Menschlichkeit Tips and Tricks

[yelped]

I think it's time for a thread where people can give each other tips on to improve their interactions with other people.

Who wants to start?

[TimT]

1)I’m sorry
2)Excuse me
3)Please
4)Thank you

[SSLPhD]

Instead of saying "just kidding" or "lighten up," the correct thing to say is probably, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that; it wasn't very nice." (It's a pet peeve of mine.)

[Euclid]

Instead of saying "just kidding" or "lighten up," the correct thing to say is probably, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that; it wasn't very nice." (It's a pet peeve of mine.)

empathy

[YitzyS]

https://www.amazon.com/Shalom-Secrets-Family-Friends-Childrens/dp/1930640080

This is geared toward children but I think it could really help adults as well

[Shmobaum]

Instead of saying "just kidding" or "lighten up," the correct thing to say is probably, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that; it wasn't very nice." (It's a pet peeve of mine.)

Cancel culture has officially reached DDF

[YitzyS]

I think it's time for a thread where people can give each other tips on to improve their interactions with other people.

Who wants to start?

I'm really curious to know what post drove you to start this thread... 

[Lurker]

Cancel culture has officially reached DDF

I'm not sure you understand what it means to cancel someone.

[yelped]

I'm really curious to know what post drove you to start this thread... 

It was someone who feeds his kids with likes. In other words he raises them with the value that they should be תפארת לאדם לתפארת לעושיה. 

[Euclid]

I'm really curious to know what post drove you to start this thread... 

There are a couple entire boards that could've inspired this thread.

[yelped]

There are a couple entire boards that could've inspired this thread.

Indeed. It was my general observation that as a whole, that is a major factor in all our going-ons that have to be worked on. But that post triggered me to start doing something about it.

I was lucky enough to be raised to try and be considerate of others and sensitive to their needs, but I always catch myself failing (spectacularly sometimes), and we could all use tips on how to stay aware of others, and in general to improve the atmosphere around us wherever we go.

[grodnoking]

Over the past 2 years anytime I have snapped at someone I have apologized soon after, regardless of if I still felt they were wrong. Often I don't realize that I may sound angry or upset, but when thinking about what happened later I realized that I could have came off that way. Sometimes it's even after I have gone to bed when I remember to apologize - I get out and speak to the person or call them. At first I felt embarrassed to go over to people after. But in due course I have realized there is no reason to feel embarrassed, I have never walked away not feeling better, and I have never felt the other person has thought less of me for apologizing.

[TimT]

There are a couple entire boards that could've inspired this thread.

In that case
1)I have my beliefs & you have yours & I respect that & we can all be friends.
2) I vote one way while you vote differently & that’s totally fine & we can still get along.

[yelped]

In that case
1)I have my beliefs & you have yours & I respect that & we can all be friends.
2) I vote one way while you vote differently & that’s totally fine & we can still get along.

Lol. No, that wasn't the point. It's more like how we drive, how we relate to one another, etc. Nothing to do with arguments over which (political) sports team you're a fan of. 

[ckmk47]

Acknowledging little favors with a nod, wave, smile, etc
-When someone holds the door open for you.
-When a car waits for you to cross, even when it's his right-of-way
-When someone steps aside for you.

[YitzyS]

Return emails, messages, and texts in a timely manner. Even if your response is, "I'm busy, but I'll get back to you next week." As long as you don't keep the person hanging.

[jj1000]

Return emails, messages, and texts in a timely manner. Even if your response is, "I'm busy, but I'll get back to you next week." As long as you don't keep the person hanging.

Is saying, I'm busy, but I'll get back to you next week, really an ok response?

Isn't that insulting too? I guess it could depend on the day of the week and the question.

I find it's very much a personality thing, and maybe another thing to note is to not get upset if someone leaves you hanging.

[yuneeq]

Is saying, I'm busy, but I'll get back to you next week, really an ok response?

Isn't that insulting too? I guess it could depend on the day of the week and the question.

I find it's very much a personality thing, and maybe another thing to note is to not get upset if someone leaves you hanging.

Depends on the context, but if it’s an email that needs time to respond to it, it’s absolutely fine. Some emails mean 1 minute of work and others can mean an hour. On a busy day you should definitely push off the non-urgent emails that take time to respond to.

[zh cohen]

Is saying, I'm busy, but I'll get back to you next week, really an ok response?

Isn't that insulting too? I guess it could depend on the day of the week and the question.

I see it as saying "I want to give your email the attention it deserves and that is not possible now." But you are right that it depends on what the question is.

[etech0]

But you are right that it depends on what the question is.

And on how you word your reply