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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #20 on: January 09, 2020, 01:07:48 PM »
Why did (s)he think you were a woman if you had a pic of yourself in your profile?

my pic was my wife. and yes, there's a lesson there to be learned as well.

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #21 on: January 09, 2020, 01:11:39 PM »
Who is the admin of the group? Why not message them about it and send screen shots if necessary, to kick the person out. Why would you leave a group you otherwise like over this if it's a one-off.

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #22 on: January 09, 2020, 01:14:33 PM »
Who is the admin of the group? Why not message them about it and send screen shots if necessary, to kick the person out. Why would you leave a group you otherwise like over this if it's a one-off.

i see no purpose to the group. telegram is way more secure, and the telegram channel was easy to join. plus i like the telegram app better to be honest.

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #23 on: January 09, 2020, 01:15:27 PM »
my pic was my wife. and yes, there's a lesson there to be learned as well.
Lol, both mine and my wife's are of our kids, which is probably no better. But I have it set to contacts only, so not as big a deal.

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #24 on: January 09, 2020, 01:17:50 PM »
Who is the admin of the group? Why not message them about it and send screen shots if necessary, to kick the person out.

Wouldn't matter if they were kicked out. They can still see all the info.
i was in a group called dansdeals 14. i left it a while ago, actually, but you can still go to it and look through a list of all people who were ever participants. in fact i just tried it myself, works fine.
For the same price it doesn't matter if you leave now, your number will still be on that group forever.
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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #25 on: January 09, 2020, 01:18:49 PM »
I've seen people without anything written in their profile. How do I do that?

Space(s)?

I've actually changed mine to say NO VOICENOTES, unfortunately, doesn't help much.
I've been waiting over 5 years with bated breath for someone to say that!
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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #26 on: January 09, 2020, 01:19:45 PM »
It can happen on any WA group.
1) Dont join unneccessary groups. 
2) No profile pic anyone has your number can check your profile.
3) A stranger msgs you. Step #1 block Him, step #2 report to admin. Simple.

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #27 on: January 09, 2020, 01:20:31 PM »


Space(s)?


Doesn't work.
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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #28 on: January 09, 2020, 01:25:19 PM »
Gosh! Sick story! 1 more reason to add to the list of why I haven't joined wa.

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #29 on: January 09, 2020, 01:25:51 PM »
Gosh! Sick story! 1 more reason to add to the list of why I haven't joined wa.
sick story but I dont know why the convo went that long.........

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #30 on: January 09, 2020, 01:29:29 PM »
2) No profile pic anyone has your number can check your profile.
If you set privacy for profile photo to 'My contacts', isn't that only true if you have their number stored (and not if they have your's stored)?

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #31 on: January 09, 2020, 01:29:50 PM »
sick story but I dont know why the convo went that long.........
i've been on social media a long time. as soon as it started i knew this was someone who does this all the time (as the conversation later proved, he was very skilled at generic responses designed at provoking me to possibly engage without actually revealing anything about himself)

these types of people are predators. i took the time to see if he might get careless if i dangled a hook long enough and reveal something about himself, which i could reveal to the community. after the final message my wife actually cut it off. she was so upset she grabbed my phone and hit block and made me promise to not continue the conversation. i gave her my word, so i stopped. frankly i would have continued.

essentially we were playing a little game where we were both dangling hooks. the difference is this person is a predator, and i was his prey.

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #32 on: January 09, 2020, 01:39:14 PM »
Sounds like a group I've never heard of... dansdeals 14, also never heard of that.
I would guess there are hundreds of groups that originated from DDF or DDF adjacent communities, of which I was in dozens over the years at various points. From cc discussions, to points or gift card commerce, to other jewish topics and who knows what else.
It's a total free for all, anyone can invite anyone. You don't hold any responsibility for any of it.

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #33 on: January 09, 2020, 01:41:23 PM »
I would guess there are hundreds of groups that originated from DDF or DDF adjacent communities, of which I was in dozens over the years at various points. From cc discussions, to points or gift card commerce, to other jewish topics and who knows what else.
It's a total free for all, anyone can invite anyone. You don't hold any responsibility for any of it.

Not sure. I went to my WhatsApp and found the group.here are some screenshots.
EDIT deleted the links as another member pointed out I should not have posted screenshots with people's numbers in them
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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #34 on: January 09, 2020, 01:42:43 PM »
i've been on social media a long time. as soon as it started i knew this was someone who does this all the time (as the conversation later proved, he was very skilled at generic responses designed at provoking me to possibly engage without actually revealing anything about himself)

these types of people are predators. i took the time to see if he might get careless if i dangled a hook long enough and reveal something about himself, which i could reveal to the community. after the final message my wife actually cut it off. she was so upset she grabbed my phone and hit block and made me promise to not continue the conversation. i gave her my word, so i stopped. frankly i would have continued.

essentially we were playing a little game where we were both dangling hooks. the difference is this person is a predator, and i was his prey.

Still doesn't explain why it went for so long.

I would have probably blocked the person after the first or second message.

If someone were to send me a message "Hi" and nothing else, I would either check their profile to see if it's someone I know, or ignore.

After the second message of "Just a guy looking for a conversation" it would be an outright block. I have no interest in playing detective and trying to catch predators.
I've been waiting over 5 years with bated breath for someone to say that!
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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #35 on: January 09, 2020, 01:45:06 PM »
Still doesn't explain why it went for so long.

I would have probably blocked the person after the first or second message.

If someone were to send me a message "Hi" and nothing else, I would either check their profile to see if it's someone I know, or ignore.

After the second message of "Just a guy looking for a conversation" it would be an outright block. I have no interest in playing detective and trying to catch predators.

this confirms something i have always suspected! me and you must be different people!

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #36 on: January 09, 2020, 01:46:34 PM »
this confirms something i have always suspected! me and you must be different people!
Ok well dont blame this on Dan or Dansdeals. Be a detective at your own risk

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #37 on: January 09, 2020, 01:50:40 PM »
Ok well dont blame this on Dan or Dansdeals. Be a detective at your own risk
Point is others could get sucked in unintentionally

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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #38 on: January 09, 2020, 01:50:52 PM »
this confirms something i have always suspected! me and you must be different people!

Indeed. When I was younger I might have found interest in that. But I'm at a point that I realize that it would probably be fruitless (no pun intended)  ;).
I've been waiting over 5 years with bated breath for someone to say that!
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Re: How to contact Dan? Very disturbing incident on Dansdeals social media
« Reply #39 on: January 09, 2020, 01:52:06 PM »
Ok well dont blame this on Dan or Dansdeals. Be a detective at your own risk

i'm so confused. do you think i am posting this because i am upset at dan or personally offended? that's not true at all. i am posting this to alert dan and the community that there are predators lurking on groups called "dansdeals" (which it now seems from responses on this thread may have little or nothing to do with dan or his organization)

while you, or me, may hit block and move on, obviously these predatory tactics work on some people. if it can't be helped by dan that's understandable. i thought they might be admins on these groups and wanted to make them aware of what is going on. that's all.