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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #80 on: June 12, 2020, 04:50:35 PM »
Did you take up the offer?

Shadchan: He says you two had a really nice date and he’d like to go out again. Can I set it up?
Girl: Absolutely not! The date was fine, but when he dropped me off, he said goodnight, urinated in my driveway, then drove off...
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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #81 on: June 12, 2020, 05:10:44 PM »
Based on social media pictures, it looks like the girl from the Mandarin Oriental story also isn't frum anymore.
Always interesting to see how things turn out a decade+ later, though I had some guidance from the Rebbe with that one...
Would you mind sharing more?

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #82 on: June 12, 2020, 06:28:13 PM »
First date with a guy. I can see after a few minutes that it's going nowhere but I suffer through it (apparently too well).
Next day shadchan calls- before I can thank her and explain that I don't need a second date to "know", she tells me that the guy would like a second date but he doesn't want me wearing (insert tznius chumra of your choice), and that I should refrain from wearing it on our next date (and for the rest of my life of course). I was speechless. No one but my husband and I can decide on such matters. Pre-second date?! I still laugh at the ridiculousness every time I think of it.
Weird part is he ended up marrying a girl who had been very "out there" although apparently made a comeback of sorts. In his "defense" she never wears whatever he had an issue with... I guess that's all that mattered...

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #83 on: June 12, 2020, 06:34:20 PM »
First date with a guy. I can see after a few minutes that it's going nowhere but I suffer through it (apparently too well).
Next day shadchan calls- before I can thank her and explain that I don't need a second date to "know", she tells me that the guy would like a second date but he doesn't want me wearing (insert tznius chumra of your choice), and that I should refrain from wearing it on our next date (and for the rest of my life of course). I was speechless. No one but my husband and I can decide on such matters. Pre-second date?! I still laugh at the ridiculousness every time I think of it.
Weird part is he ended up marrying a girl who had been very "out there" although apparently made a comeback of sorts. In his "defense" she never wears whatever he had an issue with... I guess that's all that mattered...
Bizarre
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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #84 on: June 14, 2020, 12:14:32 AM »
Well, here's my most embarrassing dating story...I guess I should add some sort of tznius disclaimer to stop reading here.

Was going on a 1st date in the Mandarin Oriental NYC and got in the elevator to go to the lobby lounge. Drunk guy walks in behind us and asks if we're married, to which we said no.

Brother and sister? Nope.

Ohhhhhh, you're a ******, I'm in room 1423, come to me afterward please!

She later said we'd have a funny story for the kids and grandkids one day...but that wasn't meant to be.
Is Chabad the only chassidus that doesn't do bishow dating? Or are there some that do?

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #85 on: June 14, 2020, 12:17:56 AM »
Would you mind sharing more?

It would be out of context without a lot more background information into the H"P. Maybe one day.
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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #86 on: June 14, 2020, 01:37:26 AM »
Is Chabad the only chassidus that doesn't do bishow dating? Or are there some that do?
I'd say each family has their way of doing things rather than it being an overall Chassidus thing.

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #87 on: June 14, 2020, 10:10:46 AM »
It would be out of context without a lot more background information into the H"P. Maybe one day.
H"P?

No pressure either way. I was just curious.

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #88 on: June 14, 2020, 10:22:31 AM »
I mean getting married someone after knowing them for a couple of months no chance it's a logical choice we just have to daven for clarity

I dated my wife 3 months & we thought we knew each other well. We knew nothing until we got married. Your username makes sense

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #89 on: June 14, 2020, 10:25:09 AM »
Your username makes sense
gonna have to change it getting married this thursday

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #90 on: June 14, 2020, 10:43:54 AM »
gonna have to change it getting married this thursday
mazel tov! where are you getting married? what are restrictions?

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #91 on: June 14, 2020, 10:47:20 AM »
gonna have to change it getting married this thursday


wow! mazel tov

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #92 on: June 14, 2020, 01:03:26 PM »
I dated my wife 3 months & we thought we knew each other well. We knew nothing until we got married. Your username makes sense
Do you know her now? I am still learning things.
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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #93 on: June 14, 2020, 01:10:41 PM »
Do you know her now? I am still learning things.
And how many years past? ;D

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #94 on: June 14, 2020, 01:15:47 PM »
And how many years past? ;D
Probably more than the age of most members.  ;)
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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #95 on: June 14, 2020, 01:30:05 PM »
mazel tov! where are you getting married? what are restrictions?
+1, mazel tov!. And if he's getting married in a frum hall in ny, can definitely have a full regular wedding.

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #96 on: June 14, 2020, 01:35:56 PM »
And if he's getting married in a frum hall in ny, can definitely have a full regular wedding.
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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #97 on: June 14, 2020, 01:36:58 PM »
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And you know that because you were at 2 weddings last week in brooklyn and one in monsey?

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #98 on: June 14, 2020, 01:50:34 PM »
+1, mazel tov!. And if he's getting married in a frum hall in ny, can definitely have a full regular wedding.
I'll call BS on that

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Re: Dating Stories
« Reply #99 on: June 14, 2020, 01:50:52 PM »
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Just hang up a protest sign on the door.