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Author Topic: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions  (Read 965267 times)

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5720 on: May 25, 2023, 04:22:57 PM »
Use pasta
בבלאי תפשאי see משנה ברורה on תקכז ד
better to use canned tuna despite ב"ה ד"ה עדשים
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5721 on: May 25, 2023, 06:29:35 PM »
בבלאי תפשאי see משנה ברורה on תקכז ד
better to use canned tuna despite ב"ה ד"ה עדשים
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5722 on: June 02, 2023, 01:36:04 PM »
Is it brought down in seforim how much Yizkor gelt should be ?

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #5723 on: June 02, 2023, 04:55:23 PM »
Does anyone here by any chance know of a mareh makom that would explain how to reconcile the shitas haramba"m in regard to ayin hora, sheidim etc. with a)all the gemoras that discuss sheidim and more importantly the issur of counting benei yisroel?
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #5724 on: June 04, 2023, 12:06:21 AM »
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Wow, that is from a long time ago.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #5725 on: June 04, 2023, 12:06:37 AM »
Wow, that is from a long time ago.
But thank you in any event.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #5726 on: June 05, 2023, 09:15:04 AM »
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He doesn't really answer the question. Rather just says the Rambam doesn't hold of sheidim et al.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #5727 on: June 05, 2023, 09:41:04 AM »
He doesn't really answer the question. Rather just says the Rambam doesn't hold of sheidim et al.
Right. He’s saying that the Rambam could not accept those Gemaras.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5728 on: June 10, 2023, 10:50:13 PM »
My 6 year old son was making kiddush shabbos day and he started reading kiddush of ליל שבת from the bentcher. DW shushed him and directed him to the right kiddush.
I was thinking that he technically should be be saying kiddush of friday night, as he doesn't stay up for the Friday night meal. Never heard that done though. Anyone have a reason why not?

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5729 on: June 10, 2023, 10:54:11 PM »
My 6 year old son was making kiddush shabbos day and he started reading kiddush of ליל שבת from the bentcher. DW shushed him and directed him to the right kiddush.
I was thinking that he technically should be be saying kiddush of friday night, as he doesn't stay up for the Friday night meal. Never heard that done though. Anyone have a reason why not?
Interesting question. Reminds me of the discussion if a koton should make kiddush on yom kippur.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5730 on: June 10, 2023, 11:26:50 PM »
My 6 year old son was making kiddush shabbos day and he started reading kiddush of ליל שבת from the bentcher. DW shushed him and directed him to the right kiddush.
I was thinking that he technically should be be saying kiddush of friday night, as he doesn't stay up for the Friday night meal. Never heard that done though. Anyone have a reason why not?
You're right, and that's the halacha for an adult that missed Friday night Kiddush

https://www.dailyhalacha.com/m/halacha.aspx?id=2854

https://asktherav.com/16874-what-should-i-do-about-kiddush-if-i-slept-through-the-entire-friday-night/
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5731 on: June 10, 2023, 11:50:23 PM »
My 6 year old son was making kiddush shabbos day and he started reading kiddush of ליל שבת from the bentcher. DW shushed him and directed him to the right kiddush.
I was thinking that he technically should be be saying kiddush of friday night, as he doesn't stay up for the Friday night meal. Never heard that done though. Anyone have a reason why not?
Confusing chinuch?

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5732 on: June 10, 2023, 11:51:27 PM »
You're right, and that's the halacha for an adult that missed Friday night Kiddush

https://www.dailyhalacha.com/m/halacha.aspx?id=2854

https://asktherav.com/16874-what-should-i-do-about-kiddush-if-i-slept-through-the-entire-friday-night/
That's true by an adult.

I think the question with a child would be if his chinuch should be based off of what he would need to do in this situation (saying the friday night kiddush by day), or if it should based off of what he would normally do as an adult (saying day kiddush by day because he would be awake at night to say the night kiddush).

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5733 on: June 10, 2023, 11:57:38 PM »
That's true by an adult.

I think the question with a child would be if his chinuch should be based off of what he would need to do in this situation (saying the friday night kiddush by day), or if it should based off of what he would normally do as an adult (saying day kiddush by day because he would be awake at night to say the night kiddush).
Apparently my father held the latter...
But either way we'd have to explain to the child that they're saying night Kiddush because they missed it and not simply allow them to proceed in error
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5734 on: June 11, 2023, 12:14:28 AM »
My recollection is that chinuch does not create tashlumin for something not done at the proper time. I think this is discussed regarding havdala, but I would need to look this up. I am unsure about this.
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5735 on: June 11, 2023, 12:22:54 AM »
My recollection is that chinuch does not create tashlumin for something not done at the proper time. I think this is discussed regarding havdala, but I would need to look this up. I am unsure about this.
It is not clear that this is a din תשלומין.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5736 on: June 11, 2023, 12:53:28 AM »
It is not clear that this is a din תשלומין.
Correct and the sane goes for havdala IIRC
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5737 on: June 11, 2023, 01:22:08 AM »
I never heard not to feed a 6 yr old before kiddush or require him to make kiddush on his own. Pretty clear halachically that a child of that age is allowed to eat.


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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5738 on: June 11, 2023, 01:26:08 AM »
I never heard not to feed a 6 yr old before kiddush or require him to make kiddush on his own. Pretty clear halachically that a child of that age is allowed to eat.
He's allowed to eat before kiddush. My kids like to make their own kiddush by the seuda for fun. One day ill be mechanech them how it's supposed to be done ברוב עם  ;)

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #5739 on: June 14, 2023, 07:25:24 PM »
While I understand the sentiment, IMHO a dislike button is like shaking a lady's hands (though maybe slightly less scary). R' Moshe (as far as I can recall) says it is basically either muttar lechatchila (at least in theory) or yehoreg v'al yaavor, depending on the daas of the male doing the shaking.
Are you referring to R' Moshe's opinion in אגרות משה ח"ז (אה"ע ד) סי' לב ט?

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