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Author Topic: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions  (Read 1091873 times)

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6180 on: June 04, 2024, 10:46:34 AM »


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Is there a typo or punctuation incorrect? Can't make heads or tails about what he's saying

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6181 on: June 04, 2024, 12:40:50 PM »
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6182 on: June 04, 2024, 01:45:17 PM »
What, and she's going to sit at the head table and make Kiddush for everyone?? :o
how about just for some people in the kitchen... Now we're onto what's practical and not what's muttar....
Bottom line, it's very possible to have frum help in the house and was fairly common in pre war Europe for those that could afford help

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6183 on: June 04, 2024, 02:00:28 PM »
how about just for some people in the kitchen... Now we're onto what's practical and not what's muttar....
Bottom line, it's very possible to have frum help in the house and was fairly common in pre war Europe for those that could afford help
As discussed in a number of places by poskim including Sefer Chofetz Chaim
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6184 on: June 04, 2024, 02:01:56 PM »

Is there a typo or punctuation incorrect? Can't make heads or tails about what he's saying
First sentence: A live voice is always assur.
Second sentence: A recorded voice isn’t true erva, so it’s permissibility depends if it causes hirhur.
Third sentence: Knowing the woman isn’t a factor.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6185 on: June 04, 2024, 05:24:53 PM »
First sentence: A live voice is always assur.
Second sentence: A recorded voice isn’t true erva, so it’s permissibility depends if it causes hirhur.
Third sentence: Knowing the woman isn’t a factor.
This gets involved in the Chazon Ish about whether erva and hirhur are separate or the same.
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6186 on: June 04, 2024, 06:33:09 PM »
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6187 on: June 05, 2024, 03:10:16 AM »
This gets involved in the Chazon Ish about whether erva and hirhur are separate or the same.
IIRC: In the intro, Rabbi Frankel writes that there were three reasons to include psakim in the sefer.
1. The psak is not well known among the hamon am.
2. It is easy to misunderstand a teshuva from Rav Moshe and think the opposite, but Rav Dovid was mekabel from Rav Moshe how to understand the teshuva.
3. A significant yesh cholkim.
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6188 on: June 05, 2024, 01:39:34 PM »
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Is there any shitah against hearing the literal "voice of a woman" speaking, or
is this a misconception? If the latter, has any of you encountered this before?
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6189 on: June 05, 2024, 01:58:06 PM »
Is there any shitah against hearing the literal "voice of a woman" speaking, or
is this a misconception? If the latter, has any of you encountered this before?
Technically the Gemara doesn’t say “singing”, it says קול. The Gemara also explicitly applies קול באשה ערוה to instances where there doesn’t seem to be singing, such as שאילת שלום.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6190 on: June 05, 2024, 02:37:28 PM »
Reading the first sentence, I thought his point was gonna be that "We can all hear you listening to kol isha music even when your windows are closed."

Now that would've been a good point...

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6191 on: June 05, 2024, 07:35:18 PM »
Technically the Gemara doesn’t say “singing”, it says קול. [...]

That's why I wrote it like that.

[...] The Gemara also explicitly applies קול באשה ערוה to instances where there doesn’t seem to be singing, such as שאילת שלום.

From the discussion of whether it is allowed via another person, it is clear that the issue of שאילת שלום is not
in hearing her voice. Also, if this is the case, how should Pirkei Avos 1:5 ("Al tarbeh sichah") be understood?
Is the Tanna warning us against doing too much of something that's already assur min haTorah?
« Last Edit: June 05, 2024, 08:07:28 PM by Randomex »
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6192 on: June 05, 2024, 11:26:41 PM »
That's why I wrote it like that.

From the discussion of whether it is allowed via another person, it is clear that the issue of שאילת שלום is not in hearing her voice.
This is incorrect. The Gemara clearly says there would be a קול אשה issue before the Gemara introduced the next problem of אין שואלים באשה.

Also, if this is the case, how should Pirkei Avos 1:5 ("Al tarbeh sichah") be understood?
Is the Tanna warning us against doing too much of something that's already assur min haTorah?
Similar questions are raised by the achronim (ים של שלמה) who say only singing is forbidden. I don’t know the answer, perhaps certain types of talking are worse than others, as virtually explicit in kiddushin.

Anyway, if you want to know if there is anyone who maintains it isn’t limited to singing, the answer is yes, there are some achronim that say so.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6193 on: June 06, 2024, 12:30:35 AM »
I seem to recall a discussion by some modern-day Poskim re: enthusiastic greetings from an ervah being ossur according to some (but not all). I'll try to ask Rabbi Stilerman.  8)
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6194 on: June 07, 2024, 05:00:22 AM »
Anyway, AYLOR if you need to tell them where you live. I asked R' Yitzchok Silver, and he told me that its not any of the airlines business where you live, and if you are truely inconvenienced by the missing luggage, and you dont blatantly lie about your residence ("I live in NY" when you have lived the past 10 years in JLM, rather just show them your licence with your US address)...
Rabbi Berkovits is machmir even by omission and even where it was a genuine inconvenience. He says try to convince them if you can, that's it.
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6196 on: June 07, 2024, 11:07:03 AM »
I recall hearing a vort I think in the name of rav hutner explaing why the Baal shem tov was niftar on shevuos andthe GRA on succos, Anyone ever heard something along these lines.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6197 on: June 07, 2024, 12:13:00 PM »
Psak: You are not obligated to avoid playing low-stakes poker with Sephardim.

From https://dinonline.org/2013/06/21/invitation-to-poker-game/ :

Q: I am part of a poker game that meets for a few hours every month. We play for small amounts of money. We are all Ashkenazim and one of the players wants to ask a Sephardi to join us. I say no because of the shita of the Rambam and the Mechaber which says that gambling is gezel. We posken like the Rema and Tosphos and it is not gezel for Ashkenazim. I feel having this Sephardi will be placing a stumbling block before the blind and we will be over on making him do aveiros. It has been a point of contention. Please give me a pesak, Is it okay to play cards with a Sephardi? Thanks you.

A: This is an interesting question.

Although you are right not to invite a Sephardi to play, I think that you don’t have to object to the others inviting him, and if he joins you can continue playing.

Best wishes.

Sources:
As the question correctly notes, there is a difference in rulings for gambling between Ashkenazim and Sephardim, whereby it is permitted for Ashkenazim to gamble (where the person has a profession), but not for Sephardim (for whom the Shulchan Aruch rules that this is a form of gezel).

Based on this there will be a problem of inviting a Sephardi to play,

However, there are some considerations that will possible provide room for leniency.

One consideration is the fact that you are playing for small amounts of money alone, indicating that the activity is meant as a recreational pastime, and not as proper gambling. The money is only there to make it more interesting, and for small amounts one can assume that all players are fully prepared to part with their share.

Another consideration is that poker is not about luck alone, but involves much skill, too, as we see from the fact that professional players make money in the long run.

There is certainly room to dispute both of these considerations, yet, together with the fact that the Rema is lenient, I think they are sufficient cause for not objecting to the invitation, though as noted in the answer I think you are right in not inviting yourself.
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions
« Reply #6199 on: June 07, 2024, 02:37:21 PM »
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