Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?

[nucheiner]

+1 at least on the one married daughter.

Good for u both! Its amazing when one can actually see the suitability and appreciate it bh! I stand corrected but that wasn’t the point. While many to  most parents overshoot at least initially (in matters important to them), however when a boy veers slightly from the path and norms of the parents and was mostly away from home for a decade, at times parents aren’t properly gauging their kid. Getting names basically tells them what their kid is about and what is suitable.

Yes suitability is not just important, its not gonna happen if its not accurate. But not all men are created equal and AOC has yet to promise everyone a 10.

Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky has a great series on dating/Shidduchim, applicable to anyone who has the slightest involvement, including taking Shidduch questions, aka everyone. Available on TorahAnytime.

[aygart]

I hope you don't have as long of a break as I had between first and second wedding. Though I can't complain about my wonderful 5 grandchildren I've had since then.

Amein. That is someone dependent on family makeup.

[ExGingi]

Amein. That is someone dependent on family makeup.

Indeed. But I am of the opinion that the boys should also get married young.

[pbf]

See my post here: https://forums.dansdeals.com/index.php?topic=13951.msg2667508#msg2667508

[S209]

In the yeshivish community I populate, it's lower than 30%. However, I'm sure that more than 30% of families have a child that was abused. In the general population, about 16% of kids are abused during childhood. Even if the number is half that in our circles, that's still way over 30% of families.

This is a poor use of statistics. There can easily be a large percentage of abused children who are siblings, not least because a lot of abuse occurs at home. The irony is you are specifically referring to red flags about abuse in the home, certainly your statistics don’t disprove that.