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Has the whole stay-at-home situation affected your shalom bayis

Negatively?
8 (9.4%)
Positively?
39 (45.9%)
Status quo
26 (30.6%)
Too early to tell
12 (14.1%)

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Author Topic: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis  (Read 7819 times)

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Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« on: April 27, 2020, 12:49:01 AM »
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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #1 on: April 27, 2020, 12:53:24 AM »
Appreciation for what a mother deals with during 9-5 on a daily basis? I always knew it, but now I “saw” it.

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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #2 on: April 27, 2020, 12:54:59 AM »
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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #3 on: April 27, 2020, 12:59:04 AM »
I heard that the Lakewood rabbanim are now advising couples to push off their wedding because the ppl who got married in the past few weeks are finding it very hard to start a new life together in such crazy circumstances with nowhere to go and nothing to do.

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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #4 on: April 27, 2020, 01:04:42 AM »
there should be an option didn't test

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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #5 on: April 27, 2020, 01:05:41 AM »
I heard that the Lakewood rabbanim are now advising couples to push off their wedding because the ppl who got married in the past few weeks are finding it very hard to start a new life together in such crazy circumstances with nowhere to go and nothing to do.

I can think of another reason to push off the weddings. Judging by the news reporting weddings seem to be the biggest instigator of aiva (much more than something else that was banned for a short time due to aiva that I don't want to mention by name lest this thread turn into a nonsensical mudslinging session).

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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #6 on: April 27, 2020, 01:42:06 AM »
Judging by the news reporting weddings seem to be the biggest instigator of aiva

Source?
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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #7 on: April 27, 2020, 01:59:59 AM »
Source?

Read the negative news reports featuring Lakewood and about 50% of them mention Weddings. Weddings were also mentioned by Governor Murphy and the NJ AG. The other unnamed activity has not been mentioned in the press to my knowledge.

I speak about Lakewood as the OP referenced Lakewood. This may not be the case elsewhere.

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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #8 on: April 27, 2020, 09:12:24 AM »
Read the negative news reports featuring Lakewood and about 50% of them mention Weddings. Weddings were also mentioned by Governor Murphy and the NJ AG. The other unnamed activity has not been mentioned in the press to my knowledge.

I speak about Lakewood as the OP referenced Lakewood. This may not be the case elsewhere.
There’s no English word for m?n?a? So they choose weddings instead...

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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #9 on: April 27, 2020, 09:54:06 AM »
Read the negative news reports featuring Lakewood and about 50% of them mention Weddings. Weddings were also mentioned by Governor Murphy and the NJ AG. The other unnamed activity has not been mentioned in the press to my knowledge.

I speak about Lakewood as the OP referenced Lakewood. This may not be the case elsewhere.
The forbidden topic is being shared all over social media.

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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #10 on: April 27, 2020, 09:59:19 AM »
Aaand we're back, folks! We hope you enjoyed that brief intermission, now sit back, grab your popcorn, and get ready for another episode of Are You Smarter Than Moses!!!
When you find yourself agreeing with me more often than not, it's time for a cheshbon hanefesh.

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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #11 on: April 27, 2020, 10:42:46 AM »
Aaand we're back, folks! We hope you enjoyed that brief intermission, now sit back, grab your popcorn, and get ready for another episode of Are You Smarter Than Moses!!!
I guess without weddings there’s no shalom bayis so it’s kinda interconnected

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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #13 on: April 27, 2020, 10:57:05 AM »
I heard that the Lakewood rabbanim are now advising couples to push off their wedding because the ppl who got married in the past few weeks are finding it very hard to start a new life together in such crazy circumstances with nowhere to go and nothing to do.
If by being a little more together its causing them difficulties to start life together then maybe they should reconsider who they are marrying.

If you really love your wife and are excited to get married then whats the problem?


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Re: Covid-19 and Shalom Bayis
« Reply #14 on: April 27, 2020, 10:58:33 AM »
I heard that the Lakewood rabbanim are now advising couples to push off their wedding because the ppl who got married in the past few weeks are finding it very hard to start a new life together in such crazy circumstances with nowhere to go and nothing to do.
Any info on this? Any letter?