Was not bashing but it all fairness I see your point and should not have used hair as an example.
You're missing the forest for the trees. The example doesn't matter. The point is that different cultures have different value systems. How specific traits and virtues manifest themselves in individuals within those systems is subjective. You make a blanket statement that a person's station in life is a testament to virtues you've never seen them exhibit, solely based on some social litmus test that doles out virtues in accordance with results, regardless of how those results were achieved. For you to proclaim that because our value system doesn't lend itself to many public displays of accomplishment, and therefore we must not have women who are strong and independent, is ignorant and elitist.
I don't mean this as a personal attack, and I hope you don't take it as such. The reality is, this virtue signalling is not unique in today's society. In fact, Michelle Obama displayed it in full force just the other day during her DNC speech. The assumption that there is one set of values by which we all should live is possibly the biggest mistake the Obama administration made, and it gave us President Donald Trump. When you assume that one who hasn't achieved "X" must not have what it takes to accomplish that goal, you dismiss anyone who doesn't value that achievement the same way you do. You tell the world that there is only one way to attain these virtues, and if you don't have the same values, your worth is automatically diminished. Frankly, this attitude is prevalent throughout the Democratic Party, and it is the reason there is still a very good chance that Trump will win again.