Author Topic: Over The Top Purim Parties  (Read 34390 times)

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #20 on: March 24, 2019, 07:51:53 PM »
Tesla is soooo last year


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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #21 on: March 24, 2019, 07:53:07 PM »
quite a few people in lakewood hat made it are driving a tesla (NOT the base Model 3 ), the same way a few years ago they were driving a genesis
They don't drive the oversized SUVs like they do in BP?
Seriously, you have 25 years olds in BP driving Suburbans and Escalades....

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #22 on: March 24, 2019, 07:54:51 PM »
We've crossed over to the jealousy thread, as I suspected from the title of the article.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #23 on: March 24, 2019, 07:55:18 PM »
They don't drive the oversized SUVs like they do in BP?
Seriously, you have 25 years olds in BP driving Suburbans and Escalades....
seems like i see more teslas than big suvs
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #24 on: March 24, 2019, 08:04:20 PM »
We've crossed over to the jealousy thread, as I suspected from the title of the article.

The point is that many people have status symbols. If it’s not a Tesla it may be a 1400 dollar bugaboo stroller (I know I’m behind the times). Why single out these uber wealthy folks and their status symbols. I had a purim that could not have been more perfect with kids, family, neighbors, and topped off with an amazing purim seudah with friends with lots of wine, divrei torah, and roving bands of collecting bochurim and lively dancing. It was amazing (at least the parts I can remember :) ). So, no jealousy of over the top purim parties and my kids couldnt care less about what people who are wealthier than us did on purim. There are things that money can’t buy. Are there over the top luxuries in Lakewood? Sure. Is it limited to the uber rich? I don’t think so. Should we get all worked up about it? Live and let live.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #25 on: March 24, 2019, 08:05:13 PM »
We've crossed over to the jealousy thread, as I suspected from the title of the article.
Yeah. The whole thing doesn't seem to bother me that much. And it's not because I'm not a zealot lol.

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #26 on: March 24, 2019, 10:18:47 PM »
Rav Moshe Feinstein's opinion was to never tell a wealthy individual not to splurge on himself, as going cheap on oneself will lead him to being stingy with others.

Nevertheless the popping everyone's eyes out is ridiculous and pathetic. However most of these individuals do such events for max 3 years then they burn out. So no point extinguishing a fire that will burn out in its own.

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #28 on: March 24, 2019, 11:08:59 PM »
Why is a $30,000 car an image??
for what ever reason I couldn't put my hands on one yet.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #29 on: March 24, 2019, 11:17:14 PM »
I don't understand why everyone else has to tell people whether to indulge or not. However terrible it might be, it's their own business and they should be working on themselves and their taavos, just like we should all be working on ourselves and not others.

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #30 on: March 24, 2019, 11:20:57 PM »
I don't understand why everyone else has to tell people whether to indulge or not. However terrible it might be, it's their own business and they should be working on themselves and their taavos, just like we should all be working on ourselves and not others.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #31 on: March 24, 2019, 11:27:13 PM »
I don't understand why everyone else has to tell people whether to indulge or not. However terrible it might be, it's their own business and they should be working on themselves and their taavos, just like we should all be working on ourselves and not others.
People need to be aware of what’s going on these days to know what to prepare their children. The older generation doesn’t have a clue of what teenagers are upto these days.....

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #32 on: March 24, 2019, 11:28:49 PM »
People need to be aware of what’s going on these days to know what to prepare their children. The older generation doesn’t have a clue of what teenagers are upto these days.....
Ugh. Why are we conflating inappropriate Purim parties with wealthy people and fancy cars. Like I said, the title of the post destroyed the main issue.

Can we decide what exactly the beef is here.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #33 on: March 24, 2019, 11:29:38 PM »
Ugh. Why are we conflating inappropriate Purim parties with wealthy people and fancy cars. Like I said, the title of the post destroyed the main issue.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #34 on: March 24, 2019, 11:31:40 PM »
Ugh. Why are we conflating inappropriate Purim parties with wealthy people and fancy cars. Like I said, the title of the post destroyed the main issue.

Can we decide what exactly the beef is here.
Good way of putting it

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #35 on: March 25, 2019, 06:03:41 AM »
Ugh. Why are we conflating inappropriate Purim parties with wealthy people and fancy cars. Like I said, the title of the post destroyed the main issue.

Can we decide what exactly the beef is here.
The article itself directly targets Rabbis. They are the problem according to him..

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #36 on: March 25, 2019, 06:04:38 AM »
Ugh. Why are we conflating inappropriate Purim parties with wealthy people and fancy cars. Like I said, the title of the post destroyed the main issue.

Can we decide what exactly the beef is here.
There are plenty of inappropriate Purim parties amongst the 99% as well.. shhh

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #37 on: March 25, 2019, 09:15:10 AM »
And there are no Rabbis are willing to stand up to them?
Why would they be taking a public stand against something they are doing in their house?
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #38 on: March 25, 2019, 09:17:06 AM »
It's one thing to indulge oneself in flying F, Pesach programs, etc. It's another thing when the main purpose of the party is to show off just how awsome you are.... And especially when it's affecting the "ruach" of a community.

I haven't seen the ruach of the community affected by someone bringing in MBD for a purim party.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #39 on: March 25, 2019, 09:18:26 AM »
People need to be aware of what’s going on these days to know what to prepare their children. The older generation doesn’t have a clue of what teenagers are upto these days.....
THat has nothing to do with this letter at all.
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