@ plat: your last message is a little hard to swallow.
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Omn another note: I've had 2 guys that I bbm'ed, knowing that its shabbes by them, hoping they would reply motse, but got a reply in shabbes.
Wasn't sure what to do, but immediately replied: sorry its shabbes by, we shall continue this after.
Both guys (that are officially frum) b"H didn't reply.
I have no experience in this field, so if anyone knows what my reaction should be, if it c"v happens again...?