them for it. It doesn’t mean the family wont go but they have the leeway to take what they are learning to a practical level and have their parents respect for doing so. I can think of several of my friends who came from more modern backgrounds and it was their parents respect for them and pride in their growth in areas that the parents were not holding in that allowed them to become really successful later on in life, so I always try to keep that in mind with my own kids.

July 12, 2019, 01:19:02 PM
Re: Woot BOC Discussion
1. Tote Bag
2. Glass Cup
3. Mug
4. NY Jets themed pumpkin carving kit (??)
5. Phone jack outlet
6. Miami Dolphins under-eye sun blockers
7. Roll of gutter guard
8. Bag clip
9. Ceramic LED Bear nightlight (in the box)
10. Pac-Man decals
11. Fishing Lures
12. 2 folders
13. A book

Definitely a BOCCCCCCC!!!

Totally worth the $10  ;D ;D

I sell u a bag of junk from my grandmas attic for ten bucks.

July 23, 2019, 10:56:33 PM
Re: The Holocaust  וְיִנְקֹם לְעֵינֵינוּ נִקְמַת דַּם עֲבָדָיו הַשָּׁפוּךְ. כַּכָּתוּב בְּתוֹרַת מֹשֶׁה אִישׁ הָאֱלֹהִים. הַרְנִינוּ גוֹיִם עַמּוֹ כִּי דַם עֲבָדָיו יִקֹּם וְנָקָם יָשִׁיב לְצָרָיו וְכִפֶּר אַדְמָתוֹ עַמּוֹ: וְעַל יְדֵי עֲבָדֶיךָ הַנְּבִיאִים כָּתוּב לֵאמֹר. וְנִקֵּיתִי דָּמָם לֹא נִקֵּיתִי וַ-ה' שֹׁכֵן בְּצִיּוֹן:וּבְכִתְבֵי הַקֹּדֶשׁ נֶאֱמַר לָמָּה יֹאמְרוּ הַגּוֹיִם אַיֵּה אֱלֹהֵיהֶם, יִוָּדַע בַּגּוֹיִם לְעֵינֵינוּ נִקְמַת דַּם עֲבָדֶיךָ הַשָּׁפוּךְ

Hashem has his ways of exacting nekama. It is not along the lines of what the OP had in mind.

July 26, 2019, 05:53:49 PM
Re: Interesting Articles...
August 04, 2019, 09:09:15 PM
Re: Why I don’t live in Israel yet Want my kids to stay on the derech
August 08, 2019, 12:24:13 AM
Re: Why I don’t live in Israel yet
Many interesting responses  and valid specific questions for me.  I did have an excellent six figure job, pension option, great health care, nice house in a beach community so I  certainly was not fleeing or leaving because I had nothing to lose.  Sold or got rid of all material things, house, cars, furniture etc.  No lift, only two suitcases/ boxes per person.  Had small amount of savings to start. Also first year government gives new olim small monthly stipend to live. Actually had all family members stuff envelopes for a charity for additional money.  Got my foot in the door of a school as an assistant in a kindergarten for a maternity leave.   You do what you need to do. Things worked out.  First apartment taken sight unseen.  Still in apartment nine years later, turned out to be a perfect location.  No car, never really missed it.  Don’t miss any of the material things we dont have.
I will answer ex gingi ‘s valid question about why someone should move here in a separate post.
I really find the responses fascinating and eye opening.

I think your post begs the question. What changed in your life? Was there a cataclysmic life event that took place? Major religious awakening? What prompted you to suddenly leave it all with three grown kids? You must admit that yours if far from  a typical life change that is made, especially someone if your economic situation....

August 08, 2019, 02:32:24 PM
Re: Why I don’t live in Israel yet Here is a comprehensive article that deals with a lot of the issues that come up when making Aliyah. It’s not that recent but should still be quite relevant.

“Rabbi Oratz estimates that between ten and twenty percent of children who make aliya in their teenage years end up going off the derech.”

“Rabbi Yaakov Hopfer of Congregation She’aris Yisroel in Baltimore is well aware of the challenges facing American families making aliya:“Thousands of people are struggling with these issues.Not hundreds – thousands! I would say that 50% of the kids who make aliya are getting married and settling back in America.”

August 09, 2019, 03:28:58 AM
Re: The funny/strange/interesting/random pictures thread

How about self identifying as an emotional support pet?

September 11, 2019, 02:41:50 AM
Re: Bronx zoo on Wednesday?
Its a complete zoo
Went there Wednesday chol hamoed 15 years ago. Never again.

September 15, 2019, 09:57:14 AM
Re: PSA: Don't swipe recklessly for others Is this yet another one?
September 15, 2019, 06:11:42 PM
Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
if they send you the wrong thing they should lose the $. I always offer them to come pick it up as I dont want it. (Once they did come and pick it up when they were sending a replacement)

Again, depending on how vastly  the item differs from what was promised, from a halachic standpoint you may not even have any right to force them to take it back for a refund or replacement. ( Although it would probably be bad business practice for them to refuse.)

Im not necessarily referring to rice. But anytime they want to substitute they should ask you first. If they dont they can come pick it up and they are subject to grubhubs rules of how they handle delivering a wrong delivery

 How is that different than saying that a Jewish merchant should be subject to the chargeback rules of Amex rather than halacha if I have a problem with his service or product? There is a shulchan aruch that we follow. Occasionally, normal and customary business practices can establish a minhag (not to be confused with dina dimalchusa) but that is not something one can assume.

Just because Amex or Grubhub have systems in place to protect consumers doesn’t mean that one is automatically entitled to use them  to obtain something they are not halachicly entitled to. These are serious questions and should be directed to a Rav.

September 24, 2019, 04:09:35 PM
Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
Why is the Jewish Merchant allowed to give me whatever he feels like when I paid for something and expect to get what I ordered?

 Does he call up his Rabbi to ask if he can give me the wrong thing that I didnt order? Sometimes we can use common sense I dont need to bother my Rabbi with a small $18 question. If a merchant agrees to accept amex and goes on grubhub, whether he is jewish or not he agrees to follow their rules and should be subjected to them.
I agree with that but it is really frustrating when you order a lot (different orders) and they get your order wrong a lot (not necessarily the same place) But honestly I am not bothering my Rabbi with such a small question. Just being honest

A merchant is never allowed to misrepresent, overcharge, shortchange, etc. The question is at what point it becomes actionable according to Halacha, or at what point an action on the part of one of the parties is considered to be a waiver.

Taking possession of $18 that one is not entitled to is viewed as seriously in Halacha as taking $18,000.  If it’s too small to bother the Rabbi, it’s too small to make a stand on it. Swallow the money and move on, rather than risk a serious violation of Halacha. By the way, there are many  Rabbanim who would be more than happy to answer shaalos involving even small monetary amounts.

People often fail to recognize the gravity of  choshen mishpat shaalos and figure that they can just wing it. They will call the rabbi to ask if they have a heter to eat on tisha bi’av due to illness, or if they can stay on a bus after shkia when they are stuck in a storm late on a winter Friday, not realizing that the $18 choshen mishpat shaalah may be more serious than the either of the above.


September 24, 2019, 05:06:46 PM
Re: Honestly, honestly do you feel smartphones have improved your quality of life? I think the real question is are you happier since you adopted a smartphone. There is little doubt that we are more efficient and productive than earlier generations in good part due to smartphones ( despite the hours of time they cause us to waste)- remember waiting in line for hours just to pick up textbooks from B&N, or buying products off the shelf  that looked good but broke in no time because there were no user reviews available?

But are we happier, more satisfied, more thinking people? In my experience the answer is a resounding NO.

September 25, 2019, 09:15:35 AM
Re: Bingo wholesale club in Brooklyn “Hi, I’d like two $1300 watches and a 3.99 chicken for kaparos please”
October 06, 2019, 08:54:19 PM
Re: Accord vs Camry vs Altima
im looking for a used one. And i feel like they would charge me more than any jewish place

Lakewood auto sales

October 24, 2019, 02:08:03 PM
Re: Kosher, Kashrus and Hechsherim Master thread
Whos hechsher is this?

Hechsher: JSOR

 Can it be trusted for meat and dairy? and with dairy is it assumed to be CY or only CS? or i would assume if it doesnt say CY its CS.

Sefardic hechsher Deal and surrounding areas. Depends whom you ask. Many from Lakewood will go out to eat at JSOR establishments others will not. From speaking to someone involved the standards vary considerably establishment to establishment.

October 29, 2019, 01:54:05 PM
Re: PC friday question of the day.
How about just using common sense? That is the problem with all religions. Common sense seems to go out the window.

 When I look at the “common sense” that prevails outside of religion I see where that common sense leads to: broken homes, dysfunction, billions of people behaving as if in a rat race with little purpose in life, rampant depression and despair, widespread opioid and other drug abuse to escape the meaningless life people lead, and callousness towards human life in general. That’s  just the tip of the iceberg.

Common sense is wildly subjective. Not too long ago it meant enslaving all the blacks, letting the poor starve, or throwing them in debtors prisons, etc. “common sense” now includes forcing 5 year olds to learn about deviant lifestyles, and euthanasia for teens who are fed up with life- against their parents wishes- in many European countries.
I’ll take my religion any day. Thank you.

November 08, 2019, 09:40:19 AM
Can anyone answer this as of recently?
I'm under the impression that they're pretty worthless.

Last I heard they are going for well under .01 and most aren’t buying. I would hardly call them useless. You can redeem your AA miles for hotels or car rentals in most major cities but the rate is not that great.
However, if you have a citi or Barclays AA card you automatically get a discounted rate that in many cases comes out to almost 1c per point. Best use of AA if you aren’t going to fly.

November 14, 2019, 04:45:07 PM
Re: Dan's Tesla Thread
My 13 month old car can now accelerate 10% faster than it did last week and it has an awesome new hold mode for one pedal driving.

What new tricks did your 13 month old car learn this week?

Pretty cool. OTOH my Camry learned how to not make the list of the 10 least reliable cars on the market. Maybe it can teach Elon Musk a thing or two.

November 18, 2019, 01:08:18 AM
Re: Dan's Tesla Thread Awkward is not the word
November 22, 2019, 10:01:59 AM
Re: Lakewood NJ Master Thread
He's the one most of lakewood's big poskim have shimush from

And later rejected and completely disavowed him due to his way out of mainstream shitos. I believe besides for oats on Pesach he holds you can eat a Subway tuna sandwich, buy foods without a hechsher, and serve them to your guest whom you know wouldn’t touch it without telling him it doesn’t have a hechsher. He is ok with Hebrew national franks which almost no mainstream possum will allow. He holds a sefer Torah does not have to be written by a Sofer; it can be printed with silk screening Etc.

It’s sad to think of how many people will see the hechsher in 7-Eleven and think it’s Kosher and it’s in Lakewood, what could be wrong?

November 22, 2019, 12:07:00 PM
Re: Active Shooter Jersey City
Don't rely on Jewish whatsapp to be accurate.
One of the Jewish “news” sites published a name that was completely inaccurate and since deleted it. Pathetic that everyone had to be first to get the scoop at all cost....

December 11, 2019, 01:43:36 AM
Re: What kind of donuts did you get? How much did they cost? How many did you eat?
You can be yotzei by looking at donuts too.

There’s a shailah if seeing them through glasses or contacts is a problem of ראיה דרך זכוכית. In that case one should be machmir to actually eat them....

December 22, 2019, 04:22:31 PM
Re: Spreading Fake News Via Whatsapp and Social Media
Why do people jump all over these things? At least a news agency just wants to break a story, but why do people care? A man is dead! It's terrible. It will change nothing if this guy was shot, or burned, or strangled, or hit by a car. There is no public safety concern. What more do we need to know? Imagine this was your family member c"v, would you want people scrambling for this info. Not to mention, there may be info involved that can be extremely shameful to the deceased or their family that definitely doesn't need to make it's rounds. Wish your condolences, and move on. Let the man rest in peace.

Sorry but we can’t have it both ways. Social media has turned us into something less than human beings. When what I ate in which restaurant and my latest vacation pics with the wife and or kids becomes everyone else’s business( including on DDF), I have taken what used to be a reshus hayachid, my private life, and deliberately turned it into a reshus harabim. And that creates a sense of entitlement- people feel that they have a right to know what is going on in a reshus harabim. We have taken מה טובו אהליך יעקב, the concept of privacy in our homes and lives that Klal Yisrael once excelled in and discarded it for social media, and the secular concept of putting everything out there in the reshus harabim. Well, that’s what people do in a reshus harabim. They rubberneck.

December 24, 2019, 07:38:56 PM
Re: The 13th Global Siyum Hashas of Daf YomiAgudath Israel of America.
To me this event was very disappointing to say the least. Long uninteresting speeches in freezing cold weather with no food and barely any drinks I wonder how people survived there for so long. They should get some Heimishe chevre to run the show...

I feel bad that it takes more than what took place today to inspire you. Many people find inspiration in even the small moments in life. Today was no small moment. Where do I even start?

To see 90,000 Jews coming together to proclaim that Hashem’s Torah is dear to them. To think of not one minyan worth of Jews, but several thousand minyanim all davening to Hashem as together as one. To think of the cumulative hours represented in today’s crowd in 7 1/2 years of toiling and overcoming all obstacles to finish Shas.To see yidden representing thousands of shuls  and perhaps hundreds of communities celebrating not separately in ones own shul like Simchas Torah but all together along with our Gedolim and manhigim, including Rav Shmuel, who learned in the yeshivas of pre-war Europe. To see Rav Dovid Feinstein insisting that Rav Shmuel take the honor of saying the hadran. To think of the holocaust survivors present who having seen the destruction of Torah Jewry were witnessing four generations of mesaymei hashas. To look at the throngs of Jews and imagine what it will look like when moshiach comes. To stand outside after the event and watch unending streams of Yidden cascade down three flights of escalators in an unending torrent and think “these are our brothers and sisters”. That is unbelievably inspiring.

When someone is inspired he will barely notice the cold and food (think of the Best Buy Black Friday
lines of years past when folks would forgo their meal to line up in the cold on Thanksgiving day for the 5am door busters). When one is uninspired he will then focus on even the slightest discomfort. I pray that you will find a way to focus on all of the moving moments in your life and live a life of inspiration going forward.

January 01, 2020, 11:32:55 PM