Of course they are completely different. Telling someone to do something is not asking them to do something. English 101.
Do you tell your wife to do things or do you ask her. 
This is besides the main point. You are confusing the issue by bringing in secondhand info when we have it firsthand.
If to you they are totally different sentences then we’re at an impasse until a third party linguist decides the matter.
@Yehuda57 ? Do we have any linguists on board?
Trump said something tongue in cheek. How do we know it was tongue in cheek? Because Fauci testified that it wasn’t true. Him doubling down does nothing for me. It’s a joke.