I read your post
Not sure if responding to you is a good way to release my painful emotions or if it will turn into a back and forth, ping-pong, popcorn thread.
I understand that you are furthering a very important agenda.
Of course I know people/of people that have been the victims of sexual abuse and yes, it can lead to extremely destructive results. Of course in the case of a convicted criminal we need to support the victims and not the abuser.
Of course the discussion of where to drew lines and at what point do we publicly need to shame and destroy someone's life in order to protect the past and/or future victims is an important one.
Of course we need to ask ourselves if there is something systemic about our beautiful and (relatively) sheltered society that makes it easier for abusers to operate undetected for years.
Of course we need to ask ourselves how to educate our kids about personal safety without causing them to suspect every teacher and leader.
But can't we wait one week and just be silent? Just let ourselves as a society process and get over the shock without having to drew lines and defend positions? Just let the poor family grieve quietly? Let them try to begin to comprehend what will either way be a devastating tragedy that will terribly impact their lives forever?
Why must we immediately delve into the "true or false" of it where basically none of us has any clue what really did or didn't happen?
Let's come back the (important) factual discussion and all it's repercussions right after the Shiva.
Until then, let's have a safe thread for people to grieve and share their emotions without having to defend or attack anyone.