Did you read the interview with Rabbi Tendler? He talks about R'Moshe Feinstein wanting the government out of regulating ethics and morals.
Irrelevant point. There is a big difference between Halacha and Hashkafah. R' Moshe did not say that abortion is muttar.
Regarding the Hashkafic point, there are many counter opinions. Regarding Halacha, the vast majority of poskim are very much against abortion.
You just seem to want to vilify women who are desperate. I want to fix the problems that lead them to be desperate to begin with.
I'm sorry that you see it that way. The truth is that I want to vilify killing babies. It so happens to be that the killers are women. Gender is irrelevant.
How about fixing the problem while circumventing murder?
You also seem to lack empathy for these women. Some of the women I know had heterim from their rabbi. But it is good to know that somehow I'm in the wrong for empathizing with these desperate women because you've decided their heter doesn't follow halacha somehow.
I hope they are approaching a world renowned posek for such a serious question rather than just a shul rabbi, but obviously that is much better than not asking anyone at all.
That said, your empathy has nothing to do with halacha. You mention halacha tangentially only because I brought it up. Until now it was about your feelings on a women's right to choose. You feel for women and understand that they have a right to choose. You say we shouldn't squeeze people that want abortions.
The truth is, however, that we should vilify such people if that helps prevent the death of even one innocent human being.