Would like to share my perspective on this. People often ask me for advice and I am happy to offer it. At a certain point it became overwhelming as I got busier but more so as some people started taking advantage and made me feel guilty if I didn’t make myself available at their whim.
I felt that once I’m being forced to offer this chesed, its no longer considered chesed. I was no longer helping these people because I wanted to; I was simply coerced and guilt-tripped into spending countless hours with them.
So I made a policy that I will give anyone 15 minutes of my time free but if they want more than that I charge a consulting fee. This instantly fixed things - people started valuing my time more and not asking me for advice unless they really needed to. And some even hired me a couple times.
Thankfully I’m past that stage; people have better learned to respect my time and I give my time free without ever mentioning consulting.
On the flip side, I have been on the receiving end of many selfless individuals that have given me their valuable time and advice, and it’s really beautiful and underrated how the community is gladly willing to help out each other.