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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #40 on: March 25, 2019, 09:20:42 AM »
There are plenty of inappropriate Purim parties amongst the 99% as well.. shhh
And at those the inappropriate aspects can be much more intentional.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #41 on: March 25, 2019, 10:56:14 AM »
I don't understand why everyone else has to tell people whether to indulge or not. However terrible it might be, it's their own business and they should be working on themselves and their taavos, just like we should all be working on ourselves and not others.

I do not think you are correct here.

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #42 on: March 25, 2019, 10:57:49 AM »
The article itself directly targets Rabbis. They are the problem according to him..

The articale was written by a women INHO

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #43 on: March 25, 2019, 01:08:05 PM »
I do not think you are correct here.
With regard to what specifically

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #44 on: March 25, 2019, 04:34:56 PM »
Yeah. The whole thing doesn't seem to bother me that much. And it's not because I'm not a zealot lol.

It would be fun if you could finagle about why the whole issue of wealthy people creating wild parties doesn't bother you much considering your own admission of zealotry. 
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #45 on: March 25, 2019, 04:39:06 PM »
It would be fun if you could finagle about why the whole issue of wealthy people creating wild parties doesn't bother you much considering your own admission of zealotry. 
Or it does bother him but he is not bothered by the rabbonim not "banning" it.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #46 on: March 25, 2019, 04:41:22 PM »
I love how easy it is for everyone to be such a kanoi about something that they wish they had the nisayon of not doing.

"Oh no, not me, I don't want to be wealthy and if I was I would just give the tzedaka anyway without the other stuff" Sure sure, keep telling yourself that.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #47 on: March 25, 2019, 04:43:10 PM »
Go educate your children about what you feel is right or wrong, that will do a lot more good in the world than constantly complaining about all the wrong things everyone else is doing. Stop trying to get other people to do what you consider to be the "right" thing, it's never going to work and honestly, it's not your place anyway.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #48 on: March 25, 2019, 04:44:58 PM »
With regard to what specifically

Civilization and jewish culture specifically are strongly based on, and influenced by coexistence within a community. Throwing a big party for everyone to attend is very much everyone's business. It affects our community and everything about it.

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #49 on: March 25, 2019, 04:45:54 PM »
Go educate your children about what you feel is right or wrong, that will do a lot more good in the world than constantly complaining about all the wrong things everyone else is doing. Stop trying to get other people to do what you consider to be the "right" thing, it's never going to work and honestly, it's not your place anyway.

Maybe this is part of the parents plan? "Look son/daughter, I even made a public protest"
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #50 on: March 25, 2019, 04:46:18 PM »
Why is a $30,000 car an image??
The price tag isn't the only factor in creating an image, and a cheap Tesla is a good example of that. Regardless, nobody is saying that a Model 3 Tesla (or Audi or Alfa Romeo Giulia etc.) is exclusively for image, but in most cases, if someone claims that image did not play a role, they are lying or deluding themselves. 
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #51 on: March 25, 2019, 04:48:12 PM »
The price tag isn't the only factor in creating an image, and a cheap Tesla is a good example of that. Regardless, nobody is saying that a Model 3 Tesla (or Audi or Alfa Romeo Giulia etc.) is exclusively for image, but in most cases, if someone claims that image did not play a role, they are lying or deluding themselves. 
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #52 on: March 25, 2019, 04:48:59 PM »
Go educate your children about what you feel is right or wrong, that will do a lot more good in the world than constantly complaining about all the wrong things everyone else is doing. Stop trying to get other people to do what you consider to be the "right" thing, it's never going to work and honestly, it's not your place anyway.

Not only are you wrong but you are doing the exact same thing you are accusing other people of doing, namely telling people how to act. 

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #53 on: March 25, 2019, 04:50:26 PM »
OK then.
Feel free to elaborate.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #54 on: March 25, 2019, 04:53:02 PM »
Feel free to elaborate.
You are assuming that most people that did something are "lying or deluding themselves", yet you likely never even tried out that thing.

I don't think a response is warranted in this case.

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #55 on: March 25, 2019, 05:05:53 PM »
You are assuming that most people that did something are "lying or deluding themselves", yet you likely never even tried out that thing.

I don't think a response is warranted in this case.

No need to defend what other people say your intentions are...

It seems safer to assume self image is involved rather then not.

Self images can be of all shapes and sizes. The Environmentalist or the guy that tries new things, or the guy that enjoys an awesome new car... Point is self image plays into everything.

Not sure what test driving a tesla has to do with anything here.

( I really care about the other conversation, I am just commenting here because you are in the thread related to purim parties...)

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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #56 on: March 25, 2019, 05:06:54 PM »
You are assuming that most people that did something are "lying or deluding themselves", yet you likely never even tried out that thing.

I don't think a response is warranted in this case.

No need to defend what other people say your intentions are...

The fact that I probably never tried out a Tesla does not preclude me from stating an opinion.
 
Let's say you had two choices: A Camry or a Tesla. Let's say, for argument's sake, that the cost was pretty similar.

Granted there are good reasons to opt for Tesla over the Camry. One of them is performance. Another one is fun.

Do you honestly believe that image is not a factor in most cases?

Even Tesla would disagree with you.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #57 on: March 25, 2019, 05:10:51 PM »
Not only are you wrong but you are doing the exact same thing you are accusing other people of doing, namely telling people how to act.
I don't give a damn what you or anyone else does, that's the difference, I'm only saying what will be more effective than complaining about other people, focus on the things in your control rather than on the things outside of your control.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #58 on: March 25, 2019, 05:11:16 PM »
I love how easy it is for everyone to be such a kanoi about something that they wish they had the nisayon of not doing.

"Oh no, not me, I don't want to be wealthy and if I was I would just give the tzedaka anyway without the other stuff" Sure sure, keep telling yourself that.

When I see Over The Top Weddings/Bar Mitzvah's or even Brissn, I say I wish I would have the ability to afford such an event along with the brains not to make such an event.
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Re: Over The Top Purim Parties
« Reply #59 on: March 25, 2019, 05:14:05 PM »


It seems safer to assume self image is involved rather then not.

Your problem is that you assume that you have to assume anything in the first place.

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