Totally agree.
But it still is paranoia to somehow see someone criticizing a wedding and assume they mean the chasidish way of life and not just a wedding. The fact that I, among others, felt the need to point out we are chasidish too and still think the wedding is wrong is rather telling.
Looking at it in a bubble, you're right. I have a feeling that there is history here, though, where
@erlich is coming into this conversation already convinced that people hate chassidim and the chassidic way of life, and the negative attitudes about this wedding are just confirmation of that hate. And truth be told, there is bias in the world against chassidim, and occasionally some of it spills over into DDF. This just ain't it.