Dating Spots Master Thread

[grodnoking]

most people would actually think come on it's anonymous you can ask for yourself

I've met around 25 people here. I'm not to anonymous. He may not be either.

[yochiek93]

I've met around 25 people here. I'm not to anonymous. He may not be either.

My point is if he is of age (the ones that know him) will think it's for him.....

[TorontoGuy]

Is there a thread for dating experiences and tips?

[yochiek93]

Is there a thread for dating experiences and tips?

Meaning if it was a good date or not? That seems a little to far you never know who is on the forum
Tips: act yourself

[Adam101]

Meaning if it was a good date or not? That seems a little to far you never know who is on the forum
Tips: act yourself

Tip on your tip: don't act yourself. If you do you get yelled at from all sides. Mostly from the shadchanim for being too yourself. I know. I've been there...

[Emkay]

Tip on your tip: don't act yourself. If you do you get yelled at from all sides. Mostly from the shadchanim for being too yourself. I know. I've been there...

I think I pretty much acted myself when dating.

[SamKey]

I think I pretty much acted myself when dating.

ouch

[yakrot]

This is floating around on whatsapp
Prob the best place to post this.
 sorry if it's been posted elsewhere

To all guys in shidduchim: here are some guidelines to follow if you want that first date to have a chance of leading to a second one:

1) Don't talk about your hashkafos on the first date. Its kinda creepy and TMI.
2)Three hours. That's the max. You want to end off with the girl looking forward to another date, not dreading it.
3) When the girl is talking, LOOK HER IN THE FACE AND LISTEN TO WHAT SHES SAYING!
4) Don't keep steering the conversation back to yourself. If she tells you a story, ask her a question about it instead of just using her story as an excuse to talk about yourself. Listen to HEAR, not just to reply.
5) DONT SING ALONG WITH THE MUSIC IN THE LOUNGE
6) Don't get angry at the guys in the parking garage no matter how stupid they are.
7) Don't keep looking at your phone when you're driving, if you need gps, get a holder for your phone.
If the little beepy thing keeps going off in your car, you're probably driving like a maniac. Slow the heck down. Dont show off at the wheel. We want to get home alive.
9) Don't discuss which tv shows you watch on the 1st date. I barely know you.
10) it's ok to be good at things, but you're good at EVERYTHING? I find that hard to believe.

In short, try to have a good time while trying to give me one as well. Use common sense, and try to be polite and normal.

Sincerely,
A Girl In Shidduchim

[theblakdavid]

This is floating around on whatsapp
Prob the best place to post this.
 sorry if it's been posted elsewhere

To all guys in shidduchim: here are some guidelines to follow if you want that first date to have a chance of leading to a second one:

1) Don't talk about your hashkafos on the first date. Its kinda creepy and TMI.
2)Three hours. That's the max. You want to end off with the girl looking forward to another date, not dreading it.
3) When the girl is talking, LOOK HER IN THE FACE AND LISTEN TO WHAT SHES SAYING!
4) Don't keep steering the conversation back to yourself. If she tells you a story, ask her a question about it instead of just using her story as an excuse to talk about yourself. Listen to HEAR, not just to reply.
5) DONT SING ALONG WITH THE MUSIC IN THE LOUNGE
6) Don't get angry at the guys in the parking garage no matter how stupid they are.
7) Don't keep looking at your phone when you're driving, if you need gps, get a holder for your phone.
If the little beepy thing keeps going off in your car, you're probably driving like a maniac. Slow the heck down. Dont show off at the wheel. We want to get home alive.
9) Don't discuss which tv shows you watch on the 1st date. I barely know you.
10) it's ok to be good at things, but you're good at EVERYTHING? I find that hard to believe.

In short, try to have a good time while trying to give me one as well. Use common sense, and try to be polite and normal.

Sincerely,
A Girl In Shidduchim

To The Girls In Shidduchim A Couple Of Tips For You:

1)Tell your parents max 3 minutes on 1st date, I'm not your son in law yet I'm a total stranger
2)If you have a driveway please leave it open we aren't interested in circling for 15 min
3)Try not to agree with everything we say this is the 21st century girls are allowed 2 have their own opinion
4)If you can't walk in heels don't wear them!
5)Darken up on the makeup...you can enhance your facial featuresdon't hide them
6) Try to wear some color this is a date not a funeral
7) If we go out for food your allowed to eat it's kinda weird when your just watching us eat (and it's free take advantage )
8)If there's a lull in conversation you're allowed to help out it's not just the guys job to carry the conversation
9)If we're quiet in the car it's because it's hard 2 carry conversation and drive ( not because we're not interested in you)
10)Yes, guys are good at everything. Just Kidding lol...

At the end of the day we aren't against you...we're trying 2 get married 2 so hatzlacha in everything in life and we should all find our zivug soon. Amen.
Sincerely,
The Guys In Shidduchim

[Emkay]

ouch

Listen. One still married me.

[Abebee]

iplay america       

Btw i doubt anyone cares who you are asking for 

Thank you for the suggestion, and I wrote a friends because I feel funny writing I'M DATING A GIRL FROM LAKEWOOD, when I'm NOT, I'm happily married BH and was just asking for a friend. I feel funny writing something that's not true, I know in today's day and age everyone will write whatever they want. But I just felt funny saying I'm dating when I'm not.

[Emkay]

I wrote a friends because I feel funny writing I'M DATING A GIRL FROM LAKEWOOD, when I'm NOT, I'm happily married BH and was just asking for a friend.

could get awkward if your wife reads the forums

[sammy n]

could get awkward if your wife reads the forums

Most people here don't have that problem!

[sharkky]

Thank you for the suggestion, and I wrote a friends because I feel funny writing I'M DATING A GIRL FROM LAKEWOOD, when I'm NOT, I'm happily married BH and was just asking for a friend. I feel funny writing something that's not true, I know in today's day and age everyone will write whatever they want. But I just felt funny saying I'm dating when I'm not.

or u can ask abt dating spots w/o giving TMI (if ur asking abt a flight for ur friend u dont need to mention that)   whatever, it was kind of a joke    Do as u please

Hatzlocha to ur friend

[sharkky]

iplay america   

Now that this thread is abt dating tips also il add: dont be a moron and play arcades for too long, its too loud to talk    After abt 20 min get drinks and sit down, and/or play pool

[12HRS]

New tip. Don't get dating advice from an anonymous internet forum. find a trusted rebbe/advisor

[sharkky]

New tip. Don't get dating advice from an anonymous internet forum. find a trusted rebbe/advisor

thats a catch 22 

alternatively u can think for yourself and not have your rebbe micro manage your life

[TorontoGuy]

There is very little anonymity on this forum. #DOs

[aygart]

thats a catch 22 

alternatively u can think for yourself and not have your rebbe micro manage your life

Thinking for yourself does not have to mean that you don't get advice. You would be losing out on a tremendous amount of life experience. As it says in Ruach Chaim, ya'etz mechavrach vichaleit me'atzmach

[sharkky]

Thinking for yourself does not have to mean that you don't get advice. You would be losing out on a tremendous amount of life experience. As it says in Ruach Chaim, ya'etz mechavrach vichaleit me'atzmach

+1     But ppl usually go overboard, and ask when they shouldnt need to