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Author Topic: All Halocha Shailos and Tiffeh Questions  (Read 950241 times)

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #300 on: September 27, 2014, 09:47:43 PM »
Can one use weeping willow for aravos?
In R sterns book it says no because it has Pegimos gasos (really?)
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #301 on: September 27, 2014, 10:22:41 PM »
Can one use weeping willow for aravos?
In R sterns book it says no because it has Pegimos gasos (really?)

Pretty sure that is correct.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #302 on: September 27, 2014, 10:35:44 PM »
Can one use weeping willow for aravos?

In R sterns book it says no because it has Pegimos gasos (really?)

I grew up with 2 huge weeping willows in the yard in Monsey. I remember being told that we shouldn't use them and never did, butthere were some who I saw using them. Don't remember a clear reason and vaguely remember not really being satisfied with what I was told
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #303 on: September 27, 2014, 10:48:12 PM »
I grew up with 2 huge weeping willows in the yard in Monsey. I remember being told that we shouldn't use them and never did, butthere were some who I saw using them. Don't remember a clear reason and vaguely remember not really being satisfied with what I was told
A possibility: The weeping willow branches tend to weep downward. This would be a problem if your normal aravos were facing down..
Also, in R Adas's book, he says that if a regular arava, (not a weeping willow) the leaves are drooping downward, it would be possul according to the chazon ish [because it is not kederech gediloso.(?)]

What would you say about a WW, the leaves and the actual bad tend to weep downward.. But one can argue that it is indeed derech gediloso.

AFAIK the pegimos are not that bad; IMHO they are definitely comparable to the pegimos pictured in R Adas's book that "R Chaim K said are fine"...

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #304 on: September 30, 2014, 02:37:17 PM »
Does making up a story to get a friend to a certain place for a surprise proposal count as lying l'sheim shalom bayis?

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #305 on: September 30, 2014, 03:33:27 PM »
Does making up a story to get a friend to a certain place for a surprise proposal count as lying l'sheim shalom bayis?
No IMHO

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #306 on: September 30, 2014, 03:36:01 PM »

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #308 on: September 30, 2014, 10:47:53 PM »
why not?
#1 Shulem bayis is between husband and wife.
#2 A lie for shulem is allowed when otherwise the shulem will be disturbed.
#3 Even to prevent disturbance of shulem you may only lie if there's no other option.

Again, I wrote IMHO, I might be wrong.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #309 on: October 01, 2014, 05:43:07 PM »
Can I be meishiv mipnei hakovod in mid of asher yatzar or birkas hamazon?

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #310 on: October 01, 2014, 05:53:59 PM »
Can I be meishiv mipnei hakovod in mid of asher yatzar or birkas hamazon?
iinm birkas hamazon has din like shmone esrai
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #311 on: October 01, 2014, 05:56:31 PM »
iinm birkas hamazon has din like shmone esrai
I think that's only the first Brachah.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #312 on: October 01, 2014, 07:05:48 PM »
I think that's only the first Brachah.
possible, but in 183.8 and mishna berura it does not differentiate.
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #313 on: October 01, 2014, 07:21:13 PM »
possible, but in 183.8 and mishna berura it does not differentiate.
and asher yatzar?

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #314 on: October 01, 2014, 07:35:37 PM »
and asher yatzar?
don't remember specifically, but according to the training brought by mishna berura to differentiate between bhmz and shema it should be like shema
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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #315 on: October 02, 2014, 11:07:45 PM »
if i give $500 to tzedakah on my arrival card, does it count that i gave the whole $500? would get 2.2 cpd back

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #316 on: October 02, 2014, 11:55:45 PM »
if i give $500 to tzedakah on my arrival card, does it count that i gave the whole $500? would get 2.2 cpd back
How about if you gave it on an Amex like the SPG where the points can be worth that much? I don't see why not although I don't claim to be a rav.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #317 on: October 02, 2014, 11:58:28 PM »
How about if you gave it on an Amex like the SPG where the points can be worth that much? I don't see why not although I don't claim to be a rav.
was thinking that but really no difference...it's considered miles on arrival as well, just cashes in differently

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #318 on: October 03, 2014, 01:18:02 AM »
if i give $500 to tzedakah on my arrival card, does it count that i gave the whole $500? would get 2.2 cpd back
The way I see it (and I'm no Rav either...) it's like getting a door prize at a charity event or something like that. Would you deduct that value from tzadaka? Don't think so.

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Re: All Halocha Shailos and teiffa Questions
« Reply #319 on: October 03, 2014, 09:18:54 AM »
The way I see it (and I'm no Rav either...) it's like getting a door prize at a charity event or something like that. Would you deduct that value from tzadaka? Don't think so.

I've heard that some Rabbonim say that if you use Maaser for a Chinese auction and then you win, the prize has to go to tzedakah.

I didn't hear this directly from a rabbi, so take it for what it's worth.