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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #40 on: February 18, 2021, 10:49:27 PM »
A few weeks ago, I made a post in a since-deleted thread speaking about bullying and meanness where I pledged to do better. But since then, I've gotten into bitter flame wars for various reasons. Then a few days ago I made use of the ignore user feature and I cannot recommend it enough. It's not a hateful thing, but if the discussions are not being had in a productive, honest way, you're doing yourself a favor by avoiding being goaded or tempted into pointless and endless bickering.

I sometimes struggle with this, as by nature I am naturally argumentative so I'm sure I'm to blame sometimes. However, I don't think anyone enjoys getting into pointless bickering, and many times both sides contribute to the issue.

What I think can help - community managers - kinda like mods, that step in and message the offending parties, gently reminding each side to tone it down and that in the big picture we are all on the same side.
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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #41 on: February 18, 2021, 10:58:44 PM »
What I think can help - community managers - kinda like mods, that step in and message the offending parties, gently reminding each side to tone it down and that in the big picture we are all on the same side.
There are people who occasionally do that here.

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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #42 on: February 18, 2021, 11:18:25 PM »
I thought I was going to open this thread and find people kvetching about how no one wants to spill the sooper sekret methods here anymore and how they PM'ed a hundred people and no one answered them regarding the UPS method. Instead we have another Covid/Politics kvetch thread.

Politics is dirt. You handle dirt, you get muddy.

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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #43 on: February 18, 2021, 11:20:45 PM »
Ironic how people are taking for granted OP meant something he didn't necessarily say.
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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #44 on: February 18, 2021, 11:23:27 PM »

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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #45 on: February 18, 2021, 11:30:47 PM »
Ironic how people are taking for granted OP meant something he didn't necessarily say.
Lol. Still waiting for clarification.

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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #46 on: February 19, 2021, 09:45:48 AM »
aka The Echo Chamber feature

I don't think it's about what is being said, it's about how it is said.

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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #47 on: February 19, 2021, 09:57:30 AM »
Observations:
You can still see other people's quotes from users you're ignoring.
You can't be on your own ignore list.
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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #48 on: February 19, 2021, 10:07:44 AM »

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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #49 on: February 19, 2021, 10:31:12 AM »
You can't be on your own ignore list.

Deep.
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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #50 on: February 19, 2021, 10:52:59 AM »
First this:
they never come close to thinking lower of me than I think of myself.

Then this:
You can't be on your own ignore list.

Can we get a group therapy rate?

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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #51 on: February 19, 2021, 11:07:25 AM »
First this:
Then this:
Can we get a group therapy rate?

I thought that's what this was....
Failing at maintaining Lurker status.

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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #52 on: February 19, 2021, 01:01:24 PM »
I was just wondering if it would work. Come to think of it, though, you don't usually need to
read what you yourself posted and having your posts shortened can mean less to scroll past.
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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #53 on: February 19, 2021, 01:16:54 PM »
In the spirit of respecting our Members, I invite @Dan to deliver a State of the Forums address before a Joint Session of Members on Tuesday, March 7, 2021 in the Chamber of the U.S. House of Zoom.

Your report will inform our efforts to address the people's priorities as well as build a stronger bond and understanding in these dark times.

At that time we shall truly know "The current state of DDF"

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Re: The current state of DDF
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Re: The current state of DDF
« Reply #55 on: February 19, 2021, 01:23:19 PM »
In the spirit of respecting our Members, I invite @Dan to deliver a State of the Forums address before a Joint Session of Members on Tuesday, March 7, 2021 in the Chamber of the U.S. House of Zoom.

Your report will inform our efforts to address the people's priorities as well as build a stronger bond and understanding in these dark times.

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Re: The current state of DDF
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