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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #40 on: March 18, 2020, 09:14:00 PM »
By chasidim we dont push off a wedding.
In addition a wedding used to look a little similar to what youre seeing now.
Hopefully one day it will again!
Memories last forever, make them while you can.

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #41 on: March 18, 2020, 09:18:22 PM »
I know people don't push off weddings, I'm asking what is the source?
At least for chabad sources

Once the date for a wedding has been fixed, the custom is that it is not postponed (and certainly if there is no valid reason to do so).
אגרות קודש ח"י ע' יב
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 If for whatever reason both mechutanim agreed to postpone the date of a wedding, then on the day that was originally fixed as the wedding day, they should write Tenaim (in addition to the fact that they had already made a Vort) and the parents from both sides should get together and discuss matters pertaining to the forthcoming wedding. This meeting should be in the form of a simchah gathering with a Seudas Mitzvah, such as a Siyum Masechta or a Melave Malka, and they should farbreng — with simchah.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #42 on: March 18, 2020, 09:57:37 PM »
See above in this thread. If anything people are making them earlier. The wedding I was referring to, the couple got engaged last week.
So why are they doing this?
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #43 on: March 18, 2020, 10:17:59 PM »
So why are they doing this?
Because noone knows whats going to be tomorrow. There is no telling when we will be able to have normal weddings again.

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #44 on: March 19, 2020, 07:08:04 AM »
so many small weddings going on and i literally cry by each video.  its less than what they did in the old shtetl.  barely minyan for bentching. and there is nothing we can do about it.  many couples are taking it in stride. but some looked like they were on the verge of crying   :'( :'( :'(

Hopefully this can teach us that we dont need to spend tens of thousands of dollars for one nights party,

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #45 on: March 19, 2020, 09:02:16 AM »
Hopefully this can teach us that we dont need to spend tens of thousands of dollars for one nights party,
Does the bride and groom (sorry don't know the Jewish names) make back in gifts what the wedding costs?
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #46 on: March 19, 2020, 09:13:25 AM »
Does the bride and groom (sorry don't know the Jewish names) make back in gifts what the wedding costs?

I doubt it. In our communities people get invited easily to over 30 weddings per year.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #47 on: March 19, 2020, 09:16:45 AM »
I doubt it. In our communities people get invited easily to over 30 weddings per year.
I paid for our wedding and it was a net plus. Guessing most basic weddings are that way. Many like to have an idea how much a plate it is. They will give that plus a gift (mostly monetary).
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #48 on: March 19, 2020, 09:30:37 AM »
I paid for our wedding and it was a net plus. Guessing most basic weddings are that way. Many like to have an idea how much a plate it is. They will give that plus a gift (mostly monetary).

Do you think people would give that much at today's prices and if they got invited to 30 weddings per year?
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #49 on: March 19, 2020, 09:35:01 AM »
Does the bride and groom (sorry don't know the Jewish names) make back in gifts what the wedding costs?
The Jewish names are Chaim Todres and Chasheh Dvoshah

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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #50 on: March 19, 2020, 09:36:53 AM »
Do you think people would give that much at today's prices and if they got invited to 30 weddings per year?
When I got married my Mom wanted to know what everyone gave (she was old school). She would basically give the same.
A busy year for us would be 5 or 6 weddings.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #51 on: March 19, 2020, 09:41:19 AM »
When I got married my Mom wanted to know what everyone gave (she was old school). She would basically give the same.
A busy year for us would be 5 or 6 weddings.

At that pace (no more than 6 per year) that makes perfect sense. But as I said, that is not the case in our communities.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #52 on: March 19, 2020, 10:00:48 AM »
At that pace (no more than 6 per year) that makes perfect sense. But as I said, that is not the case in our communities.
+1 could easily be that month in a month from family only
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #53 on: March 19, 2020, 10:07:09 AM »
+1 could easily be that month in a month from family only
Remember our families do not have 18 kids each.  ;)
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #54 on: March 19, 2020, 10:28:06 AM »
Remember our families do not have 18 kids each.  ;)
Right. Which is the reason for the difference. Even at half that number of kids, with (hopefully. Definitely a stated goal) of getting married no later than the early to mid twenties, and with this virus ravaging around, you should have gotten your math lesson about exponential growth.

FTR, even with my married daughter and her family staying with us, we are still slightly short of 18 people in the house at the moment.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #55 on: March 19, 2020, 10:30:24 AM »
Right. Which is the reason for the difference. Even at half that number of kids, with (hopefully. Definitely a stated goal) of getting married no later than the early to mid twenties, and with this virus ravaging around, you should have gotten your math lesson about exponential growth.
Math was never my week (now a certain member won't know if I am doing it on purpose) point.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #56 on: March 19, 2020, 11:05:23 AM »
Math was never my week (now a certain member won't know if I am doing it on purpose) point.
feel free to call me out by name !!! ;D
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #58 on: March 20, 2020, 08:24:00 AM »
https://anash.org/gallery-corona-couldnt-stop-this-wedding/

I guess original credit goes to Pittsburgh for the idea, Crown Heights just scaled it up.

@CountValentine, how many of these do you think it's reasonable to attend? I was happy to take part and attend this one despite being barely third circle.
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Re: Weddings in next few weeks
« Reply #59 on: March 20, 2020, 09:11:40 AM »
Going to a wedding of a close friend this Sunday on a cul de sac in Monsey everyone was given time  slots to come and chuppa is for family only