In the Heimish Chassidish circles were people get engaged between 3-5 dates. Going out a second time is almost 50% there.
This was not a public speech, he told it to me personally. He clearly knew I wouldn't be getting engaged after 3 dates.
If someone is physically unattracted or doesn't see it going anywhere after the first date - with all respect to his Rabbi I don't think going out a second time solves anything.
I would take his opinion before even considering yours, and I think everyone here (yourself included) would agree he earned that right.
Pictures can only disguise looks so much. Is it worse psychologically to get a 1st date and not a second one, or is it worse not to get any dates at all?
I think the pain of getting a date only to be turned down after 1 date repeatedly is worse than no date. The rejection is brutal.
My bad, I though the Was that you shouldn't see a picture, as in always see her in person first
I wanted to quote him as accurately as possible. I understood it to mean either in person or a picture, but it's usually not feasible to be able to see her in person. BH it's not nogaya anymore, so I'm not going to ask for a clarification.