Do you have a Happy Marriage?

[YitzyS]

My wife told me to vote definitely yes

This is the abridged version of a joke I've said at sheva brachos.

To make a short story long:

Yankel comes up to shomayim and sees two lines waiting to get into Gan Eden. The malach tells him that one line is for men who were in charge of their homes, and the second is for men who were subservient to their wives.

Yankel is surprised to see his friend Mottel, whose wife was an overbearing woman, standing in the first line. He approaches Mottel and asks him why he's standing in that line.

"I have no idea," Mottel answers, exasperated. "My wife told me to stand here."

[Definitions]

My advice for looking for a spouse:
2) Common values
These should be expanded on, but not here.

Oh shoots I was going to ask exactly that. I don't know why you don't want to expand on that here.

Also I always thought you were a male using the account your wife set up. I guess not.

Glad to hear you are both happy. Out of 1 & 2 IMHO only common values is important.

What does values refer to?

To me whenever someone says values it means religiously wise.

[yzj]

Here’s another oldie:
“My wife and I were blissfully happy for 23 years. Then we met each other.”

[m65]

I don't see that option.

u can post a question in the tech talk board, im sure someone over there can help u

[Yo ssi]

u can post a question in the tech talk board, im sure someone over there can help u

Feel free to PM

[Yenta]

As of now, according to the poll, overwhelmingly people say their marriage is great.

I wonder if this has something to do, with people wanting to believe they have a great marriage or finding it hard to be truthful with themselves or their situation.

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I find it hard to believe that so many have such marriage bliss.

[Lurker]

As of now, according to the poll, overwhelmingly people say their marriage is great.

I wonder if this has something to do, with people wanting to believe they have a great marriage or finding it hard to be truthful with themselves or their situation.

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I find it hard to believe that so many have such marriage bliss.

You mean people lie on the internet? Craziness!

[YitzyS]

As of now, according to the poll, overwhelmingly people say their marriage is great.

I wonder if this has something to do, with people wanting to believe they have a great marriage or finding it hard to be truthful with themselves or their situation.

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I find it hard to believe that so many have such marriage bliss.

Wow! With 25 votes in, 17 people are liars!

[yelped]

As of now, according to the poll, overwhelmingly people say their marriage is great.

I wonder if this has something to do, with people wanting to believe they have a great marriage or finding it hard to be truthful with themselves or their situation.

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I find it hard to believe that so many have such marriage bliss.

Why do you understand happy to mean marriage bliss? Every marriage has its ups and downs but that doesn't mean that the marriage is not happy. You have to be realistic in life and deal with things as they come. If you are realistic, you will be much happier.

[Lurker]

Real talk? You're asking the wrong question. You should be asking, "Are you happy with the state of your marriage?" No marriage is exclusively happy times. But through the struggles of the relationship, people can be happy with the state of their marriage.

Personally, I answered, "More positive than negative." I'm not always happy with the state of my marriage. There are many times when I'm not happy with myself, and that hurts my relationship. There are many times when I feel my wife and I aren't communicating properly, or aren't handling a situation correctly. My marriage is mostly happy because we work through these things. But we can be dealing with a cr@ppy situation, nothing happy about it, and still be happy with our relationship in how we're handling it.

[LNS]

As of now, according to the poll, overwhelmingly people say their marriage is great.

I wonder if this has something to do, with people wanting to believe they have a great marriage or finding it hard to be truthful with themselves or their situation.

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I find it hard to believe that so many have such marriage bliss.

why is it so hard to believe people can be happily married? when someone says they are in a bad marriage everyone believes that right away. i guess everyone just loves to nit pick the details and debate sides. its also more fun to point fingers then to actually work thru your cr@p

[YitzyS]

This thread inspired me to post this joke. (sorry for the repost...)

A yeshiva bochur calls the shadchan and presents an interesting request.
"I want the meanest, most obnoxious girl in the world. Find me a real witch, someone overbearing and unpleasant."
The shadchan naturally is surprised by the request, and she presses the boy to explain.
"My rebbi said that someone whose life is a living hell will get kaparah for their aveiros and will get a straight ticket into Gan Eden. I want to suffer through marriage."
The shadchan agreed, and called him back a short time later with a shidduch. The boy went out on a few dates, but did not discern any unpleasantness or attitude. Dejected, he called the shadchan.
"Don't worry," the shadchan assured. "I've gotten the worst reports possible about this girl. She must be just putting on a show because she's dating."
So the boy went out another few times, and they got engaged. After the marriage, he waited for her true personality to emerge, to no avail.
Finally, five years into their marriage, he turns to his sweet, gracious wife and confronts her about the discrepancy between her reputation and her actions.
His wife sneers at him. "I know why you married me," she replied. "And I want you to buuuuuuuurn!"

[biobook]

As of now, according to the poll, overwhelmingly people say their marriage is great.

Let's make that more scientifically accurate:

RESULT: As of now, according to the poll, overwhelmingly people on DDF say their marriage is great.

CONCLUSION: Join DDF!  It will make your marriage seem truly delightful!

[etech0]

-> Most ppl on DDF who chose to vote

[jj1000]

As of now, according to the poll, overwhelmingly people say their marriage is great.

I wonder if this has something to do, with people wanting to believe they have a great marriage or finding it hard to be truthful with themselves or their situation.

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I find it hard to believe that so many have such marriage bliss.

Is this any different than life itself?

People can choose to live a happy life or not to.

In my limited experience people truly can choose their attitude, at any point in life, you can choose to be happy, content, etc, or you can choose be be depressed, anxious, etc.

The circumstances of the persons life, make little difference, there are rich people who are miserable and poor people who are happy as can be.

If you never watched it, this is pretty eye opening:

[S209]

Is this any different than life itself?

People can choose to live a happy life or not to.

In my limited experience people truly can choose their attitude, at any point in life, you can choose to be happy, content, etc, or you can choose be be depressed, anxious, etc.

The circumstances of the persons life, make little difference, there are rich people who are miserable and poor people who are happy as can be.

If you never watched it, this is pretty eye opening:

Does he mention the amputee vs. lottery winner statistic? One of the most brilliant and counterintuitive pieces of information I’ve ever seen.

[jj1000]

Does he mention the amputee vs. lottery winner statistic? One of the most brilliant and counterintuitive pieces of information I’ve ever seen.

But of course.

[aygart]

Is this any different than life itself?

People can choose to live a happy life or not to.

In my limited experience people truly can choose their attitude, at any point in life, you can choose to be happy, content, etc, or you can choose be be depressed, anxious, etc.

The circumstances of the persons life, make little difference, there are rich people who are miserable and poor people who are happy as can be.

+100000000
There in my experience with those who speak to my wife about these things (and there are a bunch of them) those who are not happily married are typically not in that situation because of their spouses. There are exceptions but they seem rare.

[mmgfarb]

You guys forgot one option in the poll.....Just saying.

[yesitsme]

Tip #1 you don't have what to do, don't do it at home 😀