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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1180 on: May 19, 2022, 03:18:59 PM »
Being full of hate is based on ignorance. That's why conversations help. Humanizing yourself helps inform and lessen the ignorance. Of course, one shouldn't try that route at the risk of physical attacks

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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1181 on: May 19, 2022, 03:29:43 PM »
If at all possible, this kind of response is more impactful to verbal antisemitism. If the person is being violent (I'd included spitting), that's a bit different

https://twitter.com/BluegrassRabbi/status/1523139739871756289
I feel like you need to be a (trained) outreach professional to do this

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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1182 on: May 19, 2022, 03:34:32 PM »
I feel like you need to be a (trained) outreach professional to do this

Not at all. You need to be human. People hate because they are ignorant. It's been discussed on other threads, but people who are antisemitic become less so once they meet with and have positive interactions with Jewish people.

https://forward.com/opinion/380510/we-need-to-start-befriending-neo-nazis/

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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1183 on: May 19, 2022, 03:41:46 PM »
Not at all.
I don't agree, many people don't know how to talk to people that hate them.

A shliach talks to all walks of life all day long.

You think a guy who grew up in an insular community can just talk to a Nazi, for example?

May seems basic to you after years of mivtzoim, shlichus etc. but to many this is a crazy thing to do.
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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1184 on: May 19, 2022, 03:57:15 PM »
I don't agree, many people don't know how to talk to people that hate them.

A shliach talks to all walks of life all day long.

You think a guy who grew up in an insular community can just talk to a Nazi, for example?

May seems basic to you after years of mivtzoim, shlichus etc. but to many this is a crazy thing to do.

A shliach receives no formal training. His/her experience comes from doing it. I think that anyone can do it and the more they do it the better at it they will become. For all this talk, I don't recall ever trying to enter a discussion with someone who verbally attacked me. I'm also not suggesting this would "work" every time. But you need not be a professional to show people you are a human and plant seeds of doubt that all the horror they've heard about Jews. Keep in mind that I'm not talking about confronting a person, but rather engaging in a friendly way. That's not necessarily easy to do, but it would be far more effective at curbing antisemitism from that individual than contacting the police or a congressman.

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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1185 on: May 19, 2022, 04:23:32 PM »
To be clear: I'm not suggesting it is easy. I'm not suggesting it should *always* be done. I'm saying that in the right scenario, responding in a friendly way rather than the instinctive fight or flight could have a powerful impact on the perpetrator.

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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1186 on: May 19, 2022, 04:29:35 PM »
A shliach receives no formal training. His/her experience comes from doing it. I think that anyone can do it and the more they do it the better at it they will become. For all this talk, I don't recall ever trying to enter a discussion with someone who verbally attacked me. I'm also not suggesting this would "work" every time. But you need not be a professional to show people you are a human and plant seeds of doubt that all the horror they've heard about Jews. Keep in mind that I'm not talking about confronting a person, but rather engaging in a friendly way. That's not necessarily easy to do, but it would be far more effective at curbing antisemitism from that individual than contacting the police or a congressman.
I'm not disagreeing per se, but what the shliach did was confrontational and while you point out a shliach doesn't have formal training, I'm not sure what that has to do with it, he has experience.

With some quick math I probably spent 1,000+ hours on mivtzoim talking to strangers over my years in yeshiva and that's the same for most people that went through the chabad system.

All I'm saying is if a neighbor yells curse words and you never talked to a perfect stranger before, it might not work out well trying to talk to him like that shliach did, but at the same time by all means be human and show haters we are nice people.
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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1187 on: May 19, 2022, 05:01:37 PM »
I don't agree, many people don't know how to talk to people that hate them.

A shliach talks to all walks of life all day long.

You think a guy who grew up in an insular community can just talk to a Nazi, for example?

May seems basic to you after years of mivtzoim, shlichus etc. but to many this is a crazy thing to do.
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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1188 on: May 19, 2022, 06:19:45 PM »
Anshuldiks, what's pshat you goyim have a sinah for Klal Yisroel? You know we're the chosen people, right?
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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1189 on: May 19, 2022, 06:55:58 PM »
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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1190 on: May 20, 2022, 12:33:06 AM »
Days since I’ve been called a kike and spat on by a neighbor for being Jewish: 1
Update: the (20 something) fellow’s mother (three generations live together) came over with some kosher brownie bars from NPGS to apologize (and presumably, to preempt me bringing charges) and we had a nice 15 minute conversation. I told her I would be stopping by to speak to her son as well, she said that would be great.
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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1191 on: May 20, 2022, 02:00:13 AM »
(and presumably, to preempt me bringing charges)
Whats the max for spitting ?

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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1192 on: May 20, 2022, 07:32:36 AM »
Whats the max for spitting ?
Spitting is assault, and accompanied by a racial slur it is likely elevated into a hate crime.

ETA: https://www.reuters.com/article/us-crime-spitting/yes-spitting-in-the-face-is-crime-court-rules-idUSN0727718920070309
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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1193 on: May 20, 2022, 09:34:15 AM »
Spitting is assault, and accompanied by a racial slur it is likely elevated into a hate crime.
You recorded it ?

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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1194 on: May 20, 2022, 09:38:10 AM »
Did something trigger the attack or was it just out of the blue?

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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1195 on: May 20, 2022, 10:29:26 AM »
You recorded it ?
There were a dozen witnesses, and it’s probably recorded on several Ring devices.
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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1196 on: May 20, 2022, 10:41:20 AM »
Did something trigger the attack or was it just out of the blue?
It was related to something else but it was completely unprovoked. This is the story:

Someone who came over for a (legal, safe, quiet, early) bonfire parked in front of a hydrant. The neighbor called the police (normal, right?) and informed a couple of people nearby. When my brother and I came over to find out what the commotion was she was yelling at them about people parking in front of pumps (I’ve lived here for two years, nobody has ever antagonized them or parked in front of a pump that I can remember as there is plenty of parking and there were no other parking/noise issues occurring).

As she turned towards us to give us an earful her son ran out of the house yelling at us about us Kikes taking over the neighborhood and how he would personally beat us down, followed by a large gob of saliva. He had the presence of mind to say “Oh now you Jews are going to call the cops on me, right?” at which point we gently reminded him that the police were already en route thanks to a call his mother had just placed.

They have called the police on many neighbors only to have them come down and explain that they are doing nothing wrong (erecting a swing set, leaving leaves at the curb, etc.). We are on a *super* accommodating block where everyone is kind and careful about our interactions with neighbors.


Funny PS: When the cop arrived the fellow had moved (initially she attempted to block him from moving his car). She told the cop she had his plates on tape and was considering pressing charges. She seemed quite shocked when he informed her that she doesn’t actually have that option on a traffic violation.
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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1197 on: May 20, 2022, 10:45:10 AM »
It was related to something else but it was completely unprovoked. This is the story:

Someone who came over for a (legal, safe, quiet, early) bonfire parked in front of a hydrant. The neighbor called the police (normal, right?) and informed a couple of people nearby. When my brother and I came over to find out what the commotion was she was yelling at them about people parking in front of pumps (I’ve lived here for two years, nobody has ever antagonized them or parked in front of a pump that I can remember as there is plenty of parking and there were no other parking/noise issues occurring).

As she turned towards us to give us an earful her son ran out of the house yelling at us about us Kikes taking over the neighborhood and how he would personally beat us down, followed by a large gob of saliva. He had the presence of mind to say “Oh now you Jews are going to call the cops on me, right?” at which point we gently reminded him that the police were already en route thanks to a call his mother had just placed.

She has called the police on many neighbors only to have them come down and explain that they are doing nothing wrong (erecting a swing set, leaving leaves at the curb, etc.). We are on a *super* accommodating block where everyone is kind and careful about our interactions with neighbors.


Funny PS: When the cop arrived the fellow had moved (initially she attempted to block him from moving his car). She told the cop she had his plates on tape and was considering pressing charges. She seemed quite shocked when he informed her that she doesn’t actually have that option on a traffic violation.

So you got some fireworks along with the bonfire. Nice.

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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1198 on: May 20, 2022, 10:51:36 AM »
Neighbors from hell

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Re: Its Open Season on Jews
« Reply #1199 on: May 20, 2022, 11:13:27 AM »
The lady who brought the brownies is the same one who called the cops?