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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #30 on: March 18, 2020, 06:46:23 PM »
While this is true, put yourself into their shoes for a minute. Imagine you are the choson getting married. This is once in a lifetime for you. You dreamt of this day from the day you were born. Wouldnt you be disappointed? I applaud each and every one of such chasunos as it is absolutely the right thing to do in such a time. But I cannot imagine how tough it is for them.
Exactly!!   I spoke to a chosson getting married sometime soon(they arent even sure when!)  Sad situation

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #31 on: March 18, 2020, 06:47:37 PM »
While this is true, put yourself into their shoes for a minute. Imagine you are the choson getting married. This is once in a lifetime for you. You dreamt of this day from the day you were born. Wouldnt you be disappointed? I applaud each and every one of such chasunos as it is absolutely the right thing to do in such a time. But I cannot imagine how tough it is for them.
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As I wrote in a different thread, this is happening with a cousin.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #33 on: March 18, 2020, 08:24:04 PM »
This is worth crying over?! Bh they are getting married! Hopefully everyone will stay healthy. With the zchus of not having blood on their hands, by not perpetuating the spread of the virus, they can go and build a bayis neman.
Yeah, it's worth crying over not having your parents or grandparents by your wedding.

My grandmothers are missing their granddaughter's wedding next week. They've been praying and dreaming about being at her wedding for more than a decade. It's absolutely the correct decision. Doesn't make it any less heart breaking.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #34 on: March 18, 2020, 08:28:27 PM »
Heard from someone who marries off in two weeks that he'll give the money saved to the newly wed couple. Grand idea when you can afford that!

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #35 on: March 18, 2020, 08:50:37 PM »
Why are people not pushing off weddings for the time being? Is that not an option?
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #36 on: March 18, 2020, 08:55:24 PM »
Why are people not pushing off weddings for the time being? Is that not an option?

See above in this thread. If anything people are making them earlier. The wedding I was referring to, the couple got engaged last week.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #37 on: March 18, 2020, 09:03:48 PM »
I'm working with a local organization to set up food distribution at a location, and mid meeting (3:00pm ish) we had a party planner roll in and start setting up for a wedding mere hours later. One of the halls here is in a building connected to retirement home. I got married there myself. Apparently a resident tested positive and the entire building, flowers, food, and all, went on lockdown. They ended up transferring it all over in atter of hours to a more local cheder gym/lunchroom. Craziness.
I was supposed to be at that wedding  :-X
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #38 on: March 18, 2020, 09:04:29 PM »
Why are people not pushing off weddings for the time being? Is that not an option?

By chasidim we dont push off a wedding.
In addition a wedding used to look a little similar to what youre seeing now.

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #39 on: March 18, 2020, 09:12:14 PM »
I know people don't push off weddings, I'm asking what is the source?
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #40 on: March 18, 2020, 09:14:00 PM »
By chasidim we dont push off a wedding.
In addition a wedding used to look a little similar to what youre seeing now.
Hopefully one day it will again!
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #41 on: March 18, 2020, 09:18:22 PM »
I know people don't push off weddings, I'm asking what is the source?
At least for chabad sources

Once the date for a wedding has been fixed, the custom is that it is not postponed (and certainly if there is no valid reason to do so).
אגרות קודש ח"י ע' יב
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 If for whatever reason both mechutanim agreed to postpone the date of a wedding, then on the day that was originally fixed as the wedding day, they should write Tenaim (in addition to the fact that they had already made a Vort) and the parents from both sides should get together and discuss matters pertaining to the forthcoming wedding. This meeting should be in the form of a simchah gathering with a Seudas Mitzvah, such as a Siyum Masechta or a Melave Malka, and they should farbreng  with simchah.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #42 on: March 18, 2020, 09:57:37 PM »
See above in this thread. If anything people are making them earlier. The wedding I was referring to, the couple got engaged last week.
So why are they doing this?
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #43 on: March 18, 2020, 10:17:59 PM »
So why are they doing this?
Because noone knows whats going to be tomorrow. There is no telling when we will be able to have normal weddings again.

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #44 on: March 19, 2020, 07:08:04 AM »
so many small weddings going on and i literally cry by each video.  its less than what they did in the old shtetl.  barely minyan for bentching. and there is nothing we can do about it.  many couples are taking it in stride. but some looked like they were on the verge of crying   :'( :'( :'(

Hopefully this can teach us that we dont need to spend tens of thousands of dollars for one nights party,