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I am a survivor of abuse

I tried to type up a longer, more detailed post but it got too hard. The bottom line is the following

There's no such thing as universal feelings, reactions, desires, needs that all victims share. Each one is an individual who suffered alone and carries the unique scars that stay with them and each one will react to future situations in life in their own way.

Therefore, there is no single response to abuse that will leave all victims feeling safe, secure, validated, supported, closure and everything else all the well meaning people here want to give them.

However, I think there is a single response that would leave all victims feeling further pain and trauma and that is "It can't be."

Rabbi Shimon Russell - How to Safeguard and Protect our Children

https://youtu.be/fefqSvXf0JI


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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #1340 on: March 04, 2022, 03:02:38 PM »
I don't know it it was related to these allegations, but he was removed from his position by the place he worked at a while back. There are several others who claim the title Chief Rabbi of Ukraine.
Chabad vs Stolin?

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #1341 on: March 04, 2022, 03:13:36 PM »
Chabad vs Stolin?

FWIU Stolin does not either recognize him

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #1342 on: March 04, 2022, 03:15:26 PM »
I don't know it it was related to these allegations, but he was removed from his position by the place he worked at a while back. There are several others who claim the title Chief Rabbi of Ukraine.
Apparently it was related to the accusations. Though if you ask him he'll say that people are out to get him (like every public person accused of anything has claimed since the dawn of time).

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #1343 on: March 04, 2022, 03:28:10 PM »
Litigate this after the war. Everyone should help now.

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I've been waiting over 5 years with bated breath for someone to say that!
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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #1345 on: March 15, 2022, 09:38:30 AM »
I agree that its a MUST before anyone becomes a licensed parent!

Regarding this topic of how to throw them to the dogs.

Listen to his opening point (at least.): The vast majority of cases are family members, usually young adolescents, abusing a younger child.

So moving forward:

We have this child, now adult who is a wreck and needs urgent help. We need to recognize these cases and get them help.

We need to educate parents how to protect children from these occurrences.

However in these kinds of cases, which are the vast majority (according to Rabbi Russel, a world class professional) in all likelihood this abuser is no longer an active threat to society and probably not a threat at all (I don抰 know the stats or behavior trends). So how do we deal these unlikely repeaters?

Action is certainly necessary for cases where recurrence is possible. And as Rabbi Elefant recently said publicly, it needs to be clear zero tolerance.
https://www.thelakewoodscoop.com/news/2022/03/letter-like-a-stab-in-the-heart.html

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #1346 on: March 16, 2022, 01:05:45 AM »
https://www.thelakewoodscoop.com/news/2022/03/letter-like-a-stab-in-the-heart.html
So sad. Beautiful letter, though (I shouldn't be describing it that way). You can tell the author has amazing Middos.

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #1347 on: March 25, 2022, 10:57:54 AM »

https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1507352301090095106.html


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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #1348 on: June 29, 2022, 10:04:05 AM »
בד׳ה יהודה משי זהב
Regards from henche!