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Re: מי כעמך ישראל - Post your stories here
« Reply #90 on: May 01, 2020, 10:05:05 AM »
R' Frand told a story last night tied into a pasuk in Kedoshim. With permission I will post both the vort and the story below

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R' Frand quoted a Ramban in Kedoshim on וְאָֽהַבְתָּ֥ לְרֵֽעֲךָ֖ כָּמ֑וֹךָ who writes that the pasuk cannot be understood simplistically. If this was true, then the Gemara which discusses two people travelling in the desert with one jug of water should require the person to give it away and not to drink it to preserve his own life.

R' Frand explained that וְאָֽהַבְתָּ֥ לְרֵֽעֲךָ֖ כָּמ֑וֹךָ is a lesson in how we should treat others and want good things to happen to others. A person should do for others and want for them as much as he wants for himself. A person can want his neighbor to have money or a nice house, "but I want my kids to be better than his" or "I want to be smarter." The Ramban explains that there is no carve out, a person should not want his friend to have it as good as him, except for...

R' Frand then mentioned that Mishpacha magazine had asked him his advice for people making the seder for the first time and he told them - teach your kids the songs at the end of the seder, the traditional niggunim of your family. R' Frand then stated that as he did not keep some of his father's minhagim - his father stood for all of kiddush, he sits at the bracha. His father stood for havdallah, he sits as they do in yeshiva. But he has his father's niggunim for the end of the seder as a mesorah. And he taught those to his children and they use them at their sedarim.

R' Frand next quoted a story from R' Fishel Gross about being sensitive for a neighbor's needs and wanting the best for them. A woman had lost her husband a few years prior, but she always had her children for the seder, so she was never alone. But this year as an older woman, she was home by herself for the seder. But her neighbors were sensitive to her plight - they moved their dining room table next to the window and told her to do the same. She was able to listen and participate in their seder, even though they were not in the same house.

After the Chag ended, her children called and asked how her sedarim were. Fantastic, she responded,  I was able to sing with the neighbors in their seder and they even sang the niggunim like daddy used to! I had a seder like we used to, when daddy was alive. But she did not know that the neighbor had called the children of the woman and recorded their niggunim and practiced them with the family so that they could sing them with her. This is being concerned for others and וְאָֽהַבְתָּ֥ לְרֵֽעֲךָ֖ כָּמ֑וֹךָ.

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Re: מי כעמך ישראל - Post your stories here
« Reply #91 on: May 01, 2020, 10:11:55 AM »
Same story, told a little better:

" SEDER STORY
An older couple recently moved to a senior citizen residence in Lakewood to be next to their children.  Sadly,  the man was niftar two years ago; the wife was grief stricken  and the next few years was very difficult for her.   
Then, this year she discovered that she would have to quarantine for Pesach. Inconceivable!  Not to have her husband and now, not to be with any of her children! She had never spent a yom tov alone in her life.  She was inconsolable.

One of the neighbors found out about her distress. They called her up and told her since their units are so close to each other; the family would happily move their dining room table next to her open window and have the seder and you will be with us!
And so it happened.
After the first days were over, the woman called her children, bubbling over with joy.
She couldn't stop talking about what wonderful sedorim she had enjoyed. The best part was all the songs they sang.  This family had the same minhagim and exact  niggunim of her late husband. It brought her great comfort and happiness. 
Little did she know, that this couple called each and every one of her children to hear the songs of their  late father.  The sons sang and sent it over through recorded messages.....which the family memorized for the seder night. "

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Re: מי כעמך ישראל - Post your stories here
« Reply #92 on: May 01, 2020, 10:17:29 AM »
Same story, told a little better:

" SEDER STORY
An older couple recently moved to a senior citizen residence in Lakewood to be next to their children.  Sadly,  the man was niftar two years ago; the wife was grief stricken  and the next few years was very difficult for her.   
Then, this year she discovered that she would have to quarantine for Pesach. Inconceivable!  Not to have her husband and now, not to be with any of her children! She had never spent a yom tov alone in her life.  She was inconsolable.

One of the neighbors found out about her distress. They called her up and told her since their units are so close to each other; the family would happily move their dining room table next to her open window and have the seder and you will be with us!
And so it happened.
After the first days were over, the woman called her children, bubbling over with joy.
She couldn't stop talking about what wonderful sedorim she had enjoyed. The best part was all the songs they sang.  This family had the same minhagim and exact  niggunim of her late husband. It brought her great comfort and happiness. 
Little did she know, that this couple called each and every one of her children to hear the songs of their  late father.  The sons sang and sent it over through recorded messages.....which the family memorized for the seder night. "

Yasher Koach - I took notes on the shiur that Rabbi Frand said last night which incorporated a retelling of the story, but did not have access to the full story. Was that published somewhere?

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Re: מי כעמך ישראל - Post your stories here
« Reply #93 on: May 01, 2020, 02:52:36 PM »
A person that had Corona and Boruch Hashem got better posted that he wants 1000 families should say the whole sefer tehilim to storm the heavens to end this sickness on this past shabbos. I contacted him Thursday night and he told me had 1600 families saying the complete tehilim.
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Re: מי כעמך ישראל - Post your stories here
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Re: מי כעמך ישראל - Post your stories here
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