This is all bizarre.
A little off topic but...
I live somewhat out of town within the tri state area, that used to be considered low key, although that has been changing over the last 0 to 20 years.
I estimate that I need $40k - $50k for my son's bar mitzvah in a few years.
$8k kiddush (including party planner and catering)
$12k 2 meals for 75 people plus shalosh seidos and general cost of hosting- don't forget its out of town, so lots of guest.
$6k tefillin, leining lessons, clothing for bar mitzvah boy and family
$10k even party/affair including hall rental, catering, party planning, music, photography etc.
$5k plus since I know I'm underestimating somewhere plus general inflation over the next few years
Thoughts?