Author Topic: Who will be their Zaidy: The Circle of Life  (Read 2321 times)

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Re: The Circle Of Life
« Reply #20 on: January 18, 2022, 11:36:09 AM »

Some people also don't share all their stories. I have decided to actively try to share with my children as much as possible about my past.
I hope you're writing it down, which is what I wish my great-grandfather had done.  His grandchildren heard his stories, but as adults they each transmitted a different version to the next generation.

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Re: The Circle Of Life
« Reply #21 on: January 18, 2022, 12:25:45 PM »
I hope you're writing it down, which is what I wish my great-grandfather had done.  His grandchildren heard his stories, but as adults they each transmitted a different version to the next generation.

And @ExGingi, make sure someone is recording everything in the shiva house to be transcribed later. The stories that get told and forgotten....

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Re: Who will be their Zaidy?
« Reply #22 on: January 18, 2022, 12:54:17 PM »
I hope you're writing it down, which is what I wish my great-grandfather had done.  His grandchildren heard his stories, but as adults they each transmitted a different version to the next generation.

I am hoping to spend melave malkas over this, so whoever wants to record or write down may do so.
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Re: Who will be their Zaidy: The Circle of Life
« Reply #23 on: January 18, 2022, 01:49:50 PM »
And @ExGingi, make sure someone is recording everything in the shiva house to be transcribed later. The stories that get told and forgotten....
at a Shiva house last week I saw a set of half a dozen mini recorders laying around

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Re: Who will be their Zaidy: The Circle of Life
« Reply #24 on: January 18, 2022, 02:04:40 PM »
does anyone have a template/draft of interview questions for their parents? my parents are also getting older and would love to have them tell over about their life

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Re: Who will be their Zaidy: The Circle of Life
« Reply #25 on: January 18, 2022, 08:13:17 PM »
does anyone have a template/draft of interview questions for their parents? my parents are also getting older and would love to have them tell over about their life
I'd love to do that too (not only their lives but everything they remember from their parents lives) but I'm too embarrassed to ask.
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Re: Who will be their Zaidy: The Circle of Life
« Reply #26 on: January 18, 2022, 09:21:39 PM »
I'd love to do that too (not only their lives but everything they remember from their parents lives) but I'm too embarrassed to ask.
I have found that even the reticent ones open up to the next generation. Maybe have your kids or nieces and nephews ask (sorry I don't know your personal status...).

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Re: Who will be their Zaidy: The Circle of Life
« Reply #27 on: January 18, 2022, 09:40:23 PM »
does anyone have a template/draft of interview questions for their parents? my parents are also getting older and would love to have them tell over about their life

I don't have questions, but the setting is important. As physically and emotionally comfortable, melave malka is great.

Questions should be open ended. Rather than ask what color the sky was, ask them to describe the scene. Then after they say, "the sky was blue, it was sunny and warm, " you can say "can you talk more about how the weather made you feel."

Iow, "what was your uncle's name, and when did he visit?" the answer is "Yaakov, every sukkos". But "what was the feeling in your house when your uncle came?" will get more of a "we were always so excited before sukkos because it meant uncle Yaakov was coming. He brought these toys and tchachkes because he used to sell those on Amazon back in the day."

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Re: Who will be their Zaidy: The Circle of Life
« Reply #28 on: January 18, 2022, 11:22:36 PM »
As ExGingi I can attest to that being true. (My youngest is 4 kah).
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