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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #15 on: February 08, 2019, 12:15:12 PM »
The response on the forums is amazing, on other platforms stories like this always get negative comments, it feels good to be around like minded people, what this Rabbi did is truly a public service hopefully #MeToo will pick up in our crowds so that #MeToo should become obsolete
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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #16 on: February 08, 2019, 01:33:03 PM »
Not all people state their opinion.
If they keep themselves quiet it's also good
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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #17 on: February 08, 2019, 01:40:24 PM »
If they keep themselves quiet it's also good
So basically you only like hearing people talk when they have the same opinions as you? ::)

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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #18 on: February 08, 2019, 01:42:19 PM »
So basically you only like hearing people talk when they have the same opinions as you? ::)
If you want to talk Basics I basically like when people don't attack victims אל תדין חבירך עד שתגיע למקומו
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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #19 on: February 11, 2019, 06:43:27 PM »
This should be required reading for every parent.

This should not be required reading for every parent

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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #20 on: February 11, 2019, 06:46:43 PM »
This should not be required reading for every parent
Are you a parent?

What is your logic?
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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #21 on: February 11, 2019, 07:02:00 PM »
Are you a parent?

What is your logic?
Hopefully he means halevai it should be unnecessary.

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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #22 on: February 11, 2019, 07:02:57 PM »
Hopefully he means halevai it should be unnecessary.
That is a beautiful and refreshing optimistic view of people, unfortunately I don't share your optimism for better or worse.
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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #23 on: February 11, 2019, 07:30:21 PM »
I feel so sorry for him and his family, and I hope more parents become aware of this issue.

Not sure why the "me too" has to be brought in to the conversation though. His story has enough merit without it.

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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #24 on: February 11, 2019, 07:45:09 PM »
I feel so sorry for him and his family, and I hope more parents become aware of this issue.

Not sure why the "me too" has to be brought in to the conversation though. His story has enough merit without it.
That is his story.

One of the most powerful parts of the article is how real it all is. He's just saying what happaned to him.
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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #25 on: February 11, 2019, 08:59:01 PM »
Bravery aside, presenting himself as an orthodox rabbi, it would have been a little bit more apropos if the article didn't subtly (between the lines) mock some religious prohibitions ancient and primitive and further certain stereotypes.

I'd have no qualms if was a random person, even super frum. But once he presents himself as a Rabbi, and a Hassidic one at that, more importantly as someone purporting to spread the faith, he has a certain responsibility that others don't.

Now, before I get attacked, this is a very sad story and I'm not "judging" him, definitely not trying to diminish his pain and struggle. I just felt the story could've been written slightly differently without slighting his religion.

May G-d never place us or our loved ones in any such situations.

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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #26 on: February 11, 2019, 09:02:30 PM »
Bravery aside, presenting himself as an orthodox rabbi, it would have been a little bit more apropos if the article didn't subtly (between the lines) mock some religious prohibitions ancient and primitive and further certain stereotypes.

I'd have no qualms if was a random person, even super frum. But once he presents himself as a Rabbi, and a Hassidic one at that, more importantly as someone purporting to spread the faith, he has a certain responsibility that others don't.

Now, before I get attacked, this is a very sad story and I'm not "judging" him, definitely not trying to diminish his pain and struggle. I just felt the story could've been written slightly differently without slighting his religion.

May G-d never place us or our loved ones in any such situations.
A. I don't know where you see that in the article. I actually found it to be a very nice non-judgemental article. A real change from today's toxic uninformed, prejudiced, and shallow writers. B. The article was not written by him, but a non Jewish journalist. What do you expect?

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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #27 on: February 11, 2019, 11:25:19 PM »
A. I don't know where you see that in the article. I actually found it to be a very nice non-judgemental article. A real change from today's toxic uninformed, prejudiced, and shallow writers. B. The article was not written by him, but a non Jewish journalist. What do you expect?
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Re: Powerful story of brave chabad rav, victim of sexual abuse
« Reply #29 on: February 12, 2019, 12:38:30 AM »
Pile them on!