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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #21 on: March 18, 2020, 08:16:32 AM »
I've been waiting over 5 years with bated breath for someone to say that!
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #22 on: March 18, 2020, 04:24:51 PM »
so many small weddings going on and i literally cry by each video.  its less than what they did in the old shtetl.  barely minyan for bentching. and there is nothing we can do about it.  many couples are taking it in stride. but some looked like they were on the verge of crying   :'( :'( :'(
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #23 on: March 18, 2020, 04:32:43 PM »
so many small weddings going on and i literally cry by each video.  its less than what they did in the old shtetl.  barely minyan for bentching. and there is nothing we can do about it.  many couples are taking it in stride. but some looked like they were on the verge of crying   :'( :'( :'(
This is worth crying over?! Bh they are getting married! Hopefully everyone will stay healthy. With the zchus of not having blood on their hands, by not perpetuating the spread of the virus, they can go and build a bayis neman.

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #24 on: March 18, 2020, 04:36:21 PM »
This is worth crying over?! Bh they are getting married! Hopefully everyone will stay healthy. With the zchus of not having blood on their hands, by not perpetuating the spread of the virus, they can go and build a bayis neman.
its not about if its worth crying. and obviously new home is a beautiful thing. its still sad to see the day they dreamed of go up in smokes

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #25 on: March 18, 2020, 04:36:47 PM »
This is worth crying over?! Bh they are getting married! Hopefully everyone will stay healthy. With the zchus of not having blood on their hands, by not perpetuating the spread of the virus, they can go and build a bayis neman.

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #26 on: March 18, 2020, 04:37:34 PM »
This is worth crying over?! Bh they are getting married! Hopefully everyone will stay healthy. With the zchus of not having blood on their hands, by not perpetuating the spread of the virus, they can go and build a bayis neman.
None of this changes the fact that it's a very sad situation.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #27 on: March 18, 2020, 04:37:53 PM »
its not about if its worth crying. and obviously new home is a beautiful thing. its still sad to see the day they dreamed of go up in smokes

100% but this is what Hashem wants now, its easy to say though, it must be very hard for them.
But its OK to feel "hope" that a middle way can be adopted going forward

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #28 on: March 18, 2020, 04:59:49 PM »
100% but this is what Hashem wants now, its easy to say though, it must be very hard for them.
But its OK to feel "hope" that a middle way can be adopted going forward
It would be much harder for them if something ch"v happens to, lets say, a grandparent from them not being careful enough.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #29 on: March 18, 2020, 06:28:00 PM »
It would be much harder for them if something ch"v happens to, lets say, a grandparent from them not being careful enough.
While this is true, put yourself into their shoes for a minute. Imagine you are the choson getting married. This is once in a lifetime for you. You dreamt of this day from the day you were born. Wouldnt you be disappointed? I applaud each and every one of such chasunos as it is absolutely the right thing to do in such a time. But I cannot imagine how tough it is for them.

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #30 on: March 18, 2020, 06:46:23 PM »
While this is true, put yourself into their shoes for a minute. Imagine you are the choson getting married. This is once in a lifetime for you. You dreamt of this day from the day you were born. Wouldnt you be disappointed? I applaud each and every one of such chasunos as it is absolutely the right thing to do in such a time. But I cannot imagine how tough it is for them.
Exactly!!   I spoke to a chosson getting married sometime soon(they arent even sure when!)  Sad situation

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #31 on: March 18, 2020, 06:47:37 PM »
While this is true, put yourself into their shoes for a minute. Imagine you are the choson getting married. This is once in a lifetime for you. You dreamt of this day from the day you were born. Wouldnt you be disappointed? I applaud each and every one of such chasunos as it is absolutely the right thing to do in such a time. But I cannot imagine how tough it is for them.
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As I wrote in a different thread, this is happening with a cousin.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #33 on: March 18, 2020, 08:24:04 PM »
This is worth crying over?! Bh they are getting married! Hopefully everyone will stay healthy. With the zchus of not having blood on their hands, by not perpetuating the spread of the virus, they can go and build a bayis neman.
Yeah, it's worth crying over not having your parents or grandparents by your wedding.

My grandmothers are missing their granddaughter's wedding next week. They've been praying and dreaming about being at her wedding for more than a decade. It's absolutely the correct decision. Doesn't make it any less heart breaking.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #34 on: March 18, 2020, 08:28:27 PM »
Heard from someone who marries off in two weeks that he'll give the money saved to the newly wed couple. Grand idea when you can afford that!

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #35 on: March 18, 2020, 08:50:37 PM »
Why are people not pushing off weddings for the time being? Is that not an option?
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #36 on: March 18, 2020, 08:55:24 PM »
Why are people not pushing off weddings for the time being? Is that not an option?

See above in this thread. If anything people are making them earlier. The wedding I was referring to, the couple got engaged last week.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #37 on: March 18, 2020, 09:03:48 PM »
I'm working with a local organization to set up food distribution at a location, and mid meeting (3:00pm ish) we had a party planner roll in and start setting up for a wedding mere hours later. One of the halls here is in a building connected to retirement home. I got married there myself. Apparently a resident tested positive and the entire building, flowers, food, and all, went on lockdown. They ended up transferring it all over in atter of hours to a more local cheder gym/lunchroom. Craziness.
I was supposed to be at that wedding  :-X
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #38 on: March 18, 2020, 09:04:29 PM »
Why are people not pushing off weddings for the time being? Is that not an option?

By chasidim we dont push off a wedding.
In addition a wedding used to look a little similar to what youre seeing now.

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #39 on: March 18, 2020, 09:12:14 PM »
I know people don't push off weddings, I'm asking what is the source?
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