i thought a good strategy would be to FIRST save up for a "simcha", down payment & rainy day funds BEFORE contributing to retirement accounts, assuming no employee match, as any monies would be locked up till retirement.
what i mean by simcha fund is enough money to cover every bris, bar mitzvah, vort, wedding, sheva berachos and support for my kids. obviously depending on family size and how much you spend, this fund goal can easily be $500k plus.
am i wrong? what's recommended? i would love to max out retirement accounts (incl 529) and make significant contributions to my simcha fund, but its not realistic.