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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #80 on: April 01, 2020, 11:22:07 AM »
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #81 on: April 01, 2020, 02:40:38 PM »
The chosson and kallah can't be expected to understand that

Do you think that can be changed?

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #82 on: April 01, 2020, 02:45:30 PM »
The chosson and kallah can't be expected to understand that
i would say as one myself that a good amount of us are looking at the situation with the perspective is that whats the most important thing getting married or doing it in a nice hall with all your family and friends and while it may be hard we are happy to make the best of the situation we are put in and not let all the (close) secondary priorities get in the way of the biggest day in our lives

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #83 on: April 01, 2020, 02:53:41 PM »
The lack of empathy in this post....

The wedding was beautiful in its simplicity. It was still breathtakingly sad at the same time.

I disagree. I don’t think it’s sad that we can’t continue to do something that is seemingly mandatory and necessary only because we’ve been foolishly doing it for a long time. There is r”l no dearth of objectively sad events occurring now.

I was commenting on the size of weddings; OP mentioned that it was sad because it was small. Your point that at least family should be attending is fair. It is certainly sad when a grandparent cannot attend the wedding of their own grandchild.

Still, point taken.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #84 on: April 01, 2020, 03:01:47 PM »
I disagree. I don’t think it’s sad that we can’t continue to do something that is seemingly mandatory and necessary only because we’ve been foolishly doing it for a long time. There is r”l no dearth of objectively sad events occurring now.

I was commenting on the size of weddings; OP mentioned that it was sad because it was small. Your point that at least family should be attending is fair. It is certainly sad when a grandparent cannot attend the wedding of their own grandchild.

Still, point taken.
This wedding would have had 400-500 people just with family and close friends only. It would have had a one man band, no open bar, no extravagances. Why shouldn't weddings be celebrated like that?

There was barely a minyan at the chupah. 2600 people tuned in to live stream.

Big doesn't always mean lavish. And even lavish isn't always wasteful.

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #85 on: April 01, 2020, 03:12:36 PM »
This wedding would have had 400-500 people just with family and close friends only. It would have had a one man band, no open bar, no extravagances. Why shouldn't weddings be celebrated like that?

There was barely a minyan at the chupah. 2600 people tuned in to live stream.

Big doesn't always mean lavish. And even lavish isn't always wasteful.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #86 on: April 01, 2020, 04:15:59 PM »
Why are people so hesitant to delay a wedding under current circumstances? Halacha? Minhag? Feelings?

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #87 on: April 01, 2020, 04:29:52 PM »
Why are people so hesitant to delay a wedding under current circumstances? Halacha? Minhag? Feelings?

By chasidim definitely a minhag, cant speak for others

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #88 on: April 07, 2020, 12:23:44 AM »
Why are people so hesitant to delay a wedding under current circumstances? Halacha? Minhag? Feelings?
I would say it depends on how close to the wedding it is..

For weddings that were supposed to take place right after this whole thing happened it's too close to push it off indefinitely, when noone knows how long it will go on.

For weddings after Lag Beomer I'm assuming we will see many more pushing off the weddings