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Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« on: March 08, 2021, 11:09:41 AM »
Picallow.com allows you to upload and share a picture with a preset time and date that it auto deletes.

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #1 on: March 08, 2021, 11:13:23 AM »
Picallow.com allows you to upload and share a picture with a preset time and date that it auto deletes.

if it doesnt become the "norm" you will be viewed as a stuck up scary IT person :)

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #2 on: March 08, 2021, 11:14:05 AM »
Picallow.com allows you to upload and share a picture with a preset time and date that it auto deletes.
Screenshots don't work?

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #3 on: March 08, 2021, 11:19:04 AM »
Screenshots don't work?
There isn't anyway to stop someone from taking a picture of a picture. I don't think this will solve the problem completely but will make people feel comfortable that their picture isn't being passed around.

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #4 on: March 08, 2021, 11:21:27 AM »
There isn't anyway to stop someone from taking a picture of a picture. I don't think this will solve the problem completely but will make people feel comfortable that their picture isn't being passed around.

Is this a real concern?
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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #6 on: March 08, 2021, 11:33:13 AM »
Once something is online in any format it's there to stay. Period.

Anything that's shared "once" or in "only one group" shall always be assumed to be shared way more than that.
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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #8 on: March 08, 2021, 11:54:05 AM »
Is this the real concern here?

FTFY?

Maybe people wouldn't want to share pics on shidduch resumes even if they somehow had an assurance it wouldn't be screenshotted and/or passed on...

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #9 on: March 08, 2021, 11:58:29 AM »
FTFY

Yea, I was referring to this specific situation. I haven't heard of shidduch pictures being forwarded around, and I don't know that it's the reason people aren't sending shidduch pictures. But I'm out of the loop here, so who knows.
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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #10 on: March 08, 2021, 12:18:15 PM »
FTFY?

Maybe people wouldn't want to share pics on shidduch resumes even if they somehow had an assurance it wouldn't be screenshotted and/or passed on...
Wont solve the crisis but definitely would make people feel more comfortable

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #11 on: March 08, 2021, 12:18:31 PM »
It certainly doesn't address the entire issue, although it may help one facet. But I don't even believe it will help for that. Everyone will just screenshot
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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #12 on: March 08, 2021, 12:20:32 PM »
It certainly doesn't address the entire issue, although it may help one facet. But I don't even believe it will help for that. Everyone will just screenshot
I would be embarrassed to share a pic from a website where it was uploaded specifically to avoid it being passed around

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #13 on: March 08, 2021, 12:26:37 PM »
Pictures being forwarded is the last reason on the list of why people want it abolished.

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #14 on: March 08, 2021, 12:30:20 PM »
I would be embarrassed to share a pic from a website where it was uploaded specifically to avoid it being passed around
If embarrassment was a factor here, we wouldn't be where we are.
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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #15 on: March 08, 2021, 12:30:26 PM »
I would be embarrassed to share a pic from a website where it was uploaded specifically to avoid it being passed around

You're not everyone. Also, fear is irrational and just because someone projects a fear doesn't mean the fear is valid.

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #16 on: March 08, 2021, 12:36:45 PM »
Pictures being forwarded is the last reason on the list of why people want it abolished.
Its not being abolished. It became the norm and is just getting worse!

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #17 on: March 08, 2021, 12:38:43 PM »
It's a symptom of a broader problem, the focus on externals, but it's also a significant problem in its own right. It will take many people simultaneously taking a strong stand for the honor of our girls to stop this.
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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #18 on: March 08, 2021, 01:21:51 PM »
It's a symptom of a broader problem, the focus on externals, but it's also a significant problem in its own right. It will take many people simultaneously taking a strong stand for the honor of our girls to stop this.
Ok, so get with the program. This is not done in certain circles for a reason. If everyone (85%+) agrees that this system is a disgrace, then just put a stop to it.

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Re: Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?
« Reply #19 on: March 08, 2021, 01:27:32 PM »
there are programs that protect content from screenshot
but I don't think that's feasible in browser-based sharing

ETA: screenshotting not necessary here image can be copied/saved as a regular image. meh
« Last Edit: March 08, 2021, 01:30:55 PM by gozalim »