So they can be strong and independent but as long as they are not seen in public. I wonder why that is, NOT!!
No one said they can't be seen in public. But you setting publicity as the bar for determining a person's virtues is telling. You talk a lot about needing to be open minded, but when it comes to the values of the Orthodox Jewish communities, you take a massive dump on your own ethos. You don't get to set the standard by which other people determine virtue. You talk a good game about being a centrist, and maybe you are fiscally conservative, but when it comes to social values, you're out there hugging the left field foul pole.