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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #360 on: November 09, 2019, 07:08:24 PM »
I've heard this before.

At the end of the day if the kid deserves it, and it gets the job done, why does anger change things?
Because the kid can tell the difference.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #361 on: November 09, 2019, 07:12:27 PM »
Because the kid can tell the difference.
And? Yes of course your angry because they did something bad
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #362 on: November 09, 2019, 07:23:33 PM »
And? Yes of course your angry because they did something bad
It teaches the kid the wrong lesson.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #363 on: November 09, 2019, 07:26:26 PM »
It teaches the kid the wrong lesson.
So if they start hitting other people for no valid reason, you hit them again if need be.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #364 on: November 09, 2019, 07:35:16 PM »
So if they start hitting other people for no valid reason, you hit them again if need be.
You probably shouldn't have kids.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #365 on: November 09, 2019, 07:39:48 PM »
And? Yes of course your angry because they did something bad
Who are you angry at if your kid did something wrong?

What message are you giving them if your response is physical violence?
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #366 on: November 09, 2019, 07:40:33 PM »
You probably shouldn't have kids.
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Should just get head set straight first.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #367 on: November 09, 2019, 07:42:27 PM »


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Should just get head set straight first.

You probably shouldn't have kids yet.
FTFM.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #368 on: November 09, 2019, 07:44:40 PM »
You probably shouldn't have kids.
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Should just get head set straight first.
I hear.

My point is that the people saying that you are supposed to hit but only when you're not angry are asking for something which isn't realistic. And no I won't buy the story that people in the olden days were so different.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #369 on: November 09, 2019, 07:49:54 PM »
I hear.

My point is that the people saying that you are supposed to hit but only when you're not angry are asking for something which isn't realistic. And no I won't buy the story that people in the olden days were so different.

Never. Ever. Ever hit because you're angry and out of control.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #370 on: November 09, 2019, 08:27:21 PM »
Never. Ever. Ever hit because you're angry and out of control.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #371 on: November 09, 2019, 08:32:15 PM »
Never. Ever. Ever hit because you're angry and out of control.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #372 on: November 09, 2019, 08:37:09 PM »
Hence the recommendation to not hit. Because the message you're giving is not, "you did something wrong, and are therefore receiving a consequence."

It's, "I'm angry, and what you do when you're angry is hit people. As long as you're bigger and stronger than them. Oh, and also, this is your template of how you should view the world and all authority figures, including God."

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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #373 on: November 09, 2019, 08:37:30 PM »
...but that is not reality.
Agreed. Which is why I don't hit.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #374 on: November 09, 2019, 08:45:06 PM »
Agreed. Which is why I don't hit.
Which is fair, but doesn't have to coincide with the opinion that hitting is wrong/abuse.
The same truth has to be known with any punishment, it can't be out of anger or any emotion, albeit it isn't as much of an issue elsewhere as it with any punishment involving physical contact.
As a rule, any parenting that is done for any reason but the good of the child is wrong.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #375 on: November 09, 2019, 08:47:00 PM »
Which is fair, but doesn't have to coincide with the opinion that hitting is wrong/abuse.
The same truth has to be known with any punishment, it can't be out of anger or any emotion, albeit it isn't as much of an issue elsewhere as it with any punishment involving physical contact.
As a rule, any parenting that is done for any reason but the good of the child is wrong.
Is the "hit" to make the child feel pain?
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #376 on: November 09, 2019, 08:47:47 PM »
Is the "hit" to make the child feel pain?
No
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #377 on: November 09, 2019, 08:47:56 PM »
Yes, I am old school.
I too consider myself old school. And while I wrote before that one should never hit due to anger and out of loss of control, I believe there are times and situations where physical force might be appropriate, obviously only when properly contemplated.
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #378 on: November 09, 2019, 08:57:27 PM »
No
OK I am confused. Then why are you hitting?
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Re: PC friday question of the day.
« Reply #379 on: November 09, 2019, 09:24:56 PM »
Agreed. Which is why I don't hit.
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If you have no anger control issues (which I can tell you don't) it IS reality to give a smack without it being out of anger, not talking of beating up anyone of course. In case you're really angry, then don't ever use your hands at all!

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