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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #440 on: November 23, 2020, 04:19:30 PM »
I don't think it's paranoia or anxiety. I think it's what happens when natural defensive tendencies are mixed with a complete lack of nuance. It becomes a binary world, where if you don't love me, you must hate me, and if you're not with me, you're against me. This isn't new here, although it may be a bit more extreme than what we are used to.

"a bit" is putting it politely.  ;D

Great post otherwise.

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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #441 on: November 23, 2020, 04:20:24 PM »
I don't think it's paranoia or anxiety. I think it's what happens when natural defensive tendencies are mixed with a complete lack of nuance. It becomes a binary world, where if you don't love me, you must hate me, and if you're not with me, you're against me. This isn't new here, although it may be a bit more extreme than what we are used to.

Totally agree.

But it still is paranoia to somehow see someone criticizing a wedding and assume they mean the chasidish way of life and not just a wedding. The fact that I, among others, felt the need to point out we are chasidish too and still think the wedding is wrong is rather telling.

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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #442 on: November 23, 2020, 04:24:21 PM »
Totally agree.

But it still is paranoia to somehow see someone criticizing a wedding and assume they mean the chasidish way of life and not just a wedding. The fact that I, among others, felt the need to point out we are chasidish too and still think the wedding is wrong is rather telling.

+10000000

And I wasn't even so much criticizing the wedding.  Just the chillul hashem that came about because it was made public knowledge when it shouldn't have been.  So the answer was that it was a mistake.  Granted.  But that doesn't remove the chillul hashem.

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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #443 on: November 23, 2020, 04:24:47 PM »
Totally agree.

But it still is paranoia to somehow see someone criticizing a wedding and assume they mean the chasidish way of life and not just a wedding. The fact that I, among others, felt the need to point out we are chasidish too and still think the wedding is wrong is rather telling.

Looking at it in a bubble, you're right. I have a feeling that there is history here, though, where @erlich is coming into this conversation already convinced that people hate chassidim and the chassidic way of life, and the negative attitudes about this wedding are just confirmation of that hate. And truth be told, there is bias in the world against chassidim, and occasionally some of it spills over into DDF. This just ain't it.
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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #444 on: November 23, 2020, 04:27:43 PM »
Looking at it in a bubble, you're right. I have a feeling that there is history here, though, where @erlich is coming into this conversation already convinced that people hate chassidim and the chassidic way of life, and the negative attitudes about this wedding are just confirmation of that hate. And truth be told, there is bias in the world against chassidim, and occasionally some of it spills over into DDF. This just ain't it.

Sorry, but it wasn't just coming into this conversation.  It's happened before - I didn't read all his posts but he already jumped down the throat of people in the Tampa thread saying they are haters and against the new community just because they asked some questions that he found disagreeable.

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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #445 on: November 23, 2020, 04:30:01 PM »
Everyone is laughing. What is the joke?
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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #446 on: November 23, 2020, 04:30:42 PM »
Sorry, but it wasn't just coming into this conversation.  It's happened before - I didn't read all his posts but he already jumped down the throat of people in the Tampa thread saying they are haters and against the new community just because they asked some questions that he found disagreeable.

Hi, I'm "people in the Tampa thread."  :)

I'm not excusing the attitude, the tone, or the member. I'm just trying to rationalize how someone could possibly come to that conclusion.
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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #447 on: November 23, 2020, 04:31:16 PM »
Sorry, but it wasn't just coming into this conversation.  It's happened before - I didn't read all his posts but he already jumped down the throat of people in the Tampa thread saying they are haters and against the new community just because they asked some questions that he found disagreeable.

Yup, needs to change his handle to gich shneider

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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #448 on: November 23, 2020, 04:37:44 PM »
Hi, I'm "people in the Tampa thread."  :)

I'm not excusing the attitude, the tone, or the member. I'm just trying to rationalize how someone could possibly come to that conclusion.

Nice to meet you :).

I know you were part of that conversation and understand your rationalization but his conclusion makes zero sense.

Yup, needs to change his handle to gich shneider

You are on a roll today.  What a zechus to keep people laughing but what made me laugh even harder was this post from OP (his second post on this forum):

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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #449 on: November 23, 2020, 04:39:32 PM »
Everyone is laughing. What is the joke?

When you became a chossid you were supposed to start understanding all the jokes. ;)

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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #450 on: November 23, 2020, 04:45:21 PM »
When you became a chossid you were supposed to start understanding all the jokes. ;)
I thought I was a hater.  :P
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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #451 on: November 23, 2020, 04:46:18 PM »
I thought I was a hater.  :P
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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #452 on: November 23, 2020, 04:46:25 PM »
I thought I was a hater.  :P
Aren't you both?  :P


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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #454 on: November 23, 2020, 05:14:22 PM »
I thought I was a hater.  :P

And here I thought you were a chossid. Oh well.

Now that I know I am a chossid, what does that mean?

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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #456 on: November 23, 2020, 05:17:03 PM »
Well some people are already advertising Dubai wedding planning (similar to the one held in Greece a while ago, with the collapsed bridge video). Sooner or later that will be the destination for all Rebbishe Chasunos.
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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #457 on: November 23, 2020, 05:20:27 PM »
Well some people are already advertising Dubai wedding planning (similar to the one held in Greece a while ago, with the collapsed bridge video). Sooner or later that will be the destination for all Rebbishe Chasunos.

Yeah sure. Can just picture 7k maskless people on a plane.

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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #458 on: November 23, 2020, 05:26:13 PM »
Yeah sure. Can just picture 7k maskless people on a plane.

1. Chartered.
2. I would assume that if held overseas no everyone who would participate domestically would attend. Though you would have many flights from TLV to attend such a wedding.
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Re: Satmar Wedding 7,000 people during covid
« Reply #459 on: November 23, 2020, 05:29:01 PM »
1. Chartered.
2. I would assume that if held overseas no everyone who would participate domestically would attend. Though you would have many flights from TLV to attend such a wedding.

I was kidding. In all honesty, lots of people wouldn't attend which would defeat the purpose of having a 7k - 10k wedding. I doubt they'd be able to transfer over that size crowd over there.

It would be more than the 50 as per the current limitations for the foreseeable future. But the massive crowds they're used to pulling off over here wouldn't happen there.