Note that in my post I allow plenty of room for exceptions, the question is where your gut reaction lies. Get refusal is abusive behavior, it is as clear as day.
You said “if there are cases, it’s one in a thousand”. That’s hardly “plenty of room for exceptions”.
What is your source that get refusal is abuse, clear as day? What makes it automatic abuse? I’m genuinely curious why you and others have taken such a hard stance, I don’t have much personal knowledge of the sugya. I have yet to see a clear explanation of why it’s automatically abuse, other than you saying it confidently.