I don't necessarily disagree with any of your points.
I don't know how common you think this issue is. Generalizations like this make two massive mistakes. First, it implies that all men are even capable of such a thing. Second, it implies that men are the only ones who withhold gittin. By smearing all men with these assumptions, you're inadvertently causing the overreaction you're seeing and appalled by here.
I don't think is a common issue, nor would I ever think or say that all men are capable of such things. But it exists.
- Fact checking is great, when you have the ability to know all the facts. The reality is, what goes on in a private relationship is often unable to be fact-checked. Just because a Rov or a BD was given one set of facts and will vouch for those facts, does not mean they have the full picture. There could be a number of reasons why they haven't gotten the full picture. Ultimately, though, an activist fact-checking to confirm a conclusion they've already reached is less than 100% trustworthy.
I don't care what goes in a private relationship. If a man has been called to BD multiple times and won't show up, I am not interested in hearing anything else. Full stop.
- You'll notice that all the stories you've been reading are about women who have been refused gittin. Much like BLM narratives, where only Black men are shot by cops, this causes distrust and bad blood from those on the other side of the narrative.
Of course, because that's the problem. A woman can refuse a get, but firstly, it's the minority, and secondly, it's not as much of a threat to a man as it is to a woman.
Please explain what advantage you believe a man has. In the civil courts, the law is very heavily skewed towards women.
We can't fix one problem by creating another.
Like in the rest of the world, both men and women are capable of playing dirty, and both do. Divorce is the same with or without halacha. Toxic breakups will be ugly. We don't live in a utopia.
Agree
