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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #75 on: June 12, 2020, 04:00:06 PM »
Based on social media pictures, it looks like the girl from the Mandarin Oriental story also isn't frum anymore.
Always interesting to see how things turn out a decade+ later, though I had some guidance from the Rebbe with that one...

wow interesting.. what a crazy world we live in. I was thinking about this and the only solution is tefila. I dont have other suggestions.

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #76 on: June 12, 2020, 04:08:24 PM »
wow interesting.. what a crazy world we live in. I was thinking about this and the only solution is tefila. I dont have other suggestions.
Yup
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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #77 on: June 12, 2020, 04:20:33 PM »
wow interesting.. what a crazy world we live in. I was thinking about this and the only solution is tefila. I dont have other suggestions.
I mean getting married someone after knowing them for a couple of months no chance it's a logical choice we just have to daven for clarity

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #78 on: June 12, 2020, 04:42:30 PM »
Dropping the girl off at the end of the date, I had a long drive home and didn't want to go off-route to find a bathroom (I'm an expert at easily getting lost).

I smiled and said, "Thank you very much, I had a really good time! Um, is it OK if I use your bathroom?"

Her: You can use the driveway if you want.

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Me: Are you serious?

Her: Sure, you don't have to park on the street, you can pull into the driveway!
Did you take up the offer?

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #79 on: June 12, 2020, 04:49:30 PM »
Dropping the girl off at the end of the date, I had a long drive home and didn't want to go off-route to find a bathroom (I'm an expert at easily getting lost).

I smiled and said, "Thank you very much, I had a really good time! Um, is it OK if I use your bathroom?"

Her: You can use the driveway if you want.

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Me: Are you serious?

Her: Sure, you don't have to park on the street, you can pull into the driveway!
She would be a perfect match for this guy:
I dated a guy once whose car looked like a homeless person lived in it. The seat was cleared but the floor was covered in junk, the cup holders exploding in old tissues and crumpled up trash.  I had to sit with legs pressed against the door to avoid touching garbage.

While driving, he pulled out a bag of chips (none for me of course) and proceeded to inhale the contents of the bag. Upon finishing, crumpled up the bag and threw it over his head to the back.

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #80 on: June 12, 2020, 04:50:35 PM »
Did you take up the offer?

Shadchan: He says you two had a really nice date and hed like to go out again. Can I set it up?
Girl: Absolutely not! The date was fine, but when he dropped me off, he said goodnight, urinated in my driveway, then drove off...

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #81 on: June 12, 2020, 05:10:44 PM »
Based on social media pictures, it looks like the girl from the Mandarin Oriental story also isn't frum anymore.
Always interesting to see how things turn out a decade+ later, though I had some guidance from the Rebbe with that one...
Would you mind sharing more?

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #82 on: June 12, 2020, 06:28:13 PM »
First date with a guy. I can see after a few minutes that it's going nowhere but I suffer through it (apparently too well).
Next day shadchan calls- before I can thank her and explain that I don't need a second date to "know", she tells me that the guy would like a second date but he doesn't want me wearing (insert tznius chumra of your choice), and that I should refrain from wearing it on our next date (and for the rest of my life of course). I was speechless. No one but my husband and I can decide on such matters. Pre-second date?! I still laugh at the ridiculousness every time I think of it.
Weird part is he ended up marrying a girl who had been very "out there" although apparently made a comeback of sorts. In his "defense" she never wears whatever he had an issue with... I guess that's all that mattered...

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #83 on: June 12, 2020, 06:34:20 PM »
First date with a guy. I can see after a few minutes that it's going nowhere but I suffer through it (apparently too well).
Next day shadchan calls- before I can thank her and explain that I don't need a second date to "know", she tells me that the guy would like a second date but he doesn't want me wearing (insert tznius chumra of your choice), and that I should refrain from wearing it on our next date (and for the rest of my life of course). I was speechless. No one but my husband and I can decide on such matters. Pre-second date?! I still laugh at the ridiculousness every time I think of it.
Weird part is he ended up marrying a girl who had been very "out there" although apparently made a comeback of sorts. In his "defense" she never wears whatever he had an issue with... I guess that's all that mattered...
Bizarre
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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #84 on: June 14, 2020, 12:14:32 AM »
Well, here's my most embarrassing dating story...I guess I should add some sort of tznius disclaimer to stop reading here.

Was going on a 1st date in the Mandarin Oriental NYC and got in the elevator to go to the lobby lounge. Drunk guy walks in behind us and asks if we're married, to which we said no.

Brother and sister? Nope.

Ohhhhhh, you're a ******, I'm in room 1423, come to me afterward please!

She later said we'd have a funny story for the kids and grandkids one day...but that wasn't meant to be.
Is Chabad the only chassidus that doesn't do bishow dating? Or are there some that do?

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #85 on: June 14, 2020, 12:17:56 AM »
Would you mind sharing more?

It would be out of context without a lot more background information into the H"P. Maybe one day.
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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #86 on: June 14, 2020, 01:37:26 AM »
Is Chabad the only chassidus that doesn't do bishow dating? Or are there some that do?
I'd say each family has their way of doing things rather than it being an overall Chassidus thing.

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #87 on: June 14, 2020, 10:10:46 AM »
It would be out of context without a lot more background information into the H"P. Maybe one day.
H"P?

No pressure either way. I was just curious.

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #88 on: June 14, 2020, 10:22:31 AM »
I mean getting married someone after knowing them for a couple of months no chance it's a logical choice we just have to daven for clarity

I dated my wife 3 months & we thought we knew each other well. We knew nothing until we got married. Your username makes sense

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #89 on: June 14, 2020, 10:25:09 AM »
Your username makes sense
gonna have to change it getting married this thursday